Could I really not have herpes, and do I have to worry now?

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Curious gay escort - 11 Oct 2004 20:18 GMT

I have read the the incidence of herpes type 2 is 78% for prositutes
and 83% for gay men.

I am both but I am fairly sure I don't have it. I worked between ages
18 and 21 as an escort and now am 22. Over my life I have had about 20
anal sex partners and about 50 oral sex partners.

I have always practiced safe sex, however I did get gonorrhea once. It
was cured in less than a day with a single dose of cipro.

I have never once had genital sores of any sort or cold sores on my
mouth, and the two times I was tested for both HSV 1 and 2 I came up
negative.

I still maintain a relationship with one client I had, but otherwise I
am monogamus with a partner I plan to be with the rest of my life.
This client I only have safe sex with, but I know that he has sex with
other men, including other escorts. I am thinknig of seeing him again
for the last time in few weeks, I wonder if you can explain to me what
type of risk I am putting myself at. I would hate to have my last
encounter outside of bounds of wedlock be the encounter that gives me
an incurable STD. On the other hand I may be immune or already have an
undectable and asymptomatic case, in which case I don't want to pass
up some good sex and $1200, which I really could use.

Please help me!

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Moira de Swardt - 12 Oct 2004 12:41 GMT

"Curious gay escort" <hello_7654321@yahoo.com> wrote in message

> I still maintain a relationship with one client I had, but otherwise I
> am monogamus with a partner I plan to be with the rest of my life.
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> undectable and asymptomatic case, in which case I don't want to pass
> up some good sex and $1200, which I really could use.

Every sexual encounter has an element of risk unless the partners
are truly free of all STI's and totally faithful to one another.

There is no such thing as an undetectable case of HSV1 and HSV2.
Evidence of these will be carried in the blood for the rest of your
life. If you test negative you are negative for these. However,
bear in mind that very few people even in the general population
test negative for both kinds. HSV1 carriers have about a 10% chance
of being positive for HSV2 without it having been sexually
transmitted.

There are lots of other risks which you probably shouldn't be taking
before committing yourself to married bliss.

Moira, the Faerie Godmother

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Curious gay escort - 13 Oct 2004 16:16 GMT

> Every sexual encounter has an element of risk unless the partners
> are truly free of all STI's and totally faithful to one another.
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> bear in mind that very few people even in the general population
> test negative for both kinds.

I've read this, which makes me think I must be immune to these since I
never got them despite my sexual history. If 83% of gay men are
postive, then I have been with at least 40 people who are Herpes
carriers. And I would think that gay men who hire escorts in a major
city are even more likely to have it than that 83%.

I have been tested for them twice and both times they both came up
negative.

> HSV1 carriers have about a 10% chance
> of being positive for HSV2 without it having been sexually
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>
> Moira, the Faerie Godmother

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