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Fred - 18 Mar 2008 17:53 GMT

I am trying to put together a career after a lifetime of chronic sinus
problems. It seems almost like having been in jail for 20 years and
then trying to restart a career. I have been fired from jobs for
nodding off in a business meeting. Sometimes I have had times where I
yawn excessivly - maybe 30 - 40 yawns in a 5 minute period. I have
cracked up a car after a serious drowsy episode. Sometimes it just is
a brain fog where people pick up on your body language. It is a form
of inattentiveness that is like ADD only that it is caused by bad
sinuses. You can't be alert. You run a low grade fever so you don't
feel good. Your sinuses close off in the middle of the night giving
you apnea conditions. You are not mentally alert because you did not
get a good nights sleep. You wake up feeling terrible and you just
try to get through the day. Even though I have had some success in
the labor market and in some carreers, my resume has a lot of gaps in
it and I am hurting trying to compete in todays job market. This
sinus affliction has also been murder on relationships. The women
that I would like would like a man that has a steady job and
benefits. I have lost some long term relationships because of lack of
success and chronic illness. It makes life pretty lonely.

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Fred - 18 Mar 2008 18:16 GMT

> I am trying to put together a career after a lifetime of chronic sinus
> problems. It seems almost like having been in jail for 20 years and
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> benefits. I have lost some long term relationships because of lack of
> success and chronic illness. It makes life pretty lonely.

This is almost like being an alcoholic for the greater part of my
life. I don't drink much. A person who is now dry has the stigma of
explaining an alcoholic past. I just don't know how to overcome
trying to explain the gaps in my lifetime resume.

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Jamffer - 18 Mar 2008 18:54 GMT

Fred, what did the Doctors say? After all these years, don't say that you
haven't seen a Doctor yet.

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Fred - 18 Mar 2008 19:28 GMT

> > I am trying to put together a career after a lifetime of chronic sinus
> > problems. It seems almost like having been in jail for 20 years and
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I have gone to a ton of doctors. The fact is that I was living with a
chronic sinus disease for a very long time. I have been able to open
my sinuses with some chemicals and washing. When the sinus passages
closed, it gave me concentration problems and sleep disorders. It
gave me anxiety problems and I had trouble completing tasks. I am
finally able to concentrate better, sleep better, and not have
bronchial spasm. There is an interesting writeup about the health
problems with those who suffer from "empty nost syndrome". My
symptoms were very similar. Now I am improving. I just don't know
where to go.

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Steven L. - 19 Mar 2008 05:27 GMT

> I have gone to a ton of doctors. The fact is that I was living with a
> chronic sinus disease for a very long time. I have been able to open
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> symptoms were very similar. Now I am improving. I just don't know
> where to go.

This may sound like a shot in the dark, but:

On Craiglist and elsewhere, I have seen personal ads from women who are
also suffering from some chronic illness and/or disability. Many are
very lonely, like you are.

And they would be the ones most likely to understand how your illness is
impacting your professional career choices.

Perhaps you should try to email one or more of them. Become penpals.
Take it from there.

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Fred - 19 Mar 2008 17:57 GMT

> > I have gone to a ton of doctors. The fact is that I was living with a
> > chronic sinus disease for a very long time. I have been able to open
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Thanks for the suggestion. I actually did write to a woman who was an
amputee on craigslist. I have seen women who advertise who have
herpes. I really don't want to deal with someone like that. I guess
I keep on searching. I have a great deal of trouble with organized
religion and don't like churches. Ironically, I have trouble with the
indoor pollution inside a church. People are outgassing everything
form the cigarette smoke particles from their clothing, hair spray,
cologne, moth balls, dry cleaning fluid, and deordant. IN fact, I
think the inside of a church is a dangerous place for a person with
chronic allergy problems to go. Then they is the problems with
religion.......

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Steven L. - 19 Mar 2008 05:24 GMT

I know the feeling, believe me.

There are some good books you can buy from Amazon on living with chronic
illness.

You can try seeing a shrink for antidepressants. But if your feeling
down is malaise caused by a low-level chronic sinus infection,
antidepressants won't help much.

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Murray Grossan - 21 Mar 2008 05:23 GMT

On 3/18/08 9:53 AM, in article
2a552cf7-7519-42e6-8398-e25984a4cda2@a23g2000hsc.googlegroups.com, "Fred"
<fenisz@aol.com> wrote:

Persons who have these symptoms often have sleep apnea. If that is the case,
an immediate cure is available via CPAP.

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