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Medical Forum / Diseases and Disorders / Herpes / August 2006Back to the drawing board!
Hi everyone, I'm almost ready to give up on dating. Every woman I meet that I think is going to accept me having herpes, drops me like a hot potatoe, for "another reason" as they say. So I am still in the process of trying to meet new people. I have 3 good prospects, but I am scared to tell them about having herpes, because I am almost sure they will drop me and I am a veteran about herpes sort of. I'm going to bring that up in the next herpes meeting I go to. About talking to new dates about it. One woman I told about having genital herpes to, actually told me I should date people with herpes. I felt hurt and insulted. Its like, I'm not good enough to date anyone unless they have herpes also. Its amazing how everyone is so trivial and forgets that I am a real person with real feelings and alot of good qualities! I'm the same person I have always been before I got herpes. I'm just venting... Al Al, Hang in there, man. Don't let close-minded people get you down. I'm glad you are in the process with 3 good prospects. The only thing I could suggest is maybe wait until you get a little closer to someone before telling them, that way maybe they can get to see some of your good qualities and women who you want to be with will recognize them and not let H get in the way. As for the lady who told you that you should only date in the herpes community, tell her that she should too because odds are she has herpes too, either hsv-1 or hsv-2. You are most certainly good enough to date people with and without H. Remain honest and upfront, be persistent, and keep your chin up and you'll find love. ~Eric > Hi everyone, > [quoted text clipped - 18 lines] > > Al Sorry to hear about your frustration, Al. Just take a break from dating for awhile. From a woman's perspective--you date a lot. Which I believe they call a serial dater. And a lot of women are turned off by that. Perhaps herpes had nothing to do with some of those women. ar > Hi everyone, > [quoted text clipped - 18 lines] > > Al I think maybe you are so used to being in relationships that you don't know how to be by yourself. You are in and out of relationships quicker than lickety-split. Maybe give yourself some time alone and stop trying so hard to be in a relationship all the time. Maybe when you are no longer looking the right person for you will bump into you and you won't have to work so hard. Angela :)  Signature"By opening up to a partner and talking about an STD diagnosis you are showing that you respect and care about yourself as well as the other person." Herpes Help http://yoshi2me.com/index.html Shut Up & Post! http://yoshi2me.com/phpbb/index.php Herpes Blog http://herpes-help.blogspot.com/ > Hi everyone, > [quoted text clipped - 18 lines] > > Al Hi everyone, Well it is true I do date alot at times anyway...more so in the warmer weather. In the winter I'm like a hermit. I'm not going to let it get to me. Maybe everyone is right and the right person will just come along when I am not looking. I hope so. Al > I think maybe you are so used to being in relationships that you don't know > how to be by yourself. You are in and out of relationships quicker than [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] > > Angela :) |
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