I have a very sad story to tell and I need your comments and support.
Hang in there, it is on topic as you will see near the end.
On October 7th my very healthy father had outpatient surgery to remove
his gallbladder. This was his first surgery ever. He was 72. He
came home and didn't feel well and wouldn't eat. He developed a fever
and my mother took him back to the doctor. They noted that he had
pneumonia in his lungs, and readmitted him to the hospital.
This man continued to run a fever and became very sick. They
continued to run tests, and plowed him with antibiotics and
antivirals, but he became sicker. Soon, they noted that his liver
enzymes were increasing, indicating liver failure. Soon, his liver
and kidneys failed and my strong and beloved father died October 28th.
He was on a waiting list for a liver transplant. He looked so
horrible from being swollen that they had a closed casket ceremony.
His funeral was today.
At some point, the infectious disease expert said that he knew exactly
what this was. He suspected that this was a herpes simplex 1 virus.
We were surprised and stated that he has never even had a cold sore.
Sure enough, during his final days, the culture grew and the death
certificate stated that he died of acute liver failure due to HSV in
vireum (in bloodstream).
Now, I was diagnosed with herpes about 4 years ago, and altho it was
never cultured, I believe it was Type 1, and my only symptoms ever
since are that I get a dried crusty area in the same place in my nose
frequently. That's why I think it is Type 1. Also, I think I know
when I got the herpes, my boyfriend had a funny thing on the side of
his nose at the time.
When I went to visit my dad when he first came home, I did kiss him,
and I did have this thing on my nose. So, I have this sick feeling
that I might have contributed to his ill health. I have never told
anyone in my family about my condition, and I am so afraid to now. I
realize that he was ill from his surgery before I went to visit him,
but I still wonder if I did something to make him sicker. This is
killing me inside.
Have any of you ever heard of this before? What do you all think?
Have you heard of hsv 1 in the bloodstream killing someone? The
infectious disease guy said that there was a woman last year who came
in for a tubal ligation and the same thing happened to her. I'm not
sure if she survived or not.
P.S. We have not received the autopsy results yet. I'm hoping there
is more information there.
Jan
Katie - 10 Nov 2004 05:47 GMT
Jan,
First, my sympathies on the loss of your Dad. Second, you had no part
in his death, so don't lay any blame on yourself.
Often times, people contract pneumonia in the hospital. My boss, who
was in for a back operation, developed a staff infection in his spine
which almost cost him his life. It's a miracle he didn't get
pneumonia on top of the infection which almost killed him! The trick
is to NOT be hospitalized if at all possible. Hospitals don't have
windows you can open and get fresh air. Germs that affect everyone
are imbedded in the ductwork, spewing forth on the beds of the people
who are there to get well. You'd be surprised how many people come
OUT of hospitals sick, as opposed to the reasons why they went in.
Sounds to me that your Dad had a sudden onset of illness, the "cure"
of which left him suseptible to other declines of health that go with
age and a hospital stay. It's long been my opnion that once you open
up a body to get one or another thing, you expose it to air and then
all hell hits the fan.
You say you kissed him with a cold sore type thing. Please, don't
think it was herpes that killed your Dad. He was weakened by his
surgery and medical condition. Take your guilt feelings and do
something positive, like your Dad would want you to do. He had 72
years. He wouldn't want you to be questioning the cause of his death.
He'd just be wanting you to remember the times you had together, when
he was alive. Cherish his memory.
Jan - 12 Nov 2004 23:50 GMT
> Jan,
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> He'd just be wanting you to remember the times you had together, when
> he was alive. Cherish his memory.
Katie,
Thank you so much for your response. Bless you.
Jan