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jennylynng8 - 15 Aug 2005 21:06 GMT

I have been having the discussion with my partner about having genital
herpes and sex, the topic came up about if he could perform oral sex on
me, and what the risks were. I realized that I did not have an answer as
there really seems to be no information about this subject. I am smart
enough to know that during an outbreak all sexual contact should be
stopped, but I would like to know if I'm not having an outbreak what is
the "rules" around oral sex.

Thanks,
Jenny

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Grant - 15 Aug 2005 21:29 GMT

Hi Jenny,

The rules are whatever you and your partner decide they should be.

As to the risks, it depends on which type you have: type 1 or type 2. Type 1
genital herpes will transfer to your partner's mouth far more easily than type 2
will. Type 2 is not very common orally but it has been known to happen.

Has your partner ever had a cold sore?

ar

>I have been having the discussion with my partner about having genital
>herpes and sex, the topic came up about if he could perform oral sex on
[quoted text clipped - 6 lines]
>Thanks,
>Jenny

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jennylynng8 - 15 Aug 2005 22:26 GMT

No my partner has never had a cold sore. And it's type 2.

Thanks,
Jenny

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Angela S. - 15 Aug 2005 22:49 GMT

Has your partner ever been tested properly for herpes simplex virus?

Angela ;-)

www.yoshi2me.com -- Herpes Help

> No my partner has never had a cold sore. And it's type 2.
>
> Thanks,
> Jenny

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Angela S. - 15 Aug 2005 22:49 GMT

A great place to start would be to know what your herpes status is AND your
partner's status.

Do you have genital herpes type-1 or genital herpes type-2 ?

Has your boyfriend ever been tested for herpes?

Angela ;-)

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>I have been having the discussion with my partner about having genital
> herpes and sex, the topic came up about if he could perform oral sex on
[quoted text clipped - 6 lines]
> Thanks,
> Jenny

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jennylynng8 - 15 Aug 2005 23:06 GMT

He has never been tested for genital herpes, he has only had the regular
standard STD testing, nothing elaborate. I don't know if he is going to
last much longer, I'm currently going through an OB, and he is not being
overly supportive, he says that he is not freaking out, but I think that
he is. I know that I have to give him sometime to let it sink in, but he
has known since the dating discussions started. Who knows any advice on
that one.

Thanks,
Jenny

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Angela S. - 16 Aug 2005 02:12 GMT

> He has never been tested for genital herpes, he has only had the regular
> standard STD testing, nothing elaborate.

As you can see from -- www.yoshi2me.com -- herpes simplex virus is not
included in the routine std testing process. So it's pretty clear to me that
you guys are not aware of his status at this time.

> I don't know if he is going to
> last much longer, I'm currently going through an OB, and he is not being
> overly supportive, he says that he is not freaking out, but I think that
> he is. I know that I have to give him sometime to let it sink in, but he
> has known since the dating discussions started. Who knows any advice on
> that one.

I'm not sure that I understand what you mean? You told him that you have
herpes and he doesn't understand? Perhaps this will help you --
www.yoshi2me.com/herpes-telling.html

Hang in there Jenny and keep us posted, k?

Angela ;-)

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