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Medical Forum / Diseases and Disorders / Prostate BPH / April 2004Questions concerning sex after my fiance's surgery
Hello Everyone, I have been seeing my fiance for 6 months now. 2 years ago he had prostate (non cancerous)removal surgery. This is my first experience with this. He is able to get an erection, but it does not stay hard very long, he has not tried viagara yet, or any other option. He said that before his surgery he had no problems with erections at all, and it is my understanding, through research, that he should have a better chance of regaining that ability post surgery. We have only just gotten to that stage of our relationship. I am just wondering what I can do to help support him emotionally, and also help with the erection problem as well. He is afraid I will leave him because of this, and while I can understand why he feels this way, I plan to stay with him no matter what. So are there any other support groups that may be of help to me, or any advice here? I have looked at many websites and done a lot of research on the subject, but was hoping to find something that would help the wife/fiance support her man through this. Any advice greatly appreciated! K > Hello Everyone, I have been seeing my fiance for 6 months now. 2 years ago > he had prostate (non cancerous)removal surgery. This is my first experience [quoted text clipped - 11 lines] > something that would help the wife/fiance support her man through this. Any > advice greatly appreciated! K Hi K, Your fiance is a lucky Dude to have you as a partner. This group deals with those who have an enlarged, (swollen) Prostate. It seems that I can't be more helpfull, but please continue to visit here and keep us informed. jr Thanks, I wasn't sure where to go. He is so concerned about it and I just want to reassure him that I will help him work through it, I do appreciate the answer! Koreena | > Hello Everyone, I have been seeing my fiance for 6 months now. 2 years ago | > he had prostate (non cancerous)removal surgery. This is my first experience [quoted text clipped - 17 lines] | seems that I can't be more helpfull, but please continue to visit here | and keep us informed. jr > Thanks, I wasn't sure where to go. He is so concerned about it and I just > want to reassure him that I will help him work through it, I do appreciate > the answer! Koreena Try this newsgroup: sci.med.prostate.cancer Why has he not tried Viagra? The stuff works for me and most of my old friends. Maybe his urologist warned against it, but if not, it's worth a try. In any event, keep your chin up and let us know how things work out. Terry > Hello Everyone, I have been seeing my fiance for 6 months now. 2 years ago > he had prostate (non cancerous)removal surgery. This is my first experience [quoted text clipped - 11 lines] > something that would help the wife/fiance support her man through this. Any > advice greatly appreciated! K I assume your fiance had a TURP op not PVP The problems of erection and impotence after TURP are widely known but the blasted doctors who perform the surgury do not bother to tell the poor patients Equally it could be your fiance has a mental phychological block and fears that because of surgury he cannot maintain an erection I had PVP 9 months ago and I have no problems whatever ........i ran like hell from a bastard uro who claimed TURP had no side effects Thanks all for the great advice! I do think he intends to try Viagra, but at this point, we are having so much fun with foreplay (at least I am Ha Ha) we haven't progressed to that point yet. I do know he has heard from a friend of his that Viagra can cause a painful "permanent" erection, but I have done some research on it, and it seems a very remote possibility. Again, thanks for the help, I will let you know how it works out! K | > Hello Everyone, I have been seeing my fiance for 6 months now. 2 years ago | > he had prostate (non cancerous)removal surgery. This is my first [quoted text clipped - 30 lines] | I had PVP 9 months ago and I have no problems whatever ........i ran like | hell from a bastard uro who claimed TURP had no side effects There is an impotence newsgroup. However, not all the services providing the newsgroup messages carry it. You can find it on Google under the heading Newsgroups as I recall. There is a whole range of things that can be done to assist him having a functional erection. Meds, creams, shots, and so on. My provider dropped that newsgroup. > Hello Everyone, I have been seeing my fiance for 6 months now. 2 years ago > he had prostate (non cancerous)removal surgery. This is my first experience [quoted text clipped - 11 lines] > something that would help the wife/fiance support her man through this. Any > advice greatly appreciated! K Hi, just surfing through and saw this thread. The newsgroup you seek is alt.support.impotence. Alternatively, if your newsreader doesn't support that group, the same folks who started ASI also run a yahoo group at http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/Alt-Support-Impotence-ASI/ which has similar content and many cross-over posters. A "sister" group exists at yahoo for partners of men experiencing ED, whatever the origin: http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/supportEDpartners/ Hope that's of help. Sue ========================================================= > There is an impotence newsgroup. However, not > all the services providing the newsgroup messages [quoted text clipped - 28 lines] > Any > > advice greatly appreciated! K |
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