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David Reiley - 17 Oct 2003 05:33 GMT
Hi everyone. Ive been lurking around lately and have come to the conclusion
that everyone seems to be super supportive and helpful. As such, I wanted to
inform everyone about my story and hopefully the experience on this board
will bring forth some answers or hypotheses to my questions.

Facts:

* My girlfriend and I have been together in a faithful sexual relationship
for the past 7 months.
* My ex-girlfriend contracted genital warts, not herpes, from a sexual
partner while the two of us we're broken up
* We got back together and had unprotected sex. We were both tested for the
other STD's
* All tests came back as negative. I never contracted the warts.
* I haven't been with that woman for 1 full year and have been with my
girlfriend for the past 7 months
* I routinely go for blood work and test for STD's. Always have had negative
results.
* My ex-girlfriend had another blood test done 6 months after her initial
wart outbreak and again it came back negative

Problem:

* This past sunday I was engaging in sexual relations with my dearly
beloved, and noticed some soreness on my penis. (Can we say penis here?!)
* By tuesday the redness had manifested into blisters.
* By wednesday it was time to see the Doc as blisters were painful and sore
to the touch
* Doc took a blood and swab sample and said that it is most likely Herpes.
* These blisters are painful. Most are concentrated on one area, however
there are other blisters in other areas.

Question 1:

It is my understanding that a Herpes outbreak occurs 2-3 weeks after
infection. I have been with my girlfriend for 7 months. (No, there has been
no cheating) Neither of us had ever experienced such symptoms.

Is it not extremely peculiar that I would have my first outbreak 7 months
after first having sex with my girlfriend? And in the event the Herpes was
contracted by my ex-girlfriend, that would make it one full year since the
last sexual encounter. Any ideas?

Question 2:

My girlfriend went to the doctor to be examined. She was experiencing
symptoms as well. Her doctor diagnosed her with the Herpes virus as well.
(Blood test was not done, only a vaginal swab).

Is it not bizarre that we both have our first outbreak within 2 days?
Technically, my girlfriend could have had the outbreak the same day as me
and just not have been aware of it.

We are very frustrated. Is it common for the infection to manifest itself so
quickly between partners?!

Question 3:

Generally how long and how "bad" is the first outbreak? How many days until
it starts to get better?

Question 4:

Once cleared up, how do you avoid re-infecting eachother? When should
condoms be an absolute must?

Question 5:

The doc prescribed Valdarex to me. I was told that if those meds arent taken
within the first 72 hours they have no effect. Is this correct?

Any help would be much appreciated. Advice...you name it.

Dave
Male - 24
Grant - 17 Oct 2003 10:53 GMT
Hi David,

I'll do my best to answer your questions.  I won't bother with the hpv stuff
because I am not up to date on the current testing.

Keep reading below:

> Question 1:
>
> It is my understanding that a Herpes outbreak occurs 2-3 weeks after
> infection. I have been with my girlfriend for 7 months. (No, there has been
> no cheating) Neither of us had ever experienced such symptoms.

Herpes outbreaks CAN occur 2 to 3 weeks after exposure.  OR, 2 to 3 days.
OR 2 to 3 years.  Etc.  You can be infected with the virus for many years
before having your first outbreak.  And, you can be infected for years and
NEVER have an outbreak but still be contagious.

> Is it not extremely peculiar that I would have my first outbreak 7 months
> after first having sex with my girlfriend? And in the event the Herpes was
> contracted by my ex-girlfriend, that would make it one full year since the
> last sexual encounter. Any ideas?

Nope.  Not unusual at all.  Also, you had mentioned that everyone has been
tested for stds, etc.  However, herpes tests are not included in the regular
std panel and must be asked for separately.  Stupid, we know....

> Question 2:
>
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> Technically, my girlfriend could have had the outbreak the same day as me
> and just not have been aware of it.

Nope, not bizarre at all.  Let's speak hypothetically...One of you had
herpes.  For whatever reason, that person brought on their first outbreak.
Because you can be infectious before showing signs of an outbreak, they then
gave it to their partner.

> We are very frustrated. Is it common for the infection to manifest itself so
> quickly between partners?!

All things are possible with the herpes virus.

> Question 3:
>
> Generally how long and how "bad" is the first outbreak? How many days until
> it starts to get better?

It's different with each person.  Ask your doctor for some antivirals if the
pain is too bad.  Over the counter pain relievers help as well.

> Question 4:
>
> Once cleared up, how do you avoid re-infecting eachother? When should
> condoms be an absolute must?

You can't get herpes twice in the same location.  Once you have it, you have
it.  Condoms should have been a must all along (stern condom lecture
avoided....)

> Question 5:
>
> The doc prescribed Valdarex to me. I was told that if those meds arent taken
> within the first 72 hours they have no effect. Is this correct?

I don't know because I've never taken the meds.

Please keep listing your questions and we'll do our best to answer them.

ar
M.L.S. - 17 Oct 2003 12:47 GMT
>Hi everyone. Ive been lurking around lately and have come to the conclusion
>that everyone seems to be super supportive and helpful. As such, I wanted to
>inform everyone about my story and hopefully the experience on this board
>will bring forth some answers or hypotheses to my questions.

>Facts:

>* My girlfriend and I have been together in a faithful sexual relationship
>for the past 7 months.
>* My ex-girlfriend contracted genital warts, not herpes, from a sexual
>partner while the two of us we're broken up
>* We got back together and had unprotected sex. We were both tested for the
>other STD's

Unless you were specifically told that tests for herpes were included
in the panels there is a good chance no herpes specific tests were
done.

>* All tests came back as negative. I never contracted the warts.
>* I haven't been with that woman for 1 full year and have been with my
>girlfriend for the past 7 months
>* I routinely go for blood work and test for STD's. Always have had negative
>results.

The standard tests look for syphilis, gonorrhea, chlamydia, and maybe
something else like rubella, but that's about it, I think.  Usually,
blood has to be drawn separately for herpes and is rarely done unless
one is specifically looking for HSV.

>* My ex-girlfriend had another blood test done 6 months after her initial
>wart outbreak and again it came back negative

What was that test, I wonder.  Warts are HPV and there is no blood
test that I know of.

>Problem:

>* This past sunday I was engaging in sexual relations with my dearly
>beloved, and noticed some soreness on my penis. (Can we say penis here?!)
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>* These blisters are painful. Most are concentrated on one area, however
>there are other blisters in other areas.

>Question 1:

>It is my understanding that a Herpes outbreak occurs 2-3 weeks after
>infection. I have been with my girlfriend for 7 months. (No, there has been
>no cheating) Neither of us had ever experienced such symptoms.

>Is it not extremely peculiar that I would have my first outbreak 7 months
>after first having sex with my girlfriend? And in the event the Herpes was
>contracted by my ex-girlfriend, that would make it one full year since the
>last sexual encounter. Any ideas?

Maybe atypical, but not impossible.

>Question 2:

>My girlfriend went to the doctor to be examined. She was experiencing
>symptoms as well. Her doctor diagnosed her with the Herpes virus as well.
>(Blood test was not done, only a vaginal swab).

>Is it not bizarre that we both have our first outbreak within 2 days?
>Technically, my girlfriend could have had the outbreak the same day as me
>and just not have been aware of it.

>We are very frustrated. Is it common for the infection to manifest itself so
>quickly between partners?!

It could be that the Sunday sex itself somehow triggered a mutual
outbreak.  At least one of you had acquired it elsewhere, the virus
was in an active phase, the sex was vigorous enough to tip the scales,
and there you are.

>Question 3:

>Generally how long and how "bad" is the first outbreak? How many days until
>it starts to get better?

I think Primary outbreaks tend to run a little longer than average,
but the blisters should heal in a week to ten days but complete
healing time could be two to three weeks.

>Question 4:

>Once cleared up, how do you avoid re-infecting eachother? When should
>condoms be an absolute must?

If you both have the same thing you don't have to worry about
re-infecting each other.  Once you have it, you have it.

The thing you do have to worry about, especially in the first year of
having HSV, is to be careful about transferring the virus to other
parts of your body.  With no extra help, the virus will stay confined
to your genital region (boxer shorts area), but it's possible to
transfer the virus to the oral region via oral sex or someplace else,
like the eyes by scratching and then rubbing your eye.  The experts
say that such autoinnoculation gets harder to do after about a year,
as the body has had time to teach its immune system how better to
fight off new incursions of the virus.

>Question 5:

>The doc prescribed Valdarex to me. I was told that if those meds arent taken
>within the first 72 hours they have no effect. Is this correct?

More or less correct.  By 72 hours the virus has pretty much shot its
wad, so to speak, migrated out of the ganglia, replicated like mad,
and broken your epidermis.  After that the bulk of your outbreak is
just healing time, and Valtrex or the other meds don't do anything for
that.  The meds only attempt to interrupt the replication cycle.

>Any help would be much appreciated. Advice...you name it.

I recommend that you and your partner both go get some herpes type
specific blood tests.  Ask for the Herpes Specific Western Blot and
see what they say.  If they don't know what it is come back here and
someone will tell you how to get one.

Take care,

Mike
David Reiley - 17 Oct 2003 15:39 GMT
Yes you are correct, there is no blood test for the HPV virus. My ex
girlfriend was tested for (supposedly) everything else. Now I'm learning
that HSV isnt part of the regular testing....unreal...

> >Hi everyone. Ive been lurking around lately and have come to the conclusion
> >that everyone seems to be super supportive and helpful. As such, I wanted to
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>
> Mike
Tim Fitzmaurice - 17 Oct 2003 17:20 GMT
> Yes you are correct, there is no blood test for the HPV virus. My ex
> girlfriend was tested for (supposedly) everything else. Now I'm learning
> that HSV isnt part of the regular testing....unreal...

Not really - if you are trying to check for disease then testing for HSV2
alone doesn't tell you the complete risk and HSV1 blood testing won't
really tell you the genital risk either. Plus reliable HSV blood
tests that offer accurate HSV2 diagnosis are new and pretty pricey
compared to the others to enough of an extent you respond to individual
need.

Tim
--
When playing rugby, its not the winning that counts, but the taking apart
ICQ: 5178568
Tim Fitzmaurice - 17 Oct 2003 13:22 GMT
> * These blisters are painful. Most are concentrated on one area, however
> there are other blisters in other areas.

Sounds like a fairly classic outbreak of HSV - you mentioned a lot of
testing. THe standard STD panel in the US doesnt include Herpes simplex.
SO unless you have some specific readouts on that pair of viruses (ie you
have an expansive doc or you requested it) then you won;t likely know your
HSV status in the past.

> Question 1:
>
> It is my understanding that a Herpes outbreak occurs 2-3 weeks after
> infection. I have been with my girlfriend for 7 months. (No, there has been
> no cheating) Neither of us had ever experienced such symptoms.

First - 2-3 weeks is a standard incubation time from primary infection to
primary outbreak. Its the time that you'd expect with no
complications....its firstly an average, secondly its an average from
those who get disease after a known risk encounter not the entire herpes
carrying/suffering population. Most people get infected and never know
(thats about 80% of the infected individuals) some may find out later.

Second - either of you have cold sores? Moving on from that point

Third - asymptomatic infection. With this virus, as I said, about 80% of
infected people are unaware, yet they can shed virus leading to
transmission and potentially disease in one person - yet never having had
any signs of disease in the other. Oh in the USA about 21% of the
population carries HSV2, which is the major agent and on top of that about
30% of new cases are in fact HSV1 which most people associate with cold
sores/fever blisters IF they actually make that connection. However it can
also do the asymptomatic transmission thang....

Basically there are ALL sorts of options here. You REALLY want to know the
typing of that culture the doc took and what comes back in the blood test
as that may give you an answer as to whether its first or recurrent
infection. Your girlfriend may wish to know here status know depending on
the results. This could be a case of you harbouring it, or her harbouring
it silently or an oral to genital transmission or similar. THe virus is
quite frankly a sneaky bastard.

> Is it not extremely peculiar that I would have my first outbreak 7 months
> after first having sex with my girlfriend? And in the event the Herpes was

Not really - If it was in you already then it could be something unrelated
to how long you'd been having sex with that person that set it off. Or if
it was transmission well there risk of transmitting female to male is
around 4-5% per year if they track discordant couples....so its not
something that happens every time - there are all sorts of
issues....bitlike pregnancy it can happen first time, or you can be at it
for years.

> Question 2:
>
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>
> Is it not bizarre that we both have our first outbreak within 2 days?

Hmmm one recurrent outbreak infecting the other, or an HSV1 transmission
to the genital site follwed by pass on....both are possible.

> Question 3:
>
> Generally how long and how "bad" is the first outbreak? How many days until
> it starts to get better?

The usual line is 7-11 days for an utbrak with the primary lasting longer
usually. Beyond that it gets fluffy - individual responses are too
individual to say beyond a population average.

> Question 4:
>
> Once cleared up, how do you avoid re-infecting eachother? When should
> condoms be an absolute must?

Once infected - its a herpesvirus - its there for life in that site. So
you can't really superinfect - at least not to a point where it will make
a difference to the other person. Future partners mayy be an issue
)assuming that becomes an issue) dependant on their status.

> Question 5:
>
> The doc prescribed Valdarex to me. I was told that if those meds arent taken
> within the first 72 hours they have no effect. Is this correct?

Valtrex you mean? - and there is no 72hr limit that I've heard of. I'd be
surprised if many people get to hammer the drug in inside the 72hr time
from virus activity starting. You want it then if you want the best chance
of aborting an outbreak from occurring - but even after then hammering the
virus wil help shorten the duration of the outbreak by removng the virus
from the equation. OK late on they won't help as a lesion isnt just virus
activity but also inflammatory stuff. I've seen suggestions to that effect
with the topical meds  but not really a huge amount of evidence to support
that idea beyond what I said above - though they arent as effective a te
tablets.

Tim
--
When playing rugby, its not the winning that counts, but the taking apart
ICQ: 5178568
David Reiley - 17 Oct 2003 16:10 GMT
Thank you all for your advice. It definetly helped clarify some things.

Some of you have mentioned that the symptoms I described were "classic HSV"
symptoms. There was one piece of information that I forgot to provide. I
didn't, and don't have a fever or major flu like symptoms. My groin area did
not become tender and I had no pains in my buttocks or legs. It is my
understanding that in an initial outbreak these symptoms are experienced.

Anyone know why these symptoms may not have been apparent?

Secondly, I was wondering if it were advisable for me to continue working
out at the gym, running on the treadmill, playing sports etc...while there
is an HSV outbreak.

What are your opinions?

Thanks

> > * These blisters are painful. Most are concentrated on one area, however
> > there are other blisters in other areas.
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> When playing rugby, its not the winning that counts, but the taking apart
> ICQ: 5178568
Sandy Black - 17 Oct 2003 16:38 GMT
HI everyone,
My name is Sandy, and I'm the 'significant other half' of David Reiley.
Thanks for all your support. I had a few questions of my own to post...
1) Whats the deal with birth control pills and Valtrex? Can they be taken
together? What about continuing on the birth control pill continuously
throughout 2 months to avoid getting your period? It really sucks to have
your period and herpes outbreak at the same time.... I guess tampons are out
too... right?
2) what about showering? I found relief from applying a hot compress to the
area. Is that bad? Cold better?

Thanks all!
Sandy
> Thank you all for your advice. It definetly helped clarify some things.
>
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> > When playing rugby, its not the winning that counts, but the taking apart
> > ICQ: 5178568
Grant - 18 Oct 2003 00:12 GMT
Hi Sandy,

Welcome!

It's normal for women to have their outbreaks around their periods.
Hormones and stress on the body, etc.  And yes, that is mighty
uncomfortable.  Tampons are no problem is they don't bother you that much.

Yes, you can take Valtrex and bcps at the same time.  I don't understand
about taking them straight through two months, though.  You should always
take your bcps the recommended way.

Hot water and soap kill the virus.  If hot compresses make you feel better,
then go right ahead and use them.

Take care,
ar

> HI everyone,
> My name is Sandy, and I'm the 'significant other half' of David Reiley.
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> apart
> > > ICQ: 5178568
Tim Fitzmaurice - 17 Oct 2003 17:15 GMT
> Some of you have mentioned that the symptoms I described were "classic HSV"
> symptoms. There was one piece of information that I forgot to provide. I
> didn't, and don't have a fever or major flu like symptoms. My groin area did
> not become tender and I had no pains in my buttocks or legs. It is my
> understanding that in an initial outbreak these symptoms are experienced.

Yup, well more likely to be - its a measure of immune reaction - in
someone who hasn't been exposed to a particular virus the first reaction
is often very strong - the body goes into overdrive trying to set up a
permanent specific response. Not everyone will get that though. The groin
tenderness woud be the lymphnodes at the top of the legs swelling as a
response. Some people get that even on recurrences.

Tim
--
When playing rugby, its not the winning that counts, but the taking apart
ICQ: 5178568
Grant - 18 Oct 2003 00:09 GMT
Hi David,

Yes, continue exercising if it isn't too uncomfortable for you.

Everyone experiences different types of outbreak symptoms.  I never got
neuralgia pain in the legs until years after I was infected.  I only had
flu-like symptoms for the first few outbreaks then that went away.  It's all
different.

ar

> Thank you all for your advice. It definetly helped clarify some things.
>
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> > When playing rugby, its not the winning that counts, but the taking apart
> > ICQ: 5178568
David Reiley - 19 Oct 2003 04:30 GMT
Grant,

When you mention that you experienced flu like symptoms for the first few
recurrences, were these flu like symptoms enough to keep you from going into
work?

As for exercise, right now I just dont feel upto it. Im experiencing these
flu like symptoms - the most apparent one being tiredness.

Also, is it pretty much a guarantee that there will be recurrent outbreaks,
or are there people with the virus who get it once and thats it?

> Hi David,
>
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> apart
> > > ICQ: 5178568
Grant - 19 Oct 2003 13:11 GMT
Hi David,

I was in college when I was infected so I didn't have to deal with a full
work day.  I honestly don't remember if I went to class or not.  (It was a
really long time ago.)

Just remember that when you are feeling like crap, that's usually because
the body needs you to stay home and rest.  Your body has a big job to do
right now.  Let it.  :)

Well, don't exercise NOW!  Exercise when you're better.  You now need to
make sure your immune system is up and running the best that it can - that's
with a good diet, rest, and exercise.

There are lots of people who only have one outbreak and never have another.
I haven't had one in so long I don't remember when the last outbreak was.
And, there are people who never even have that first one...

Take care,
ar

> Grant,
>
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> > apart
> > > > ICQ: 5178568
Tim Fitzmaurice - 20 Oct 2003 07:58 GMT
> Also, is it pretty much a guarantee that there will be recurrent outbreaks,
> or are there people with the virus who get it once and thats it?

The majority of people who get the virus don;t see anything. Yes there are
those who get one outbreak and never get any more. While this means no
disease issues for them, it does not mean silent virus and henc elong term
its something they need to be aware of.

Tim
--
When playing rugby, its not the winning that counts, but the taking apart
ICQ: 5178568
Guy - 18 Oct 2003 00:27 GMT
Hi Dave

Been lurking a bit myself of late.

I just wanted to comment that eventually, when things even out in your lives
as a couple (from this probably traumatic event of both being diagnosed with
GH) both you and Sandy might well experience what my Lady and I have.
Almost NO effects, as a couple, from having genital herpes.  Since it's
sounding like both of you will have been infected by the same virus, one
quite possibly giving it to the other, then you won't be passing it back and
forth as some folks think happens. The "ping-pong effect" has been pretty
much debunked.  Once you have herpes, it's yours, and will outbreak at it's
own speed.  Now, friction, stuff you eat, immune problems, stress, etc can
effect the virus and make it more active sometimes but passing it back and
forth won't be an issue.  Plus, since both have the same virus, what's the
point in condoms?  Assuming nothing else is looming in the dark (like that
HPV issue...but then, most people have at least one type of HPV by the time
they've had 3 or more sexual partners) you can kinda forget about catching
things from each other now.  Especially herpes!  Yippee!  ::grin::

The only time I think about herpes anymore (had it now for over 5 years) is
when I wish I had more time to respond to posts here.  Otherwise, it's a
complete non-issue in my relationship with my Lady.  Sure, sometimes I have
an outbreak (my Lady never has outbreaks, yet does have herpes--proved by
western blot blood test).  I get over it, and get on with things.  Heck,
having an outbreak doesn't even prevent us from having sex during one if one
of us feels the urge (and we do, frequently!  We're kinda newlyweds still).
Pain... hah hah!  I laugh at pain!  ::big grin::

Seems like the 2 of you are doing the right things.  You haven't gone off
half cocked (pun not intended, but certainly enjoyed) and accused each other
of cheating, which is sometimes the case with people less informed about
herpes.  You're getting MORE informed, and you're seeking info from the
right sources--mainly meaning this NG.  It's the BEST!

Post any further questions you may come up with.  The only stupid question
is one you don't ask.

Hang in
-G

> Hi everyone. Ive been lurking around lately and have come to the conclusion
> that everyone seems to be super supportive and helpful. As such, I wanted to
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> Dave
> Male - 24
Grant - 18 Oct 2003 13:31 GMT
"Guy" <Guy_on@earthlink.net> wrote in message news:LV_jb.675
> Plus, since both have the same virus, what's the
> point in condoms?

Gee, Guy, I don't know...PREGNANCY????

Hehehehe....glad to see you're still around.  :)

ar
Guy - 19 Oct 2003 17:59 GMT
Well, I saw her ask about birth control pills.  If she's taking those,
doesn't that eliminate "PREGNANCY" from the equation?  Otherwise, wouldn't
the pills be misnamed?  ::grin::

It's good to BE around.

Hang in
-G

> "Guy" <Guy_on@earthlink.net> wrote in message news:LV_jb.675
> > Plus, since both have the same virus, what's the
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>
> ar
Grant - 19 Oct 2003 18:56 GMT
Oh Guy...tsk, tsk...I know lots of women who got pregnant and were on the
pill.  :)  It's best to double up just to be sure.  :)

Take care,
ar

> Well, I saw her ask about birth control pills.  If she's taking those,
> doesn't that eliminate "PREGNANCY" from the equation?  Otherwise, wouldn't
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> >
> > ar
David Reiley - 19 Oct 2003 04:34 GMT
Wow - that sounds like great news! Let me make sure I understand what you
were saying correctly...

Sandy and I were both infected by the same virus. Understood. Assuming I had
an outbreak, were you saying that I wouldn't cause her to have one if we
were to engage in sex?

That seems to be one of our major concerns - the "ping pong effect". We want
to learn how to avoid passing it back and forth...

What about masturbation - be it from your partner or yourself....that is
friction based...will it bring about outbreaks?

> Hi Dave
>
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> > Dave
> > Male - 24
Grant - 19 Oct 2003 13:12 GMT
If friction is your trigger, then vigorous sex of any sort might bring on an
outbreak.  It's particularly true for women - make sure to use lubricants.

ar

> Wow - that sounds like great news! Let me make sure I understand what you
> were saying correctly...
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> > > Dave
> > > Male - 24
Guy - 19 Oct 2003 18:18 GMT
Yes, you have the situation correct.  No re-infection happens (with a normal
immune response).  Your outbreaks will not cause more for her.  Her
outbreaks will be determined by her own immune response to constantly being
challenged by the virus (which is what happens once infected--the virus is
constantly trying to replicate and cause a ruckus).  It was thought, years
ago, that there was such a thing as this transferring back and forth, simply
because after sex one partner would all of a sudden have an outbreak.
However, it's been determined that these outbreaks are caused by the
friction of the whole thing, not transferring the virus.  I guess that's a
good thing, 'cept, speaking as one who's finding friction is a trigger
sometimes (and other times, not...) I'm not so sure it matters. Outbreaks
are outbreaks.  From a viral load standpoint, I guess it's a good
thing--meaning at least our bodies are not subjected to more and more new
virus to then become latent in the ganglia and cause more frequent
outbreaks, possibly.

Most people's "normal immune response" is to have anywhere from 3-6
outbreaks a year (of HSV2 located genitally).  This can be altered by having
an inefficient immune system for some reason (colds, flu, other sicknesses
effecting it), poor diet, lack of sleep, lack of exercise,  prolonged
stress, etc.  All the things that effect a healthy immune system.  But, one
thing you DON'T have to worry about is passing it back and forth.

Any kinda friction can do the trick if friction is a problem.  So,
masturbation would be in there as well.  I'm of the opinion that these are
the reasons why the antivirals can be a big service to us.  If you find
yourself having too many outbreaks (and for some, that can be ANY, really!),
talk to your doc and get a prescription for suppression with one of the
antivirals.  There really is NO reason to be uncomfortable, or to "suffer
through" too many outbreaks.  At least, not IMHO.

Hang in
-G
> Wow - that sounds like great news! Let me make sure I understand what you
> were saying correctly...
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> > > Dave
> > > Male - 24
Angela - 18 Oct 2003 17:19 GMT
David,

From reading the first part of your post I have to say that routine std
testing is not all that it's supposed to be. In fact, they don't test you
for all stds when you go in to be tested. You have to find out which ones
they test you for, etc. I know for a fact that you are not automatically
being tested for HPV (which causes genital warts). I also know that a person
can have HPV and not get any warts (signs or symptoms). For more information
about HPV you can read up here:
http://members.cox.net/yoshi2me/Links/Links.htm . Same thing goes for
Herpes.

Also, it's going to be hard to pinpoint when you contracted herpes since you
have had more than one partner. It's possible to have carried the virus for
some time and not known it only to find out now through a flare up that you
have it. It's also possible that both you and your girlfriend could have had
the virus all along and the friction from sex alone might have triggered a
flare up. As far as reinfecting each other ~ you don't have to worry about
that at all. Once you get herpes ~ you keep it and it doesn't go back and
forth like you might have thought.

Valtrex is a very good herpes antiviral medication. If you find that you are
experiencing too many flare ups you can consider taking the medication daily
to suppress the flare ups.  All in all ~ I wish you guys the best. Try and
hang in there ~

Angela
David Reiley - 19 Oct 2003 04:36 GMT
Hi Angela -

Can you elaborate on what you wrote - more specifically on how Sandy and I
don't have to worry about reinfecting eachother. Thats one of our major
concerns here. If I were to be beginning an outbreak and we were ot have
relations, wouldnt that cause her to have an outbreak right away as well?

Thanks,

Dave

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Angela - 19 Oct 2003 06:52 GMT
David,

Friction from sex can be a trigger for outbreaks in some people. Friction
from sex does not cause you to get herpes in your body over and over. You
already have herpes and it will stay with you. You don't keep getting herpes
over and over again . . . but it's possible to get flare ups over and over
again. Do you see the difference? If either of you is having trouble with
outbreaks then you might want to think about suppression with a good
antiviral medication like Valtrex, Famvir, or Acyclovir.

Have you guys been typed? Do you know which type of herpes you have?
(Type-1, Type-2, or Both?)

Angela
Grant - 19 Oct 2003 13:15 GMT
Angela did a good job of explaning it below.  I just wanted to add that it's
like being pregnant.  Once you are, you are.  You can't get pregnant again
while you are still pregnant.  Okay, stupid analogy...

The virus lives in the nerve ganglia that service the area that you were
infected in.  Once the virus is there, you can't get it again.  It's already
in there.  For instance, chickenpox is a herpes virus.  For the vast
majority of people, once you have the chicken pox, you can't get it again.
It's because you already have the virus and the body has already made the
antibodies to keep you from getting it again.

Right now, you are so exhausted because your body is busy learning how to
fight the virus.  It's making antibodies to protect you from getting the
virus again.

I hope some of that makes sense.

ar

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Angela - 19 Oct 2003 17:16 GMT
Ar,

I loved your analogy!!! :-) At 32 weeks pregnant tomorrow it put a big huge
smile on my face!!! :-)
Thank goodness it's not possible to get pregnant while I'm already pregnant.
There is already only enough room in there for one. I couldn't imagine
having two in there . . . lol

*hugs*

Angela

> Angela did a good job of explaning it below.  I just wanted to add that it's
> like being pregnant.  Once you are, you are.  You can't get pregnant again
> while you are still pregnant.  Okay, stupid analogy...
Grant - 19 Oct 2003 17:52 GMT
Hi Angela,

:)

ar

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> > like being pregnant.  Once you are, you are.  You can't get pregnant again
> > while you are still pregnant.  Okay, stupid analogy...
 
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