hello Nutty,
I suppose it's a relief to receive confirmation and validation of what is wrong
and that you're on the right treatment.
Sounds like a big responsibility to be the only income earner in the family.
Hopefully your preteens are trainable and can be delegated tasks to do every day
and eventually perhaps they can also contribute by workng at part-time jobs,
while getting their education and living in your home.
Kids need that to prepare theim for the realities of the work environment out
there, along with fun and family times. It's a handful (organizing family
labor), but you hold the power, the $$$ <grin>

Did somebody suggest that you get The Lupus Book (3rd edition), by Doctor Daniel
Wallace?
A Guide For Patients And Their Families  Probably worth the investment.

I'm not sure why others aren't replying; makes things look cliquish, but they'll
come around.
Just jump into any thread where you have something to say or some of us
sometimes post CGT's (cheesy good things - that happened in our daily lives). I
also run Roll Calls when my arms aren't bothering me too much. Maybe I'll do
that in the next month or so and you can get to know everybody who replies.

Good luck with the treatment. let us know how i'ts going,as you have time.
Best,
J