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Medical Forum / Diseases and Disorders / Herpes / July 2004Okay here we go...
*sigh* How does one start this kind of thing. About 5 months ago I experianced ONE HELL of a vicious "infection". That's what the doctor at the clinic said (she didn't use the word vicious)and the whole deal was over within 2 weeks of start. So now here I am same nasty pains and burning in almost exactly the same spots, no blisters, lesions, red spots, just weird pains in weird places that to me do not seem like they belong to a simple yeast infection. I've not had any sexual activity outside of my husband for the last 5 and a half years, nor has he with anyone else. We are togethers almost constantly so he'd never have a chance. Anyway... Ugh this sucks... In my youth (I'm 29) I was what you would call a bit of a wild child. Nothing really insane, but insane enough to get you worried about things later in life. I went through testing for everything else under the sun, but no one ever mentioned things like HSV. Anyway again the doctor lady didn't find anything wrong after cultures and what not. However having readed 18 million different web sites and far too many posts about the subject my mind is NOT set at ease. I know that it's likely but rare that a person can have it for years and years before they experiance their first wicked out break, and the only real way to know for sure is the western blot test (which no clinics or doctors around here seem to know about), I just feel so damn hopeless, useless, and friggin' lost. I'm trying to keep this light and funny but it's not working... *shakes head* The best part (this is me being sarcastic) is that my life was starting to finally come together... I'm 2 years post op gastric bypass so I can wear itty bitty cute clothes now, my home life is damn cool, and I'm going back to finish my anthropology degree in the fall, then this nails me right in the face like a ton of bricks. I already know the answers, and I know what should be done but until the shitty doctor has paperwork in her hand I have to sit here and feel like sh.t for not being able to even bring myself to hug my own husband. Well, lets start with the good news... Even if you do have HSV... big f.cking deal. You're married! The only really bad part is having to tell people you date. IF you have HSV, and you're married, and presumably having un-protected sex, he's probably already got it to... hell, he might have even given it to you. But it shouldn't change your life much... maybe 2 weeks out of every year you'll have a problem. But so what? Now the bad news... Yes, you could have had HSV for decades and it just finally showed up. And no, it's not all that uncommon. You could have even been having small outbreaks for years and never really realized it. It's actually rather rare for them to be so bad they are noticeble. Most people mistake them for pimples or rashes. Also, have you considered that you may have a genital HSV-1 infection? (HSV-1 is usually asosiated with cold sores on your lips) They are rather common now. Given that you're almost 30, you are almost sure to have HSV-1 oraly, so is your husband... a little oral sex and a dash of bad luck and whammo... you've got genital HSV-1. But again, I must reiterate, it aint so bad. You get to skip the worst part... having to tell people you're dating. You're husbands stuck with you "for better or for worse" and this obviously isn't the worst thing that's going to happen in a marrige. If you're really concerned about it, call your doctor and ask what blood tests they have availible for HSV. Then come here and list them and we'll help you figure out the right one for you. Also, don't be afraid to go to several different doctors. Also, ask your doctor if he could "research the issue" and get back to you. STDs are a touchy subject, even for doctors... they aren't always up to date on the latest information. Hi WormBaBY, The important thing to remember is that you are exactly the same person now as you were prior to having this problem develop. Nothing has changed except YOUR perception of yourself. Guess what...you can change that again. :) First thing, you need a diagnosis. It could be lots of things. The trick with a culture is to get it done immediately at the first sign of a blister. If you wait too long to have the culture, the virus will already be dead and you run the risk of getting a false negative. There are a few blood tests out there. Your doctor may be more familiar with the Elisa tests. Try to get one of those - just make sure it is the newer form of the test and not the older form of the test. My doctor also didn't know about the Western Blot. I called the phone number for the Western Blot and got all the paperwork and information myself. All I needed was my doctor's signature. Then I went to the hospital (because my doctor doesn't draw blood) to have the blood drawn and spun and they shipped it to the lab in Washington State. My results went to the doctor's office and they called me when they were in. Took about 3 weeks. A blood test will tell you if you have herpes but it won't tell you where you have herpes. You could test positive for type 1 and not know if you have it orally or genitally. What you really need to know is if these symptoms are herpes or another type of infection. By the way, I suggest your husband be tested with a herpes blood test. He may already have it and you are worrying for nothing. Take care and we're here to answer any questions that you have. ar > *sigh* How does one start this kind of thing. About 5 months ago I > experianced ONE HELL of a vicious "infection". That's what the doctor [quoted text clipped - 27 lines] > like sh.t for not being able to even bring myself to hug my own > husband. Welp Grant I can tell you one thing for sure, since this whole thing started I take a heck of a lot better care of myself. It's kinda funny when you think about it... In my late teens/early twenties I developed a good solid aversion to human contact (don't know where it came from) and I wouldn't so much as let a person shake my hand. I just find it rather funny that something like this would pop up now. Just for the heck of it I'll blame my first husband since he was a huge skank and is no longer with us to defend himself. I'm going to check out the link for the western blot test and send away for info to hand to my primary doctor. She's not the brightest bulb in the box (that in it's self is damn sad) but with proper bitching and moaning I can get things done. How come these things are so hard to figure out? You'd think that since it's such a common issue doctors would be on the ball with it. Geh! As a wee side note in "The City Paper" (a baltimore freebie thingie) they had an advert in the research section for a herpes vaccination trial for women going on all over the US. If I can find something on line about it I'll post it for all of you to pester your female friends into. Thanks again for everything! N. > Hi WormBaBY, > [quoted text clipped - 31 lines] > > ar Not all skanks have herpes and not all people with herpes are skanks. We get easily offended by these types of "labels" in here. We're all pretty familiar with the vaccination trials. But if you want to post it again, go ahead. ar > Welp Grant I can tell you one thing for sure, since this whole thing > started I take a heck of a lot better care of myself. It's kinda funny [quoted text clipped - 53 lines] > > > > ar I don't think WormBaBy was pigeon holing herpes and skanks together. More likely that ex-husbands are great people to lay blame on. Probably ex-wives are too, but I'm slightly biased on that score! Do feel free to correct my interpretation of course... > Not all skanks have herpes and not all people with herpes are skanks. We > get easily offended by these types of "labels" in here. [quoted text clipped - 73 lines] > > > > > > ar Could be, could be... ar > I don't think WormBaBy was pigeon holing herpes and skanks together. More > likely that ex-husbands are great people to lay blame on. Probably ex-wives [quoted text clipped - 85 lines] > > > > > > > > ar How could anyone divorce you Gadge? You have a soldering iron! You'd be so handy around the house, how would he get along without you??!! > How could anyone divorce you Gadge? You have a soldering iron! You'd be so > handy around the house, how would he get along without you??!! lol. By the way, I got custody of the soldering iron... Gadge, You hit it right on the head! Like I said in my last post I enjoy blaming him for everything. It's been 4 years since his passing and I still get irritated when I think of all the crap he put me through. The kicker is that jerk still had all my friggin' comics when he passed! *growls* I so miss my leather copy of dark knight returns... N. > I don't think WormBaBy was pigeon holing herpes and skanks together. More > likely that ex-husbands are great people to lay blame on. Probably ex-wives > are too, but I'm slightly biased on that score! > > Do feel free to correct my interpretation of course... > Gadge, > You hit it right on the head! Like I said in my last post I enjoy [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > passed! *growls* I so miss my leather copy of dark knight returns... > N. My ex and I are on relatively good terms, but it's still fun to lay blame on him. I'm sure he does the same... -- G. Ack! No! I didn't mean to offend anyone other than the memory of my first husband! He was not a great person and I still find myself bitter over things he did. I like to blame him for things like wars, hunger in 3rd world countries, when my hockey team loses, and so on. It makes me feel better... Again I so did NOT mean to offend anyone in the group. Please forgive? Much Hugs, N. > Not all skanks have herpes and not all people with herpes are skanks. We > get easily offended by these types of "labels" in here. [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > > ar > Ack! No! I didn't mean to offend anyone other than the memory of my > first husband! He was not a great person and I still find myself [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] > Much Hugs, > N. All of the above are well worth blaming the ex on. :) I wasn't offended! Just wanted to make sure it was clear. :) ar |
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