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Medical Forum / Diseases and Disorders / Arthritis / July 2004Quiet here, so time for a little rant ..
... but not at the group. More a kind of getting-it-off-my-chest domestic firework. Delete if such squabbles don't interest you or never happen in your life ... <rant> People - including so-called family - can be so *inconsiderate*!!!! I haven't been sleeping for the past couple of weeks as a result of my left hip giving me problems. Just getting about is very difficult, but there we go. Or not, as the case may be. But tonight I was first home from work and after putting out the wheely bin (ouch), feeding the dear old dog, and dealing with assorted bits and pieces, I put dinner on (Spag Bol). Ten minutes later, in *she* strolls. I mention that dinner will be ready in a few minutes, but that we need plates from the dishwasher. Our dishwasher is downstairs from the kitchen, so it involves a trip up and down a flight of stairs with a tray. At which point she has the nerve to say "What? You mean no-one's bothered to empty the dishwasher"!! No-one? As in ME??? "Yes," I should have replied, "But No-one's arthritis meant No-one dropped the tray half way up the stairs and our entire collection of plates and cups is now in the wheely bin that I put out earlier." Sadly, I was too damned angry to do that, and only got as far as putting down the saucepans and limping off with a modest "**** it, you can put your OWN dinner out..." BAH! Like I said, people can be SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO inconsiderate. Anyway, glad I got that off my chest - now, anyone up to anything now the weather has improved (or at least it has here in Bristol)? I'm off to Dublin to see Simon and Garfunkel at the weekend, legs permitting. I don't listen to them much these days but I did when I was at school, and this is probably the last chance to see them both live in concert, so it's more a nostalgia thing than anything else. It's being held in the RDS stadium, so just pray it doesn't rain. Come on, tell me all your plans and cheer me up :-) Jim [To email go to my address and take out the dog...] Sorry to hear your rant Jim, not because you made it, but for the reason behind it. I get like that frequently - the kids are still fairly young and hence fairly inconsiderate, and John forgets sometimes. He comes in from work and just wants to sit and have a cuppa and read the paper. I often really resent having to cook every night (my kids eat like navvies), and I feel I shouldn't have to ask for help - it should be there. I don't know how you deal with the resentment, nor how I do for that matter. Sometimes I deal with it well, sometimes really badly. Like all fallings out though, eventually you get over it. The only way I ever get a satisfactory outcome though is (once I'm over the temper and throwing things bit) to sit down and tell them all, calmly, how it is sometimes for me. Fingers crossed that you are feeling better soon, and I hope you get a good night's sleep tonight (and I hope I get one too). In fact, I hope we ALL get one, cos we deserve it. Jayne xxxxx >Sorry to hear your rant Jim, not because you made it, but for the reason >behind it. I get like that frequently - the kids are still fairly young and [quoted text clipped - 12 lines] >night's sleep tonight (and I hope I get one too). In fact, I hope we ALL >get one, cos we deserve it. Hi Jayne Yes, just hearing that other people (like you) feel the same way sometimes cheers me up immensely :-) And I don't feel so bad now, though "we" are definitely not on speaking terms just yet (but that's another story). As for kids. Well, I've got a 20 year old still living here who does go out to earn a living but doesn't yet understand that everyone has to help around the house, even without being asked. Ah well, it's time he got himself a flat if you ask me, and stopped living at home... but that's another story. One thing I would say - asking for help is DEFINITELY a GOOD THING! One of the worst things in the world is thinking that you should be able to cope when you can't - or at least, when coping takes more out of you than is reasonable. I learned that at work, and I apply it at home. Ask your family to help, even in small ways - after all, it brings you together too :) All the best, and thanks for cheering up a grumpy ol' man in times of crisis ... Jim [To email go to my address and take out the dog...] > Hi Jayne > [quoted text clipped - 22 lines] > > [To email go to my address and take out the dog...] Oh I agree about asking for help Jim, and you have to ask properly too, not when you're in the red mist of a bad temper (as I sometimes do). The other side of the coin that irritates me is when people assume I can't do something. Today at work I went to lift a box onto a trolley and a colleague said "leave that Jayne, I'll do it", but I said I was okay, no need. She repeated it twice, getting irate with me, so I just snapped and replied "I'm perfectly fine thank you, leave me alone". I wasn't being ungrateful, but I don't like it if I am capable and someone tries to make out that I'm not, especially in front of a customer - I find it embarrassing. I'm not a total gimp yet, so I do what I can and ask for help when I can't. I was guilty afterwards and thought I should apologise, but then I thought "sod it" and simply explained how I felt to my colleague. Jayne >The other side of the coin that irritates me is when people assume I can't >do something. ... She repeated it twice, getting irate with me, so I just snapped and >replied "I'm perfectly fine thank you, leave me alone". Haha - yep - had that a few times from my boss. Nice guy - but it is possible to be *too* helpful sometimes. I usually say - "No, it's OK thanks - I need some exercise to keep myself fit - I'll shout if I need a hand." Chris R. (back from the dead) >I usually say - "No, it's OK thanks - I need some exercise to keep >myself fit - I'll shout if I need a hand." > >Chris R. (back from the dead) Is that the Butterfly Man from Oxfordshire? Anymore photties of visits to Russia or the like? or have I got the wrong Chris? Welcome back, anyway -- Andy http://www.andyspages.org.uk >Is that the Butterfly Man from Oxfordshire? Anymore photties of visits >to Russia or the like? or have I got the wrong Chris? Hi Andy - the same Chris I have changed my photo gallery around now and I have all my pics at chrisraper . me . uk/gallery/ (take the spaces out around the dots) I've been out and about with my camera a bit this year but the weather has been so changable that it has been tricky to get sunny weather at times when I've been free to get out of the house/office. Did another trip to Russia in March to see my friend out there. Had a very relaxing time around Moscow, not doing very much - but just living there and seeing how Russians live and work in the cold climate. The cold wasn't too much of a problem for me - as it didn't drop lower than -11C at night and the windchill wasn't too bad when we were out. The usual temperature was about -5C at night going up to +5C in the day. However, I did take some wonderful Helle/Hansen Norwegian thermals and they were just incrdible - I'd really recommend them to anyone - you can get them from most outdoor/camping/hiking shops. I was much warmer than my friend who has lived there all her life! On several occassions we had to cuddle together to keep her warm - oh, what a chore!! ;o) Anyone ever been to Croatia? I hear it's a good, cheap and interesting holiday destination. I am after some end of season sun and sand - with some historical interest too. Best wishes, Chris R. >>Is that the Butterfly Man from Oxfordshire? Anymore photties of visits >>to Russia or the like? or have I got the wrong Chris? [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] >chrisraper . me . uk/gallery/ >(take the spaces out around the dots) Wow, you've got a lot of good photo's there Chris. What did you use to put that gallery up? I like the fact you can vote for photo's. I voted for 2 so unless anyone else has voted recently there should be 2 of you in your freddy mercury look alike mode and tashless! -- Andy http://www.andyspages.org.uk On Sun, 18 Jul 2004 13:57:27 +0100, in uk.people.support.arthritis you wrote: >Wow, you've got a lot of good photo's there Chris. What did you use to >put that gallery up? I like the fact you can vote for photo's. I voted >for 2 so unless anyone else has voted recently there should be 2 of >you in your freddy mercury look alike mode and tashless! Hi Andy Yeah - it sure mounts up when you have a pocket-sized digital camera. I take my Nikon 3100 around all over the place and have snapped lots of interesting things. I like putting them on the web - then penfriends of mine around the world can dip in and out as they want. I ditched the Freddy Mercury look a while back and (according to my friends) lost 5-10 years in the process!! LOL All my sites are hosted on a server in the US (www.harveyhosting.com). They had a good deal which let me host up to 10 different sites independently on the same webspace - with server-based email virus and spam scanning too - something that UK providers have been very slack on (IMO) - my NTL account was getting 200-300 spams a day and up to 5 with viruses!! And what was NTL's response? Something like "Warning!!: Spam and viruses are a big problem... er, but... until we work out what to do just use antivirus and spam filtering on your PC..." err... great, thanks very much!! Anyway... </rant> My web host provides a selection of free 3rd-party packages to enhance your site. The one I used for the gallery was "Coppermine Photo Gallery" (http://coppermine.sourceforge.net/). It is free software, written in PHP and using MySQL as the database - you don't have to use my host - you could just download it from sourceforge and then upload it onto your own host and configure it yourself (assuming you have a host that supports MySQL and PHP - most free UK web hosts don't). My provider gives me unlimited MySQL databases (up to the maximum capactity of my hosting package - 1Gb) so it just used up one of those. I haven't changed the look of it at all - that is as it was installed - I like the simplicity of the layout and the facilities. My favourite is the fact that the software produces small and intermediate thumbnails automatically - you just select an album and upload a photo and the site takes care of the rest. Just ask if you have any more questions - or email me at: chris . raper @ hartslock . org . uk (again, without the spaces) Best wishes, Chris R. >Hi Andy > I ditched the Freddy Mercury look a while back and (according to my >friends) lost 5-10 years in the process!! LOL LOL >The one I used for the gallery was "Coppermine Photo >Gallery" (http://coppermine.sourceforge.net/). It is free software, >written in PHP and using MySQL as the database I know sourceforge, they are pretty good. http://www.hotlinks.co.uk/freedomains/ This is the only UK free one (apart from the cost of your dial up calls) I know that supports PHP & MySQL I know what you mean about NTL, alas I don't have that problem now. This is what I use for photo galleries, although I haven't got any posted on the web just now, it's a superb little prog and it's also free. http://jalbum.net/ All for now -- Andy http://www.andyspages.org.uk |
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