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Medical Forum / Diseases and Disorders / Herpes / June 2004Trying to find answers for my boyfriend
This whole posting questions routine is new to me, as well as is herpes, so forgive me if I seem like an idot. I exposed my boyfriend to genital herpes not knowing that I had it! I had a strange sore on the very upper crack of my a.s that a docter told me was herpes but did not test the sore or even perscribe any type of medication. I went to see a different doc and was told that it was not herpes but a pilynidol cyst. Not wanting it to be herpes, I like the second opinion best and went on my merry way. Long story short my boyfriend just found out that he has herpes. I feel like I have hit him with a car! This is a difficult time for us both. He needs time to process everything and has tons of questions. He is a super healthy, active man. (Bike rider,alpine climber) He is very concerned about how this virus will affect him and his lifestyle. Any active guys out there with advice or personal experiences to share would be much appreciated. Thanks in advance! Hi Siri, I'm sorry to hear about your situation. I do recommend that you send a letter to the doctor who misdiagnosed you and let that doctor know how serious a situation his misdiagnosis has put you in. It may help you to feel as if you are "doing something" proactive. Time will make everything better. Time will also tell how your boyfriend's body will handle the virus. The first two years can be the worst but it does get better. Some people never have outbreaks and others have a terrible time with it. There are antiviral medications that can help if your boyfriend has painful and frequent outbreaks. It honestly won't effect his lifestyle at all. The biggest problem with herpes is what goes on inside our own heads. Please have your boyfriend list his questions for us and we will answer them the best we can. ar > This whole posting questions routine is new to me, as well as is > herpes, so forgive me if I seem like an idot. I exposed my boyfriend [quoted text clipped - 11 lines] > Any active guys out there with advice or personal experiences to share > would be much appreciated. Thanks in advance! > This whole posting questions routine is new to me, as well as is > herpes, so forgive me if I seem like an idot. I exposed my boyfriend [quoted text clipped - 11 lines] > Any active guys out there with advice or personal experiences to share > would be much appreciated. Thanks in advance! Hi, You know, unless your boyfriend was tested Specifically for herpes before you and he got together, he may have already had it and not had any outbreaks. Of course, what you think has happened may have really happened too. It's really hard to tell about herpes. I bet you have a lot of questions yourself since you didn't really think you had it. Just post them all! Take Care, Wanda > Hi, > You know, unless your boyfriend was tested Specifically for herpes before [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] > Take Care, > Wanda Hello- Thanks to all who took the time to share their experiences and kind words with me. This type of interaction is exactly what I have been needing. I am curious about HPV and it's relationship to HSV 2. Are they related or connected in any way. I have HPV and I wonder if that made me "more" suseptable (my spelling is horrible) to the herpes virus? Also, I have only had two very small, nearly unnoticable OB's. Just small sore at my coxyx. Is that how I will continue to experience OB's? My boyfriend had obvoius little blisters his penis, trouble urinating and was just down right miserable.I am blessed to have not experienced any "textbook" symtoms of this virus. Do I have gential blisters and horrible physical pain to look forward to? I know there is no crystal ball out there but I really do appreciate everything and anything that you'd like to share. Is it best to contiue posting questions this way or should I email individuals specifically? This is new to me and I'd like to know if I could be doing anything that would make this more effective for everyone out there. Thanks again for your time. I am hoping that I can get my BF to do this as he is having a much more difficult time dealing with this whole situation. I guess I should stop refering to him as my boyfriend as "we" are pretty much over since he found out he had herpes. So sad, I thought this man was who I would spend the rest of my life with. :( Many Thanks-Siri Oh Siri, I'm sorry that you and he are split. But give him time, perhaps he'll come around. The shock can be pretty bad at first. You can continue to post to the group. That way everyone can participate. My comments are below: > I am curious about HPV and it's relationship to HSV 2. Are > they related or connected in any way. I have HPV and I wonder if that > made me "more" suseptable (my spelling is horrible) to the herpes > virus? HPV is completely separate from herpes. However, there are a kajillion HPV viruses out there and most humans probably have at least one. I do not think that having HPV made you more susceptable. > Also, I have only had two very small, nearly unnoticable OB's. Just > small sore at my coxyx. Is that how I will continue to experience > OB's? Maybe. Maybe not. Things can change. However, it is most likely that you will continue to have your outbreaks in the same, or surrounding, area. >Do I have gential blisters and horrible physical pain to look forward to? I know there > is no crystal ball out there but I really do appreciate everything and > anything that you'd like to share. Again, things can change. Herpes is an opportunistic virus. As long as everything in your body is working fine, then the virus should be about the same as far as outbreaks go. However, if you are under a lot of stress, sick, change in diet, some other infection going on, etc, and your immune system is otherwise occupied, then the virus can suddenly seem much worse. My worst outbreaks were years after my initial infection. I had developed thyroid disease and my doctor had me on prednisone for the thyroid. Unknown to me, pred can make your little herpes virus turn into the King Kong of viruses. I had about two months of back to back monster outbreaks that were so painful I thought I would be better off dead. It was during this time that I developed neuralgia, which I had never had before. And THAT'S very painful. Take care, ar > This whole posting questions routine is new to me, as well as is > herpes, so forgive me if I seem like an idot. I exposed my boyfriend [quoted text clipped - 11 lines] > Any active guys out there with advice or personal experiences to share > would be much appreciated. Thanks in advance! First of hello to everyone - I'm new round here too. Actually I've been lurking here for the past few months (rather similar to the way herpes has been lurking in my system - I've been here, but you'd never know it!). I wanted to post in response to your message to reassure you a little. I had my first outbreak 6 months ago - and although the first incidence was a less than pleasant experience, I've been lucky and for the most part been symptom free since. In fact, so far I'd say, herpes has had no effect on my lifestyle. Actually, that's not entirely true - the one impact it has had is an increased awareness of the risks of intimate contact! Anyway I'm not dating at the moment, so it's not an issue right now, but I don't intend to stay single for ever... By the way, the boyfriend that gave me herpes (I assume, because I don't know for certain I didn't have it before we were dating ) didn't know he was carrying the herpes virus. So it just goes to show that sometimes it's not going to have a big impact on your life. Fingers crossed that your boyfriend, being super healthy, will have a super healthy immune system to match... (oh and similar for youself too!) G. PS - thanks to everyone in this ng - it's been fun/interesting/informative/occasionally scary hanging out here the past few months. Nice to meet you, Gadge. ar > Nice to meet you, Gadge. > > ar Thanks Grant In case you're curious - Gadge is short for gadget girl (I'm pretty good with a screwdriver and a soldering iron!). It also gets abbreviated to Gigi! I figured on the Gadget part. :) ar > > Nice to meet you, Gadge. > > [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] > with a screwdriver and a soldering iron!). It also gets abbreviated to > Gigi! > > Nice to meet you, Gadge. > > [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] > with a screwdriver and a soldering iron!). It also gets abbreviated to > Gigi! Handy with tools? Can you put in electrical sockets too? My husband is falling down on the honeydo list over here! Lol! Wanda Wanda <Divrana@charter.net> wrote... > > > Nice to meet you, Gadge. > > > [quoted text clipped - 9 lines] > falling down on the honeydo list over here! Lol! > Wanda Hmm... I haven't actually done any electrical sockets, but I'm sure I could! However, it might be best to leave it to someone who's got professional indemnity insurance (just in case!) G. Soldering iron? Really? And you're single? hehehe... Do you build anything? I've built a few Vacuum tube amplifiers and a lighting system for my aquarium. I love building stuff... I'm into carpentry as well. > Wanda <Divrana@charter.net> wrote... > > [quoted text clipped - 18 lines] > > G. >Soldering iron? Really? And you're single? hehehe... Do you build anything? >I've built a few Vacuum tube amplifiers and a lighting system for my >aquarium. I love building stuff... I'm into carpentry as well. I helped build a Heathkit stereo once. And own too many wood working tools for my own good. I do wiring, plumbing, gardening, and, lately, interior decorating. ;-) Rates cheap. Hours short. Mike But you're names "Mike" I generally like girls with... well... "girl" names... lol > >Soldering iron? Really? And you're single? hehehe... Do you build anything? > >I've built a few Vacuum tube amplifiers and a lighting system for my [quoted text clipped - 7 lines] > > Mike > But you're names "Mike" I generally like girls with... well... "girl" > names... lol Well, in that case... My soldering iron doesn't get much use building things, but it's kinda handy for making modifications! Like DVD players, game cubes... -- GiGi The only bad part of having it is having to tell people you date that you have it. That's it. The symptoms, at their worst, are iritating... maybe painfull but rarely. In very very very rare cases really bad stuff can happen, but he's more likely to fall off a mountain or something. 90% of the people that have it have symtoms so mild, they don't even know they have the disease. Tell him not to worry and remind him how attractive he still is. |
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