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Medical Forum / Diseases and Disorders / Herpes / October 2006Do I have to tell or no?
Hi all, 2 1/2 years back I was diagnosed with having HPV. My form caused cervical dysplasia. No warts. For the last 3 paps (done every 6 months), I have had no abnormal cells. In addition, the last test included a DNA test for strains that tend to cause cancer. They came up negative. According to what I read, the body can get rid of the virus on its own which happens most often. I have been dating this guy for about two months. I think things may get serious. I had already told him that I was a depression/anxiety sufferer who is on medication to control the symptoms. He took it well and admitted to some seasonal depression. Yesterday, when I thought things would get intimate, I told him that if we decided to have sex, I wanted him to get tested. I had gotten my test results yesterday on a full std panel test. ALL NEGATIVE. YIPPEE. But, I relayed what had happend to me with the hpv. I framed it with "you know that vaccine that's being talked about over the news and tv...." His response was "not to sweat the small stuff". My mother thinks that I shouldn't have told him. That I "don't have it" anymore. But, even if I don't, it's part of my sexual history and according to Planned Parenthood, we should all be frank about previous infections, even those that are cured (think chlamidya). I don't have HIV and I don't have Hep, which could without a doubt end my life. I don't know if I will see him again. I got a bad vibe which is bad because I actually do like him. But,I carry this baggage. Was I right to disclose? Or, should I consider this chapter of my life, closed and done with? Hi Dannie, I think that you were right to tell. If anything, he knows you are honest and care about his health. There's nothing wrong with that. It is a tough decision to tell about an infection that is over now. I've been pondering that about my HPV as well. I've not had any of the new tests, but it's been 21 years since I was treated for warts and they've never come back... ar > Hi all, > [quoted text clipped - 25 lines] > to disclose? Or, should I consider this chapter of my life, closed and > done with? Hi Dannie, Think about it this way. Does it make you feel right with yourself for telling him? Even if he takes it badly, you still did what you thought was the right thing to do. I suppose I would get the opinion of a doc that Knows what he's doing. I don't know much about hpv, but I would ask a doc things like can the virus "hide", does it get cured? Get the hard facts to help you decide for yourself. Take Care, Wanda > Hi all, > [quoted text clipped - 25 lines] > to disclose? Or, should I consider this chapter of my life, closed and > done with? I'm actually composing a letter to him with a link to the hpv website on Planned Parenthood. I was too nervous to do that talking to him. I think they relay std information very well. Even if he rejects me, I'll at least be able to say that I informed someone (like that damn commercial) > Hi Dannie, > Think about it this way. Does it make you feel right with yourself for [quoted text clipped - 35 lines] > > to disclose? Or, should I consider this chapter of my life, closed and > > done with? Oh yeah, the commercials. Some of them are kind of funny and some of them kinda tick me off. Here's a tip that I and several others on here have told people. The way a person reacts to what you tell them depends greatly on how you tell them. If you act like it's the end of the world, then how do you think they are going to act? See? Soon after I had been diagnosed I had to go to my dermatologist for a yearly body check because I have a few spots that could turn to skin cancer. I hemmed and hawed around trying to tell her and when I finally got it out her reply was,:Oh! I thought you were going to tell me you had aids or something bad!" Now THAT was kinda an eye opener! Anyway, Good Luck! Wanda > I'm actually composing a letter to him with a link to the hpv website > on Planned Parenthood. I was too nervous to do that talking to him. I [quoted text clipped - 41 lines] > > > to disclose? Or, should I consider this chapter of my life, closed and > > > done with? |
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