actually for me - diabetes does not come up unless i bring it up.
why should it? depending upon your will power.  but hey i still go out to
eat
i just eat like a human - time your carbs right so they dont all hit your
system at once.

180 i wish i was 180

And none of them exercise

seems like you are taking control :)

i dont know maybe you have rotten friends.
i actually had a friend 10 years ago whos wife ended up having diabetes.
it wasnt until after i got diabetes that i realized it was what happened to
her about 10 years ago.
her or her husband didnt tell anyone. no i guess they didnt have to - in a
way i kind of wished
they did say something - its a lot easier to realize it can happen to you
when one of your friends get it.

sounds like they are really given you a hard time about it.  why dont you
tell
them it bothers you and ask them to stop bringing it up - unless it is you
that always brings it up.

lol

for me i think it might be a combination of the 2. it was in my family and
and use to pig out alot - the last 10 years i have been very inactive.

i would no doubt tell them to shut the (edit) up.

shoot them

How do you deal with the constant stream of supposedly
sympathetic support offered by friends and family when
they learn that you have diabetes, and proceed to lecture
you about how it's your own fault for eating like a pig
for all these years?

I'm 42, 5'9" and 180, and I'm supposed to be losing 39-40 lbs,
but I'm still thinner than most of them. And none of them exercise
at all - they just sit on their couches and watch TV.  I don't go
to the gym, but I am a little bit active: I teach dance several
nights a week, and I also go out and do pretty aerobic dancing
each weekend.  (Of course, now with this condition, I also go
for a walk every day for at least a mile or two.)
It just doesn't seem fair, and I have never once ever
criticized their utterly sedentary lifestyles!

Besides, don't they remember who I was eating all those dinners
with for the last 20 years?

Some of them also insist on giving me bizarre advice, such as not
to drink diet sodas because that is one of the causes of diabetes.

They never raise their voices when criticizing my condition;
they offer it by way of sympathetic explanation.   But I can
hear the deadly accusations in their tone.

I'm a native American on my mother's side, and my father's mother
had diabetes, and my thin sister had diabetes, and so I tend to
think that I have a genetic predisposition for the disease.

But they can't accept that, and just harp on me about what a
fat pig I've been and now I'm getting the consequences.

I wish there were some way to get them to stop.
I feel bad enough already.