Dear JorgeLuis,

You didn't mention whether or not your problems are after
cunninglingus with  anyone, or if you just have one partner. Could
make a huge difference.  If you have the problem with *anyone*, it
sounds as though you might have some sort of allergy. Although, if it
occurs with just one partner, it may also be an allergy.

Secondly, (and the first thing I would do if it hasn't already been
done), is to get myself checked out for STDs. Naturally, all of  your
partners should also be checked.  If you are only getting the
symptoms from 1 partner, it's possible she has something specific
wrong  with her that  is somehow filtering through. Of course, the
first thing that came to mind is the most difficult to bring up, but
here  goes - perhaps your partner isn't as fastidious hygene-wise as
she ought to be. I know you're congested, so perhaps you can't tell
if she has an odor? Perhaps you can make a game of washing each other
before sex ?

Hope this helps,
Lynn

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