Peppermint Patootie wrote:
> In article <h165l8$ffl$1@news.eternal-september.org>, > Michelle C <bookbug_35@yahoo.com> wrote: > >> Yes, my father has ADD (he's 64 now). Looking back, we know he had ADD as child--back when no one had a clue about it and just thought he was incorrigible. Also highly intelligent. He remembers his dad shouting at him, "Your IQ is higher than mine. How come you can't do your school work?" Pretty much describes the whole issue in a nutshell. The failure of his family to understand (not that they had any resources for understanding ADD back in the 50's) shot the hell out of his self-esteem, which added to the problem.
> Wow. This is so exactly my experience. I was born in 1953. Starting in elementary school my mother would repeatedly back me into a corner. "What do you do these things?" she'd rage, and I had no answer. So they concluded I was lazy, irresponsible, obstinate and, yes, incorrigible, and I had nowhere to go but end up agreeing with them. It's a horrible feeling, to think you have no recourse but to say it's your fault you did those things you had no intention of doing. Wears out any self-esteem you've got. Shame city.
Yep, you've described it exactly.
Surprisingly, since my grandparents have come to live nearby (in a house behind ours), I've realized that my grandpa--my dad's dad--has ADD too. He has trouble following conversations, often goes off on tangents, and frequently fails to acknowledge what was just said, because he's thinking his own thoughts. Looking back over the years, I can see that he's always been this way, but seeing him nearly everyday has brought this home to me.
Unlike my dad who had such trouble in school, my grandpa did okay though. However, his school experience occurred in a one room school house with 13 kids ranging in age from 1st grade to 8th. Much less stressful environment with individualized attention.
My dad's brother shows some symptoms too.
>> He was diagnosed when he was in his 40's, but didn't find adequate medication until his early 50's. He takes the Parkinson's med, seligiline for it.
> I'm on Adderall, which helps a lot, but I may need to fine tune it sometime. I'm starting to have problems at work again.
Although the seligiline is a long-acting med--he takes a tiny dose every 3 days--sometimes, he finds taking a break from it helps him "reset". Of course, the "reset" period has to occur when there isn't much going on that requires his attention.
Michelle C.
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