Hello Everyone, I am not sure if this is the right forum or not, but I don't
know where else to go.
I have been seeing my fiance for 6 months now. 2 years ago
he had prostate (non cancerous)removal surgery. This is my first experience
with this. He is able to get an erection, but it does not stay hard very
long, he has not tried viagara yet, or any other option. He said that before
his surgery he had no problems with erections at all, and it is my
understanding, through research, that he should have a better chance of
regaining that ability post surgery. We have only just gotten to that stage
of our relationship. I am just wondering what I can do to help support him
emotionally, and also help with the erection problem as well. He is afraid I
will leave him because of this, and while I can understand why he feels this
way, I plan to stay with him no matter what. So are there any other support
groups that may be of help to me, or any advice here? I have looked at many
websites and done a lot of research on the subject, but was hoping to find
something that would help the wife/fiance support her man through this. Any
advice greatly appreciated! K
Robert - 06 Apr 2004 08:36 GMT
> Hello Everyone, I am not sure if this is the right forum or not, but I don't
> know where else to go.
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> something that would help the wife/fiance support her man through this. Any
> advice greatly appreciated! K
Tell him to try viagra. I don't know why he hasn't tried before. I would
only be guessing as to why that is the case. If I were you I would push him
to try it. It would be unfair for both of you not to do so.
º-- Idea Man --º - 08 Apr 2004 03:16 GMT
"KLS" wrote..
> I am just wondering what I can do to help support him
> emotionally, and also help with the erection problem as well. He is afraid I
> will leave him because of this, and while I can understand why he feels this
> way, I plan to stay with him no matter what.
You sound like a very nice lady.
Emotional support is the most important thing in this situation so be
supportive with him and keep reassuring him your not going to leave until he
believes you. I bet he feels very insecure right now and it's probably
because he's concerned for you too. Patients is needed.
There are many things you two can do to get to a comfortable place again,
but I suggest you post to the ( sci.med.prostate.cancer ) group. There they
deal with impotence and will have a lot of great advice! A lot of nice
people too!. Here is the link:
http://groups.google.ca/groups?hl=en&lr=&ie=UTF-8&group=sci.med.prostate.cancer
Best of luck.

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KLS - 08 Apr 2004 04:09 GMT
Thanks so much, everyone here has been so helpful and friendly. I will go to
the other group and get some input there as well. And you are right, it does
seem to be more of an emotional thing with him,He says he is letting me
down, and that he is so afraid I will not want to stay with him, and I have
assurred him I will. , But I know that is something he will have to realize
on his own. He is a wonderful man, and I am not going to lose him over this!
Thanks again! Koreena
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| deal with impotence and will have a lot of great advice! A lot of nice
| people too!. Here is the link:
http://groups.google.ca/groups?hl=en&lr=&ie=UTF-8&group=sci.med.prostate.cancer
| Best of luck.
º-- Idea Man --º - 08 Apr 2004 07:02 GMT
"KLS" < wrote..
> Thanks so much, everyone here has been so helpful and friendly. I will go to
> the other group and get some input there as well. And you are right, it does
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> on his own. He is a wonderful man, and I am not going to lose him over this!
> Thanks again! Koreena
Your welcome.

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