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D K - 06 Mar 2004 22:19 GMT
I am a 48 year old white male with type 2 diabetes currently recovering
from foot ulcers. I haven't seen a doctor for quite some time but now
have a new one. I've never had physical.

How do I tell my doctor that I do not want one. I know that I have the
right to refuse any procedure. All I need help with is controlling my
blood glucose levels. I feel a great deal of anxietry about stripping
naked (well, I guess I'd be wearing one of those stupid hospital gowns)
and being intimately examined. I've never been a person who is
comfortable with being touched. I don't even like getting my hair cut.

So why should I submit to a physical? I bet the stress would raise my BG
levels.
Howard McCollister - 06 Mar 2004 22:47 GMT
> I am a 48 year old white male with type 2 diabetes currently recovering
> from foot ulcers. I haven't seen a doctor for quite some time but now
[quoted text clipped - 9 lines]
> So why should I submit to a physical? I bet the stress would raise my BG
> levels.

I can't decide if this is a troll or not. In the event that it's not, let me
offer the observation that no competent physician would EVER agree to keep
you as a patient if you refuse him/her the most important aspect of your
health care (physical exam)...especially in someone who has such a dangerous
disease in a very advanced stage.

Maybe you should start with explaining your anxieties to your doctor, with
an aim toward the appropriate medication and a referral for counseling for a
serious psychological issue that is endangering your health.

HMc
David Rind - 07 Mar 2004 04:47 GMT
>>I am a 48 year old white male with type 2 diabetes currently recovering
>>from foot ulcers. I haven't seen a doctor for quite some time but now
[quoted text clipped - 21 lines]
>
> HMc

I, too, was unsure if this was a troll. That said, I've cared for
all sorts of people who limited my ability to care for them
in ways that I viewed as important, including caring for someone
with diabetes and hypertension who only wanted me to follow his
blood tests and check his blood pressure.

There are things that will make me refuse to care for someone,
but in general I try to work with what patients will allow. If
someone is morbidly obese, for instance, but says that if I keep
talking about their weight that they can't stand coming in to see
me, I'll generally agree not to talk about their weight -- or at
least only raise the issue once a year, perhaps.

I agree with Dr. McCollister, though, that in the situation described
above (if not a troll) it sounds like there might be some
pretty important psychological issues interfering with care -- I would
try very hard to get someone like this into counseling.

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PF Riley - 07 Mar 2004 16:15 GMT
>There are things that will make me refuse to care for someone,
>but in general I try to work with what patients will allow. If
>someone is morbidly obese, for instance, but says that if I keep
>talking about their weight that they can't stand coming in to see
>me, I'll generally agree not to talk about their weight -- or at
>least only raise the issue once a year, perhaps.

You'd better be documenting very thoroughly and precisely what you and
such a patient say to each other about this, then,, since I'm sure you
heard about that a.shole family that sued a doctor for "failing" to
prevent the fat, lazy patient from having a fatal heart attack.

PF
Howard McCollister - 07 Mar 2004 17:28 GMT
> >There are things that will make me refuse to care for someone,
> >but in general I try to work with what patients will allow. If
[quoted text clipped - 7 lines]
> heard about that a.shole family that sued a doctor for "failing" to
> prevent the fat, lazy patient from having a fatal heart attack.

Yes, careful documentation in such a circumstance is crucial if a physician
decides to continue caring for someone who sets important aspects of his
medical care as being off limits. That "fear of physical exam" itself
probably represents significant pathology that must be documented, along
with an appropriate treatment plan (also carefully documented).

I'm sure we all deal with non-compliant patients on a daily basis, but I
personally think it unwise to persist medical care in a patient who ties his
physician's hands behind his back to the extent that he wouldn't even allow
a physical exam. Particularly someone who has end-stage type II diabetes.

HMc
David Rind - 07 Mar 2004 18:28 GMT
>>There are things that will make me refuse to care for someone,
>>but in general I try to work with what patients will allow. If
[quoted text clipped - 9 lines]
>
> PF

Agreed.

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D K - 08 Mar 2004 02:30 GMT
No, I'm not a troll. But there are certain aspects of of a physical,
like the DRE and genital exam, that I'm very uncomfortable with. There's
no history of prostate cancer in my family. I have a very hard time
believing that I'm the only one who's ever had any anxiety over this.
I'll grudgingly submit to the rest of it if I absolutely have to. I
gladly give all the blood for testing that's asked for.

"Submit" is how I feel about it because if I refuse to "submit" I'll
probably have to find another doctor. I'm a customer and should have a
voice in choosing which services I want to buy and which I don't. I have
that choice with my car or house.  

Since the foot ulcer problem I've been very diligent about watching my
BG levels and diet. Today my numbers were 6:00am - 78, 12:30pm -124, and
6:30pm - 104. Once or twice a month I'll mess up, eat too much, and hit
250 or so but generaly my numbers are good and the ulcers are healing.
I've also managed to lose 12 pounds in the last 3 weeks. Blood pressure
is also fine. Last test was 120/78 at 10:00am. The doc was also
surprised that my cholesterol was fine ... both LDL and HDL.

I've never smoked or used any illegal drugs and only have about 3
alcoholic drinks (light beer) per week, if that.  

As for seeking psychological help I've never believed in any of that
psycho-babble garbage. I certainly don't plan on taking any mood
altering drugs. I'm fully aware of what my disease can do to me and that
my recent ulcer problems are the result of my screw-up and no one elses.
From now on I'll always work to keep my BG in line.
taurusrc@aol.com - 08 Mar 2004 03:46 GMT
I would assume that you could ask the doctor to skip the genital and DRE.  I
never get those and have had no problems with the doctor.

I quit having the pap smear several years ago  and  never had a DRE until last
year when the doctor talked me into it because she said everyone should have one
once a year to check for any blood.   I probably will skip it the next time the
doctor proposes to do it.  She checked me and said she found a miniscule amount
of blood which was probably due to the rare steak I had the day before but she
wanted to do a colonoscopy to see if there was anything wrong.  I passed on that
one.  Then I looked it up on the internet and found information that to prepare
for the DRE test, one should not take iron supplements or eat red meats several
days before the test.  Other things can also affect the results of the test.
See:

http://www.reutershealth.com/wellconnected/doc55.html

Ora

>No, I'm not a troll. But there are certain aspects of of a physical,
>like the DRE and genital exam, that I'm very uncomfortable with. There's
[quoted text clipped - 24 lines]
>my recent ulcer problems are the result of my screw-up and no one elses.
>From now on I'll always work to keep my BG in line.
MB - 08 Mar 2004 04:41 GMT
Look D.K:

Unfortunately there are diseases that we are subject to. Do you truly want
to RISK your life this way. An annual DRE along with a PSA test will help
screen for prostate cancer. That cancer has no early symptoms so you might
feel great. But if you get PC, wouldn't it be great to find it very early
via the aforementioned tests?

Believe me, the discomfort or whatever of a brief physical is far less than
the suffering from PC!

Mel

> No, I'm not a troll. But there are certain aspects of of a physical,
> like the DRE and genital exam, that I'm very uncomfortable with. There's
[quoted text clipped - 24 lines]
> my recent ulcer problems are the result of my screw-up and no one elses.
> From now on I'll always work to keep my BG in line.
occupant - 23 Mar 2004 03:49 GMT
It all depends on how you want to live your life.  The average life is
20,000 days.   Lots of peopla are dying by their mid 70s.  Do you want o
be on pills or be cut up and have chemo?  Some do.  Some don't.   Some
people just want to live the best normal life they can.  Whent the time
comes that it.  Others want every treatment they can get.  It is very
presonal.

 

> Look D.K:
>
[quoted text clipped - 37 lines]
> > my recent ulcer problems are the result of my screw-up and no one elses.
> > From now on I'll always work to keep my BG in line.
Carey Gregory - 08 Mar 2004 04:49 GMT
>I have a very hard time
>believing that I'm the only one who's ever had any anxiety over this.

Of course you aren't.  You're not unusual in the least.  (What, you thought
the rest of us LIKE physicals?!)

You also won't be unusual when I find you dead with your hysterical family
screaming at me to do something about it.  It will be early morning when
they wake up and find you.  Maybe in bed, but more likely on the bathroom
floor.  Either way you'll probably be naked or have your drawers down around
your ankles.  It's always somewhere inconvenient and embarrassing, and
there's usually vomit and poop involved.  

The good news is that everyone will be experiencing a lot of anxiety except
you.  You'll definitely miss that part, so your strategy just might work.
It often does.
Howard McCollister - 08 Mar 2004 05:08 GMT
> >I have a very hard time
> >believing that I'm the only one who's ever had any anxiety over this.
[quoted text clipped - 12 lines]
> you.  You'll definitely miss that part, so your strategy just might work.
> It often does.

Thanks Carey, for that rather graphic imagery :)  Unfortunately, it's a very
accurate description of the final moments of all-too-many people.

And by the way, D.K., do you think doctors enjoy doing a DRE any more than
you like having them?

And to the female poster who quit getting DRE's...I'll be concerned about
that when you grow a prostate gland.

HMc
Beachhouse - 08 Mar 2004 05:46 GMT
> And to the female poster who quit getting DRE's...I'll be concerned about
> that when you grow a prostate gland.
>
> HMc

a DRE is considered to be part of colorectal cancer screening...  even in a
female.
PF Riley - 08 Mar 2004 07:40 GMT
>> And to the female poster who quit getting DRE's...I'll be concerned about
>> that when you grow a prostate gland.
>
>a DRE is considered to be part of colorectal cancer screening...  even in a
>female.

What happened to smearing your turd on a card at home and mailing it
in?

PF
Steven Bornfeld - 08 Mar 2004 14:00 GMT
>>>And to the female poster who quit getting DRE's...I'll be concerned about
>>>that when you grow a prostate gland.
[quoted text clipped - 6 lines]
>
> PF

    SHHHH!!--the postal service may be watching!

Steve
Beachhouse - 08 Mar 2004 21:16 GMT
notice that i said "part" of screening.
the exam can pick up a rectal mass -- particularly important in someone who
is having rectal bleeding.

> >> And to the female poster who quit getting DRE's...I'll be concerned about
> >> that when you grow a prostate gland.
[quoted text clipped - 6 lines]
>
> PF
Steven Bornfeld - 08 Mar 2004 14:05 GMT
> No, I'm not a troll. But there are certain aspects of of a physical,
> like the DRE and genital exam, that I'm very uncomfortable with. There's
[quoted text clipped - 7 lines]
> voice in choosing which services I want to buy and which I don't. I have
> that choice with my car or house.  

    To a certain extent you do.  But if you wish to build a house in most
areas of the country the construction must adhere to certain codes.
Some aspects of car construction are regulated by law.  You must have
your car inspected periodically if you wish to drive it, and the
requirements of inspection are stipulated by state law.
    On the other hand, the physician examining you has a license granting
him/her the priviledge of practice.  A physician has a responsibility
for the health of the patients he/she treats, and the patient cannot
legally obsolve him/her of that responsibility.

Steve

> Since the foot ulcer problem I've been very diligent about watching my
> BG levels and diet. Today my numbers were 6:00am - 78, 12:30pm -124, and
[quoted text clipped - 12 lines]
> my recent ulcer problems are the result of my screw-up and no one elses.
> From now on I'll always work to keep my BG in line.
InquiringMind@earthnerd.net - 09 Mar 2004 05:44 GMT
>> "Submit" is how I feel about it because if I refuse to "submit" I'll
>> probably have to find another doctor. I'm a customer and should have a
>> voice in choosing which services I want to buy and which I don't. I have
>> that choice with my car or house.  

>    To a certain extent you do.  But if you wish to build a house in most
>areas of the country the construction must adhere to certain codes.

Poor analogy. Most of the time the construction codes are designed to
keep the trades and unions employed and others out of their
monopolistic industries (sound a little like medicine?) but there is
an valid argument that some aspects of the house's construction are
safety concerns for visitors, neighbors, etc. IOW they don't purely
affect you but your health is ONLY your concern.

>Some aspects of car construction are regulated by law.  You must have
>your car inspected periodically if you wish to drive it, and the
>requirements of inspection are stipulated by state law.

Another poor analogy. You drive your vehicle on the public roads in
common with others thus we (the others) have a right to see that your
vehicle is not likely to cause us injury (for ex: bad brakes) or
damage the commonly owned environment (pollution controls). Whether
the OP wishes to consult a physician or submit to a series of tests is
his decision and NO ONE else's.

>    On the other hand, the physician examining you has a license granting
>him/her the priviledge of practice.  A physician has a responsibility
>for the health of the patients he/she treats, and the patient cannot
>legally obsolve him/her of that responsibility.

A physician, just the same as any other tradesman, does what his
master (the client) requires. Much as the physician would like to
claim some near-divine status his job is in principle really no
different than that of (say) the plumber:

You call the plumber and tell him that your toilet is backed up. He
arrives, looks at the problem, tells you that there's a blockage in
the main stack and advises using a snake. You agree (for a price) and
he snakes the stack and solves your problem.

--BUT--

If the plumber wants to tear out your antique mantel to find out the
cause, you tell him to go find some other house to tear out. If in the
course of using the snake the plumber negligently breaks through the
walls of the sewer you have every right to have him make you whole
financially. You cannot expect him to do something illegal (or against
that code) such as connecting the inlet water to the DWV, nor if you
don't allow him to look at the sewer/stack/toilet and do some probing
can you expect an accurate estimate of the cost.

--which is just the same with medicine (except the stakes are
higher)--

The OP doesn't want the physician to look at and probe his prostate
(the antique mantel or similar) hence he can't expect the physician to
diagnose anything that would normally be found thereby but if he does
and the physician doesn't find a cancerous lump that he should
(similar to the negligence of the plumber) then the physician gets to
pay out the big bucks in compensation. Similar to inlet to the DWV the
customer can't require the physician to break the law (say prescribe
morphine without a good reason) but where there's no specific
prohibition he should be able to insist on his way (after appropriate
explanation of the alternatives by the physician).

Remember: The physician works for you; if you don't like what he does
fire him.
anon - 09 Mar 2004 12:19 GMT
> Poor analogy. Most of the time the construction codes are designed to
> keep the trades and unions employed and others out of their
> monopolistic industries (sound a little like medicine?)

Jesus Christ, you gotta love conspiracy theorists, don't you? Never
mind that construction codes keep buildings from falling on your head,
spontaneously combusting, etc. No, it's just another evil plot by The
Man. Get professional help, a.shole.

> Another poor analogy. You drive your vehicle on the public roads in
> common with others thus we (the others) have a right to see that your
> vehicle is not likely to cause us injury (for ex: bad brakes) or
> damage the commonly owned environment (pollution controls).

Don't you mean to say that it's a vast conspiracy by The
Governmental-Legal Conglomerate to generate revenue at taxpayer
expense, and fleece the pockets of undeserving corporate and government
officials? I know you were thinking it.

> A physician, just the same as any other tradesman, does what his
> master (the client) requires.

You obviously have no idea what you're talking about. But then, we
already knew that.

> Much as the physician would like to
> claim some near-divine status his job is in principle really no
> different than that of (say) the plumber:

First of all, anybody who's stupid enough to compare physicians and
plumbers deserves contempt, since they're completely oblivious of the
obvious difference in consequences between a wet floor from a clogged
toilet and *death* from a clogged artery. It's not a subtle difference,
you clueless turd. And the big flaw in that analogy from a financial
point of view? You have a contract with a plumber, not some faceless
insurance company. You pay the plumber in full at the time of service,
and guess what...the plumber actually gets paid appropriately for the
work he does! If it's after hours, you pay through the nose. And how
many plumbers have to carry malpractice insurance to the tune of
several million dollars per year, increasing each and every year while
their reimbursement shrinks and their cost of doing business increases,
yet are legally prevented from increasing their fees to compensate? In
a capitalist market, a plumber can increase his/her fees to offset any
increase in their costs, yet physicians cannot, as reimbursement is
dependent on the amount that insurance companies and Medicare/Medicaid
will agree to pay. Americans seem to want to force medicine into a
capitalist consumer model, but at the same time they still expect
everything to be free. You can't have it both ways.
InquiringMind@earthnerd.net - 10 Mar 2004 07:22 GMT
>> Poor analogy. Most of the time the construction codes are designed to
>> keep the trades and unions employed and others out of their
>> monopolistic industries (sound a little like medicine?)

>Jesus Christ, you gotta love conspiracy theorists, don't you? Never
>mind that construction codes keep buildings from falling on your head,
>spontaneously combusting, etc. No, it's just another evil plot by The
>Man. Get professional help, a.shole.

It amazes me that so many supposed physicians-- you, Harris, Riley,
Howard, the Chinese cardiologist, CBI, etc-- have so much time to
argue their points on usenet. Obviously their job frustrates them so
instead of calmly addressing the issue they (or in this case anon)
resort to name-calling. Physician heal thyself!

As to the point in question, if you don't believe me maybe you should
check out the codes themselves and ask yourself what level of risk
this or that element of the code is eliminating and then consider for
what other reason the code might exist. For example (since we used a
plumbing example) for many years the building code in NYC (a heavily
unionized and guild-ized city) required the use of cast iron and
poured lead joints for all DWV despite the fact that the rest of the
country and especially those non-unionized non-guild areas had long
ago changed to PVC.

For your information PVC is so much easier to install that anyone can
do it and in time it costs (varying estimates) from a fifth to a tenth
of the time to install as does cast iron. That means a fifth to a
tenth of the plumber's time and the risk that some unlicensed handyman
might do the job. But those weren't the reasons advanced for the code
provision. Nah, it was that PVC might crack under tension and spill
live sewage all over the place or that the PVC might degrade and
crumble in sunlight or that fire might burn the PVC releasing toxic
chlorine gas and killing the inhabitants (images of troops in WW1 were
frequently used).

Of course there's a smidgen of truth in all three. PVC does crack
under tension but usually it's a tiny crack or a huge bang and it will
be immediately visible to the installer. It does degrade in sunlight
and crumbles but few DWV lines are in sunlight, the only part is
usually that that pokes through the roof and everyone recommends
painting that part. Even if you don't the deterioration will be very
slow and if totally ignored the symptom of slow pipes will point to a
need for replacement. And the question of chlorine gas? If you're
worried about a small quantity of piping behind one-hour-rated
sheetrock instead of that PVC-covered furniture out in the open your
priorities are out of kilter. To get to the pipes, flashover would
have had to occur and you'd be dead anyway.

No one (at least not on the guild side) pointed out that cast iron
rusts and crumbles and that it too can crack under stress and that
there's some risk to both the homeowner and the plumber in pouring hot
lead joints from the fumes and the burns.. and then there's the
instances of fire where the lead heater is overturned...  

Well eventually, with so many home owners and handymen simply ignoring
the code and putting in PVC and even plumbers using it (they didn't
like pouring lead either) the Board of Estimate (who are responsible
for the code in NYC) wilted and allowed PVC for dwellings up to three
stories in height. Commercial establishments and apartment buildings
still have to use cast iron but I believe they're now permitted no-hub
couplings. You see plumbers don't make too much from individuals but
they need to keep the businesses where the real bucks are.

Should I go on about the current fight over unvented gas space heaters
(they threaten not only the HVAC people but the gas suppliers), or BX
vs NM, or the use of PEX, or flexible gas connectors, or arc-fault
circuit breakers? Nah...

The epidemiologists had their moment of glory in London with the
cholera-contaminated well, the FDA in driving the real snake-oil
salesmen out of business and cleaning up the slaughter houses in the
early 1900's, and most building codes in stopping the obvious hidden
dangers in the first half of the twentieth century but all have taken
on a life of their own to preserve various vested interests. No
conspiracy theories, just fact.

>> Another poor analogy. You drive your vehicle on the public roads in
>> common with others thus we (the others) have a right to see that your
>> vehicle is not likely to cause us injury (for ex: bad brakes) or
>> damage the commonly owned environment (pollution controls).

>Don't you mean to say that it's a vast conspiracy by The
>Governmental-Legal Conglomerate to generate revenue at taxpayer
>expense, and fleece the pockets of undeserving corporate and government
>officials? I know you were thinking it.

And just how would you know that? Oh, I know, it's that god-like
characteristic which seems to afflict most physicians after a while.
Naturally being deified you can read the minds of the supplicant,
er...patient.. as he grovels for a tiny bit of relief from his pain.
Doesn't work over the internet.

As to the point, I'm simply saying that it's perfectly reasonable to
require a car-owner to submit his vehicle for inspection to the
appropriate authority: it's not reasonable to require him to submit to
the physician's wishes no matter how well intentioned. Fortunately we
have yet to descend to the level of the old Soviet Union where if you
didn't agree with the state, you must be nuts and therefore subject to
compulsory medication...in your best interests of course.

>> A physician, just the same as any other tradesman, does what his
>> master (the client) requires.

>You obviously have no idea what you're talking about. But then, we
>already knew that.

If you say so.

>> Much as the physician would like to
>> claim some near-divine status his job is in principle really no
>> different than that of (say) the plumber:

>First of all, anybody who's stupid enough to compare physicians and
>plumbers deserves contempt, since they're completely oblivious of the
>obvious difference in consequences between a wet floor from a clogged
>toilet and *death* from a clogged artery. It's not a subtle difference,
>you clueless turd.

Hmmm, "clueless turd" eh? I hope your beside manner is a little better
than it would appear from your writing skills.

Consequence has nothing to do with it. The question is really "Who
decides?" You and your friends seem to think that you have some
control: I say the customer has the sole right of decision.

> And the big flaw in that analogy from a financial
>point of view? You have a contract with a plumber, not some faceless
[quoted text clipped - 11 lines]
>capitalist consumer model, but at the same time they still expect
>everything to be free. You can't have it both ways.

Is this why you're so hot under the collar? The big bucks? Hmmm... if
the OP had no money and no insurance would you be so keen in giving
him a DRE? No? Just natural selection at work I suppose.

As to your overall point, you're wrong. A mixed system is quite
possible and feasible. What it's doing to you with a tiny bit of
competitive free market is to drive your income down to a more
realistic level. You may not see it as realistic and in fact may feel
stiffed because you spent all that time at medical school and all
those bucks and all those underpaid hours as an intern but the facts
are that the earnings of lots of physicians are way way beyond what
Mr. Average sees as reasonable and the way to get them down is a
little old-fashioned competition.

Oh yeah, there's a little problem with the competition. It's not quite
like other businesses where you compete to gain market share and
increase profits by providing better service to the public. Here
there's an intermediary, the insurance company. I and my employer pay
big bucks every month so that the insurance company will find the best
value for money in physicians (I happen to pay a lot more than I use;
it's by no means free). But unfortunately for you, you're finding that
they're bigger than you are. You went from a non-compete nice little
god-like situation having banker's hours to... whoosh... being
pressured by the monopolistic insurance company (effectively) on
behalf of the powerless customer. Couldn't happen to a nicer group.  

You could do what the French do: go on strike. Or you could pressure
the government to make those big bad insurance companies pay you more
money. Unfortunately medical charges are not viewed too kindly these
days for which state of affairs you can thank Big Pharma (for whom you
work anyway <g>). Or you can just rue the day you decided to become a
physician (you should have been born 20 years earlier or become a
plumber <g>) and say "Serves them right" when the medical schools are
no longer graduating new doctors and the public has to line up for
days to have a DRE. Or, maybe you should consider medicine a calling
instead of a business. We haven't had too many Albert Schweitzer's in
the last few years. Either way customers (patients to you) are going
to get more rights, insurance companies are going to squeeze you even
more, and ungrateful SOB's such as myself are going to irritate the
hell out of you.
anon - 10 Mar 2004 23:32 GMT
> It amazes me that so many supposed physicians-- you, Harris, Riley,
> Howard, the Chinese cardiologist, CBI, etc-- have so much time to
> argue their points on usenet.

It doesn't take a lot of time to detect bullshit and call it so.

> Physician heal thyself!

UseNet troll, f.ck thyself.
Steven Bornfeld - 09 Mar 2004 13:50 GMT
>>>"Submit" is how I feel about it because if I refuse to "submit" I'll
>>>probably have to find another doctor. I'm a customer and should have a
[quoted text clipped - 64 lines]
> Remember: The physician works for you; if you don't like what he does
> fire him.

    Your answer is so spectacularly wrong both in substance and in ethics
that I can't begin to answer.  I think anon reflects my feelings very well.
    The only sensible thing you say is that if you don't like what your
physician does (and cannot get a reasonable explanation) you should get
another.  The chances are you'll eventually find a physician who'll do
what you want.  You'll probably deserve each other.

Steve
anon - 08 Mar 2004 23:49 GMT
> No, I'm not a troll. But there are certain aspects of of a physical,
> like the DRE and genital exam, that I'm very uncomfortable with.

Believe, me it's no more fun for me (the doctor) than it is for you. If
anything, the view is decidedly worse.  ;-)

> There's
> no history of prostate cancer in my family.

Nor is there in the majority of patients who have prostate cancer.

> I have a very hard time
> believing that I'm the only one who's ever had any anxiety over this.

You're not. The question is, are you going to let your anxiety rob you
of the benefits of potentially detecting a life-threatening illness at
a treatable stage?

> I'll grudgingly submit to the rest of it if I absolutely have to. I
> gladly give all the blood for testing that's asked for.

I'm sure your doctor will discuss the pros and cons of *all* diagnostic
testing with you (especially if you ask).

> "Submit" is how I feel about it because if I refuse to "submit" I'll
> probably have to find another doctor.

I would almost *never* dismiss a patient for simply refusing to have a
screening test. However, I would document my recommendation and their
refusal in the chart. If any compromise can be reached, I'll take what
I can get. For example, I have had patients absolutely *refuse*
colonoscopy, but agree to completing stool cards.

> I'm a customer

No, you're a *patient*. There is a *huge* difference. A "customer" is
merely someone who purchases services. A *patient* is one-half of a
very unique relationship that carries with it certain professional,
ethical, and legal ramifications, both for the doctor and for the
patient. You are largely responsible for your own health, but your
doctor has responsibilities as well, which include informing you of
recommended screening tests and the potential negative outcomes of your
not having them. Your doctor is no obligated to retain you as a
patient, any more than you are obligated to retain a doctor. In cases
where a patient's actions (or inactions) are truly putting them at
risk, I consider the doctor-patient relationship to be compromised, and
will regretfully dismiss patients for repeated nonhadherance with
treatment or follow-up recommendations.

Find a doctor that you "click" with, tell him/her of your concerns, and
reach a compromise that is agreeable to both of you. That's called a
*partnership*, and it's the essence of the doctor-patient relationship.
Steven Bornfeld - 09 Mar 2004 13:52 GMT
>> No, I'm not a troll. But there are certain aspects of of a physical,
>> like the DRE and genital exam, that I'm very uncomfortable with.
[quoted text clipped - 35 lines]
> unique relationship that carries with it certain professional, ethical,
> and legal ramifications, both for the doctor and for the patient.

    Ah, this is the crux of it.  Try this on:"the patient is always right!"
    Doesn't seem right, does it? ;-)

Steve

 You
> are largely responsible for your own health, but your doctor has
> responsibilities as well, which include informing you of recommended
[quoted text clipped - 9 lines]
> reach a compromise that is agreeable to both of you. That's called a
> *partnership*, and it's the essence of the doctor-patient relationship.
David Rind - 09 Mar 2004 03:40 GMT
> No, I'm not a troll. But there are certain aspects of of a physical,
> like the DRE and genital exam, that I'm very uncomfortable with. There's
> no history of prostate cancer in my family. I have a very hard time
> believing that I'm the only one who's ever had any anxiety over this.
> I'll grudgingly submit to the rest of it if I absolutely have to. I
> gladly give all the blood for testing that's asked for.

I'm sure with a little effort you can find a doctor who does
not feel a need to do a DRE or genital exam as part of a routine
physical in a patient who does not want them done.

Others in this thread have stressed that these are important
parts of care in detecting colon and prostate cancer. I'd suggest
that there is no evidence that routine DRE prevents death from either
condition so it seems a bit overboard to browbeat a patient who
doesn't want it done. (Colonoscopy, on the other hand....)

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anon - 07 Mar 2004 04:17 GMT
> I am a 48 year old white male with type 2 diabetes currently recovering
> from foot ulcers. I haven't seen a doctor for quite some time

Well, let me be the first to tell you...if you're diabetic, you need to
be seeing your doctor (yes, your *regular* doctor) every three to six
months. If you have foot ulcers, I'd guess that your diabetes isn't all
that well controlled. As a result, you can expect to die young (and a
miserable death it will be, unless you're lucky enough to have a
sudden, massive, fatal heart attack). Sorry, but that's statistically
what's in store if you don't start taking better care of yourself. WAKE
UP, MAN! Denial ain't just a river in Egypt.

>  but now
> have a new one. I've never had physical.

That's really tragic. If you're 48 years old (diabetes aside), you need
to be keeping an eye on your blood sugar, blood pressure, weight,
cholesterol, and somebody needs to review your family and social
history to see if you've got any risk factors for preventable disease.
Most people call this a "physical".

> How do I tell my doctor that I do not want one.

How's this: "Doc, I don't want one." The big question is, "Why the hell
not?" You probably don't maintain your car or your house, either,
right? And both are falling apart as a result, right? Or, you *do*
maintain your house and car, but not your own body? What's wrong with
*that* picture?

> I All I need help with is controlling my
> blood glucose levels.

Ah, if only it were that simple. You need help with a lot of things;
you just don't realize it yet.

> I feel a great deal of anxietry about stripping
> naked

That's a pretty stupid reason to risk your health and your life. Talk
about your hangups with your doctor. I'm sure something can be worked
out that will be acceptable to you both.

> So why should I submit to a physical? I bet the stress would raise my BG
> levels.

You don't "submit" to a physical. And stress won't raise your blood
sugar. Go see your doctor! Get to know him or her, and let them get to
know you. You'll be much better off.
DWood78828 - 07 Mar 2004 04:47 GMT
>Subject: I don't want a physical exam
>From: p3n1s0wn3r@webtv.net  (D

>I am a 48 year old white male with type 2 diabetes currently recovering
>from foot ulcers. I haven't seen a doctor for quite some time but now
>have a new one. I've never had physical.

>How do I tell my doctor that I do not want one. I know that I have the
>right to refuse any procedure. All I need help with is controlling my
>blood glucose levels. I feel a great deal of anxietry about stripping
>naked (well, I guess I'd be wearing one of those stupid hospital gowns)
>and being intimately examined. I've never been a person who is

>comfortable with being touched. I don't even like getting my hair cut.
>
>So why should I submit to a physical? I bet the stress would raise my BG
>levels.  

You should have a physical, as well as lab work to determine if you are
suffering from any other medical problems.  With your leg ulcers, which are
more than likely due to your  uncontrolled diabtes, are the number one reason
for undergoing the physical.

Talk with your physician and explain your embarrassment and uncomfortable
feelings.  I sure he can make suggestions and ease your anxiety.  Many people
have a fear of the intimacy that coimes with a physical.  Most physicians will
work with you.

Denise
Rich Andrews. - 07 Mar 2004 08:23 GMT
p3n1s0wn3r@webtv.net (D K) wrote in news:28013-404A4E59-124@storefull-
3238.bay.webtv.net:

> I am a 48 year old white male with type 2 diabetes currently recovering
> from foot ulcers. I haven't seen a doctor for quite some time but now
[quoted text clipped - 9 lines]
> So why should I submit to a physical? I bet the stress would raise my BG
> levels.  

You need to answer a few questions.

What are your lowest and highest BG levels during the day?

Would you rather die than be subjected to an exam.  Indeed you might just
do that.

Would you rather have body parts amputated or get an exam and get that
diabetes under control?

The answers to the above questions will determine if you live a reasonably
long life or not.

Don't like the doc?  Keep shopping until you do.  There are a bunch out
there.

r

PS.  Stress has little to nothing to do with BG levels.

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