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alfred - 11 Nov 2006 18:26 GMT Hi Everyone,
I am using Outlook Reader now so not the Google one, at least not now. I took a short break from here, had a lot of things to do, but i am back.
I met a new woman whom I have been dating for about 3 months now. We are doing really well , and she's nothing like my ex (psycho woman) that I was with. So this new person I am with doesnt have herpes, so she told me, but she was willing to be with me knowing I have genital herpes.
We are intimate and not using condoms, because neither of us are able to have kids. We were together a day before I got a big outbreak, but she still didnt get it so thats good. We did have somewhat of a scare a few days after we had sex, and that was that about 3 days later she became sore down on her privates and irritated. It lasted a week for her and that was it, but never happened again. So I don't know what that means, but I hope nothng happened.
Anyway, nothing much going on here. I'm getting more into working out and staying healthy. I just thought I'd say hi to y'all. Angela, Ar, M2, Mike S. Eric and Perl.
Later, Al
Gary Paulsen - 12 Nov 2006 00:50 GMT Hey Al, have you ever tried L-LYSINE? I just started seeing a woman that has genital herpes, l get "cold sores" and taking a 500mg tab at the first sign, for me, a little tingling/burning spot, somewhere around my lips and have caught them all, since l found out about lysine, not 1 sore since, will it work for her? PLEASE, anyone, if you have any info, mail me, Pdog60@webtv. net THANKS, G
Yoshi2me - 13 Nov 2006 14:48 GMT > Hey Al, have you ever tried L-LYSINE? Here is some feedback from people that have actually tried L-lysine to try and treat their herpes: http://www.yoshi2me.com/comments/l-lysine.html
You can also vote for L-lysine here: http://www.yoshi2me.com/phpbb/viewtopic.php?t=2667
> I just started seeing a woman that > has genital herpes, l get "cold sores" and taking a 500mg tab at the > first sign, for me, a little tingling/burning spot, somewhere around my > lips and have caught them all, since l found out about lysine, not 1 > sore since, will it work for her? First of all... how does your lady know that it's the l-lysine working for her for sure? Genital herpes type-1 tends to be not as severe or intense as genital herpes type-2. So maybe her lack of symptoms has more to do with other factors such as this OR perhaps she's had the virus for a long time and her body has adjusted to it accordingly.
> PLEASE, anyone, if you have any info, > mail me, Pdog60@webtv. net THANKS, G Lots of really good information on those links that I shared.
Good luck,
Angela
grant - 12 Nov 2006 01:10 GMT Al,
Why are you not using condoms? You know that's pretty stupid, right? And you know enough to understand that she sure might have gotten herpes from you and not be showing any symptoms.
Use your brain. Use a condom.
ar
> Hi Everyone, > [quoted text clipped - 20 lines] > Later, > Al alfred - 13 Nov 2006 03:13 GMT Hi Ar and Gary,
Well to answer the first question, I have used Lysine and it has helped a little at most. Mostly I have noticed that it makes the outbreak symptoms less annoying, but doesnt control it all together.
Anyway, I'm doing alot better in general. I am not "usually" getting alot of outbreaks. Now I get some minor symptoms here and there that don't do much other than some occasional itching and a slight raw area or two. Mostly I get no more than 1 Outbreak every 2 months or so, maybe even less, it depends.
Ar, as far as the condom use (or not using) its because I know for a fact that I do not have any other diseases and even had an AIDS test in May and it was NEG. I only have genital herpes and HPV. The person I am seeing also has HPV, but she doesnt have genital herpes or anything else, from what she told me.
She knows I have herpes, I made it very clear. She and I both don't like condoms, because of the feel. She told me that she wouldnt want to get herpes from me, but she was willing to get herpes from me if it happened.
When that soreness and irritation happened to her 3 days after we had sex, she was a little nervous and so was I. I'm thinking it wasnt from rough sex, because 1. we didnt have rough sex, and 2. it started three days later and lasted a whole week. I really hope I didnt give her herpes, but she told me that if I did its completely okay, because she knew what I have and was willing to be with me.
We are really thinking of being together for a very long time, I mean like as in marriage. So I don't want to sound selfish, but if we are both in agreeance of herpes and both spending out lives together its okay.
She actually knows alot about herpes because her daughter also has it and she read alot about it prior to me meeting her. Both she and I are still baffled about the "after three days" incident though.
Al
> Al, > [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] > > ar Yoshi2me - 13 Nov 2006 14:52 GMT > Ar, as far as the condom use (or not using) its because I know for a fact > that I do not have any other diseases and even had an AIDS test in May and > it was NEG. I only have genital herpes and HPV. The person I am seeing > also has HPV, but she doesnt have genital herpes or anything else, from > what she told me. That's the think Al ~ you're going on "what she told you" and that's just not good enough. Wouldn't you agree?
Angela
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alfred - 13 Nov 2006 18:51 GMT Hi Angela,
Well I suppose you have a point there. I guess the person I am seeing could have been exposed to HSV during her life and thats why she may be immune to getting it from me. You never know.
Al
>> Ar, as far as the condom use (or not using) its because I know for a fact >> that I do not have any other diseases and even had an AIDS test in May [quoted text clipped - 9 lines] > http://yoshi2me.com - Herpes Help > http://yoshi2me.com/phpbb/index.php - STD Talk Yoshi2me - 13 Nov 2006 22:13 GMT Possible exposure has nothing to do with it Al.
Angela
> Hi Angela, > [quoted text clipped - 17 lines] >> http://yoshi2me.com - Herpes Help >> http://yoshi2me.com/phpbb/index.php - STD Talk Yoshi2me - 13 Nov 2006 14:49 GMT I with AR on this one. I'm a little surprised that you would take such a big risk Al.
Angela
> Al, > [quoted text clipped - 30 lines] >> Later, >> Al Yoshi2me - 13 Nov 2006 14:43 GMT > I met a new woman whom I have been dating for about 3 months now. We are > doing really well , and she's nothing like my ex (psycho woman) that I was > with. So this new person I am with doesnt have herpes, so she told me, but > she was willing to be with me knowing I have genital herpes. And when was your date made to go and get tested for all std's together? You just took her word for it that she doesn't have herpes or anything else?
> We are intimate and not using condoms, because neither of us are able to > have kids. Oh, well what about contracting other std's that you can't always see or feel... like HIV?
> We were together a day before I got a big outbreak, but she still didnt > get it so thats good. How do you know that she didn't get it? How do you know for sure that she doesn't have it? How do you know for sure that she doesn't have other std's? Just because she "thinks" she's std free doesn't mean that she is. If she is being this free with you then you can probably imagine just how freely she has been with her past partners.
> We did have somewhat of a scare a few days after we had sex, and that was > that about 3 days later she became sore down on her privates and > irritated. It lasted a week for her and that was it, but never happened > again. So I don't know what that means, but I hope nothng happened. Yeah, that's it - you don't know what that means. Did she go to the doctor to get checked out? Do you guys even care about any of this?
Angela
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alfred - 13 Nov 2006 18:56 GMT > Oh, well what about contracting other std's that you can't always see or > feel... like HIV? At this point in my life I've already been with alot of people, so I know I could still get HIV, but to tell you the truth its not a death sentense anymore so if it happened I'd deal with it.
If she is
> being this free with you then you can probably imagine just how freely she > has been with her past partners. We waited 6 weeks before we were intimate.
> Yeah, that's it - you don't know what that means. Did she go to the doctor > to get checked out? Do you guys even care about any of this? No, but we're okay, and she is okay with my situation.
Yoshi2me - 13 Nov 2006 22:26 GMT >> Oh, well what about contracting other std's that you can't always see or >> feel... like HIV? > > At this point in my life I've already been with alot of people, so I know > I could still get HIV, but to tell you the truth its not a death sentense > anymore so if it happened I'd deal with it. Just because you've had sex with a lot of people doesn't mean that you have HIV. You either have it or you don't and if you don't then why would you want to risk contracting it just because you feel like you've slept around?
You're right, contracting HIV is not necessarily a death sentence but that's no reason to settle for contracting it if you don't have to. Besides, you have no idea how your immune system would react to HIV anyway.
> If she is >> being this free with you then you can probably imagine just how freely >> she has been with her past partners. > > We waited 6 weeks before we were intimate. 6 weeks, 1 year ~ who cares? Don't you feel that the both of you have a right to know your std status without a shadow of a doubt?
>> Yeah, that's it - you don't know what that means. Did she go to the >> doctor to get checked out? Do you guys even care about any of this? > > No, but we're okay, and she is okay with my situation. Well, if the two of you are "ok" with what you are doing then who am I to judge, right?
I just felt that you could have been a little smarter about it is all..
Angela
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M2slo2cht@nospam.invalid - 13 Nov 2006 16:34 GMT >just thought I'd say hi to y'all. Angela, Ar, M2, Mike S. >Eric and Perl. Hi back Al, glad to hear things are going well with you. Since I'm here, guess I'll throw in my 2 cents with everyone else ;-) And I agree with everyone so far, especially regarding the condoms. Granted, once you know for sure it's a long term thing, no chance of it ending, the condoms are less an issue. At least it would be for my way of thinking if I were in your shoes, I'd also want to know for sure what her hsv status is. Right now she's guessing so you are too and you don't really have to do that. A blood test isn't all that expensive or hard to get. Maybe someday soon there will be a microbiocide on the market that can replace condoms as the barrier of choice. Until then though, I'd stick with the condoms unless you find out for sure she's positive for the same type hsv as yours. Welcome back and good luck with your new love life ;-)
M2
alfred - 13 Nov 2006 19:03 GMT I'd also want to know for
> sure what her hsv status is. Right now she's guessing so you are too > and you don't really have to do that. A blood test isn't all that > expensive or hard to get. True, but if she has herpes, then she can't get it and I can't either, and if she doesnt have herpes then she can get it, but she said she was aware of the dangers and has accepted it already. She said that during the 6 weeks that we waited to have sex, she was sorting out in her mind if she was able to take the risk of getting it. Then after 6 weeks she told me she was and now we are together.
I might have already given her herpes, and she said that its true I might have after the scare we had, but now she's over it and okay with it.
I know we arent married, but married couples don't usually use condoms unless they are trying to prevent pregnancy and we arent able to have kids. We are however thinking about marriage.
Al
M2slo2cht@nospam.invalid - 13 Nov 2006 19:38 GMT M2:
> I'd also want to know for >> sure what her hsv status is.
>True, but if she has herpes, then she can't get it and I can't either, and >if she doesnt have herpes then she can get it, but she said she was aware of >the dangers and has accepted it already. She said that during the 6 weeks >that we waited to have sex, ok, fine, but.......
>I might have already given her herpes, and she said that its true I might >have after the scare we had, You make my point here better than I did. Using your logic, there never should have been a "scare" because "she was aware of the dangers and has accepted it already".
>but now she's over it and okay with it. Wanna bet? Next time you have a close call, I'll bet she (and you) won't handle it with absolutely no stress and no worry, the way your logic tells you you should, even though your logic makes sense. Sometimes it just doesn't work that way. Which brings me back to my point, which is, Knowing where you both stand, as far as hsv status is concerned, *can* eliminate the worry ... but, that's just me.
M2
grant - 13 Nov 2006 21:21 GMT All I'm hearing is a selfish man making excuses not to use condoms.
ar
grant - 13 Nov 2006 20:11 GMT > I know we arent married, but married couples don't usually use condoms > unless they are trying to prevent pregnancy and we arent able to have > kids. We are however thinking about marriage. > > Al Really? How do you know married couples don't usually use condoms. I did.
ar
Yoshi2me - 13 Nov 2006 22:32 GMT Married couples use condoms all the time.
Angela :)
>> I know we arent married, but married couples don't usually use condoms >> unless they are trying to prevent pregnancy and we arent able to have [quoted text clipped - 6 lines] > > ar alfred - 15 Nov 2006 14:35 GMT I am sure there are married couples that use condoms, but I am not one of them. I have never liked condoms because they are too tight and they loose alot of feeling. I've had alot of parteners and unfortunately had gotten a few more things besides herpes in my time, but luckily thats all I am left with now.
My girlfriend and I am really okay with what our status is. I was just wondering about with what happened that time we were together after 3 days, but I don't know...
Al
> Married couples use condoms all the time. > > Angela :) Yoshi2me - 16 Nov 2006 13:26 GMT Well, if you are ok with not knowing her status for std's then what can you do, ya know? As far as possible symptoms go there is no sense in racking your brain trying to figure it out since everything is just pretty much hunky dory.. ya know?
Angela
>I am sure there are married couples that use condoms, but I am not one of >them. I have never liked condoms because they are too tight and they loose [quoted text clipped - 11 lines] >> >> Angela :) M2slo2cht@nospam.invalid - 16 Nov 2006 19:40 GMT >I was just >wondering about with what happened that time we were together after 3 days, >but I don't know... .... hmmm ...... might help if you rephrased the question. What were you were wondering??
M2
alfred - 17 Nov 2006 01:01 GMT Hi M2,
Well according to my girlfriend she is not worried that we had that incident after 3 days that lasted a week, because it never happened again. I was the one that was wondering what exactly happened to her. Maybe it was just that she wasnt used to sex. She described it as "pain down there, and soreness" and it lasted a week and there were red areas on her privates she said. If I gave her herpes, then wouldnt she have had another outbreak by now since it was her first time? Although maybe not, I know herpes is unpredictable. Plus she could have already had it and have been having a regular outbreak.
Al
> .... hmmm ...... might help if you rephrased the question. > What were you were wondering?? > > M2 M2slo2cht@nospam.invalid - 17 Nov 2006 02:57 GMT >wouldnt she have had another outbreak by now since it >was her first time? Nope. Not necessarily.
>Although maybe not, I know herpes is unpredictable. Unpredictable is an understatement. But it *is* detectible (with a blood test). So if you'd like to know.... and I think you both should.... now would be a good time for a blood test or two. If it's positive now, no more worrying and wondering. If it's negative now but another one in 12-16 weeks is positive, the "scare" was probably an hsv transfer. If it's negative now and still negative in 12-16 weeks, the "scare" was something else, no telling what, but she might want to check into that further.
M2
Yoshi2me - 17 Nov 2006 12:59 GMT There is only ONE way to find out if she has herpes or not.
Angela
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> Hi M2, > [quoted text clipped - 14 lines] >> >> M2 nightowl - 17 Nov 2006 14:14 GMT Al,
Although I don't post often, your continued non-chalance has prompted me to. You've had HSV and HPV for a long time is my understanding, so for you to still have all these questions (i.e. "wouldn't she have had another outbreak by now..") kind of puzzles me.
Since you guys waited 3 months to have sex, it might have been wise for both of you (especially you given your health concerns already) to go take a quick, easy test. You have had a myriad of health issues apparently, and for you to not want to know every detail regarding this woman's sexual health is a little baffling.
I'm glad that you're "okay" with your status and hers. But I'd hate for others reading your posts to take this kind of attitude. Knowledge is everything, especially when dealing with STD's. I guess what I'm saying is, it's nothing I will ever take lightly again, and I will encourage everyone I know to do the same.
I am happy that you think you may have finally found "the one"....we all know you've been diligently looking for her.... :)
But for everyone else reading these posts, and especially to those of you new to HSV, it doesn't take long and it's not difficult for new couples to get an HSV test (plus all other STDS), so please do that for yourselves!
Happy Thanksgiving to you all! Michelle
> Hi M2, > [quoted text clipped - 13 lines] > > > > M2
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