I'm sure you checked out Antopia.  It's the largest site, I think.

Have you done a search for "herpes" or "HSV" on Match.com?  Some people put
it in their profiles.

I've only been divorced for a little over a year but so far, all the guys
I've gotten close to have herpes and none of them were found on a herpes
site.  One had type 2 and the other two had type 1.  The point being, don't
limit yourself to herpes dating sites.  I can understand why you want to but
I don't think it's a good idea.

Good luck.
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Hey Man, my advice is to quit looking for a mate.

Just hang out.  Make friends.  If you hang out on yahoo groups and such
where you can chat with people (hopefully many of them female) you will
eventually meet someone you would like to get to know better.  But in
the process you will make friends with lots of other people and realize
that you are not alone.

You'll meet someone eventually either online or offline, either who does
or does not have herpes.  But the key is to chill and be comfortable
with yourself.  It sounds like you have been taking this herpes thing
really seriously.

My big wake up call was when a teenage girl messaged me and all I could
think of was "damn, at least I didn't have to deal with this crap in
high school."

I met my wife 3 years ago on a Yahoo! group, the name of which I cannot
recall, because I joined about 40 of them.  But whenever you're logged
in, it shows you as logged in, and people can message you or you can
message them.  A nice thing about the Yahoo groups is that you don't
have to pay for them like with some of the personals sites.

Also, some of them are regional, but you should also keep yourself open
to people outside of your area.  Even if you can't move, maybe you will
meet someone who can move to you.

And remember, you are still a human being.  You can date women you meet
offline.

Go make friends.  You'll meet the right girl sooner or later.

Thanks for the responses.  I have not checked antopia, nor did I know
that match.com would allow a search term herpes.  What is MPwH?  It is
interesting that one responder did join some 40 services.

The comment that I seem to be uptight about this is, I think, a stretch.
Actually, I have done a great deal of well qualified research.  What I
have learned is that I am not alone - that between 20 and 25 percent of
adults are infected, according to NHANES data, that one half are
completely (or very minimally) symptomaic and, so, unaware of the gift.

And of the half that come to diagnosis, only half of these will admit
openly to it when queried.  Simple math then calculates that only one
one out 16 to 20 adults are in a positon to date others with herpes.
This means the playing field is pretty well narrowed.  Who in their
right mind would volunteer to join this club, either through a sexual
relatonship or marriage, even if the relationship were overflowing with
the most committed love, and the national divorce rate didn't exceed 50
percent.

Which brings me to an important point.  Genital herpes is much more than
blisters.  It is frequently accompanied by emotional and pychiatric
illness, including isolation, desparation, anger, depression and worse.
It takes a lot to keep it all togeher.

And, so, a note to Kristen, and others like her.  I believe it is very
important to fight agaainst the cynicism, because it only gets worse
from there.  For what it's worth, I don't believe that all enrollees on
HSV dating sites could be shallow looking only for perfect matches.
They are trying to find a way back to a more normal life, and that has
to count for alot.  I wouldn't consider myself shallow, rather, pretty
well read and cultured, Ivy league educated and holding an MD degree.
I'm not trying to brag.  I'm sure there have to be lots of special
people out there with HSV, even at one out of twenty.  I know I don't
want to stay single forever.

And so, back to my original question.  What are some of the other
relatively well known HSV dating sites?  I'll join 40 if I have to.
Chat rooms don't seem to be very practical, at least for me, but I'll
try anything.  What chat rooms would you all recommend?  Are there any
local, regional or national groups or meetings?

Thanks again.