Well Dannie,

Many people have HPV, herpes or both. Its really pretty common and I
think the percentage is about equal for either nationally. You're
definitly not alone. I have both, had them around 11 years each and I
am still nervous about rejection when I tell people, but I don't try
and appologize, I just tell it like it is. Having genital herpes and
genital warts (HPV) are so common that he might even have one or both
and not even know it. Did you know that about 90% of people with these
particular STD's don't even know it?! I was one of those people for a
while myself. You can go to Angela's site www.yoshi2me.com because she
has information on both of these viruses. You can also go to
www.antopia.com which has two sites that have some information such as
www.gothpv.com and www.gotherpes.com.

As far as telling someone, I play it by ear. Some people I wait until
the 2nd or 3rd date, others I tell right away. I feel them out. I think
3 months would be kind of long to wait, but thats just me.

Al

Good job, Dannie!  It's so difficult to tell someone sometimes.  Whether or
not it is the right time...well, in my opinion, it's always the right time.
It does no good to second guess yourself.

I have a friend with only one kidney.  She was serious about this one guy
and was stressing out about telling him that she only had one kidney.  I had
to try not to laugh.  I would LOVE to have that be the one bad thing I'm
hiding from a potential partner.  :)  But to her it was the most serious
thing.  I guess my point is that we all have our "things."  And if someone
doesn't want to deal with that particular "thing" then it's a good idea for
them to be out of our lives.
As for my friend, it's too bad her then-boyfriend and now-husband didn't
have the courage to tell her he is an abuser and will make the rest of her
life absolutely miserable.  Makes the one kidney thing look like a walk in
the park.

Take care,
ar

Any time before you have sex is always the right time whether that be right
away OR after you get to know the person better.

Whatever you are most comfortable with is what's important as long as it's
before sex. :)

This is just something you're going to have to try and be patient about, ya
know?

Try not to force the issue. He may want some time to think OR to do some
research. You don't want to make him feel as though he is being backed into
a corner with no way to check things out first.. ya know?

Whatever you do... you don't want to come across as "desperate"... being
open and honest is a good thing but you also have to be smart about this.

Angela : )