Ok Spidey, and/or anyone else who might care.

I'll try one last time, though I don't understand how my words
got so twisted and misinterpreted.

First, Cody posts a link to a website that he thinks is funny and
that others in this group would enjoy.

Folks, trusting Cody, click on that link and are taken to this
website where there's a parody of a gay Jesus sashaying thru the
streets singing "I will survive", only to be taken out by a bus.

Some folks felt sucker-punched by this video -- they expected
humor and got their belief system slammed instead.   Imagine
yourself in their position -- you don't have to agree with their
beliefs, but you should be able to respect their right to those
beliefs enough to understand why they'd be upset about Cody
posting this link to begin with.

These folks react to that post, protesting the act, and asking
that he refrain from doing that again.  Does he say "oops, you're
right, I was being insensitive and I'm sorry.  I'll try to be
more careful"?    yeah right.   NO, instead, he defends his
actions and states that he'll do what he wants and the hell with
other folks feelings.  Others pipe up, "geeze, what's wrong with
you?  that video was FUNNY"...  invalidating the honest reaction
some folks had to that video.  More protests garner more negative
response from the support group, defending/enabling Cody's
initial action.

So, not only did you all make it "ok" for Cody to do and say
anything he wants, you defended his actions by telling the
protestors that THEY were wrong to protest, and they needed to
get a sense of humor.   Not to mention that anyone (me) who
protested the action in general got painted with the 'religious
zealot' brush whether they were speaking from a religious
viewpoint or not.

MY objections are not that they made fun of Christians.  My
objection is that a very special, wonderful member of this group
got hurt by trusting another member of this group and going to a
website for a bit of humor, and got kicked in the head by a
stupid video that attacked the very thing that is getting her
through a very tough point in her life.  And everyone here seems
to think that's OK.

Paul made a point about sharing a sexist joke making fun of
Nurses and how if he was to worry about everyone's feelings about
these things that he could never share these "funny" jokes.  Er,
sorry Paul but that's exactly the point.  Many of us don't think
that's acceptable material to be sharing in this newsgroup.  If
we stop and think before we share something that may be offensive
or hurtful, maybe there will be a lot less hurt feelings and a
lot more trust.

I don't want to fight with anyone.  I'm disappointed that my
attempt to communicate something important to me was met with
such derision and misundertanding.  I'm disappointed that the
heads in this group that I considered the coolest and most able
to access a situation and understand someone's concerns
misinterpreted what I tried to say....  I'm also very
disappointed that my concerns have been dismissed as emotional
over-reactions and trivialized the way they were.

mostly I'm just appalled that you all think it was 'ok' for Cody
to share that video to begin with.  He had to know that some
folks were going to be very upset with it.  And if he really had
his head so far up his a.s that he didn't realize it, at the very
least he could be accountable and apologize to the folks that he
hurt, instead of spewing more ugliness trying to defend his
behavior.

I know I'm spinning my wheels and wasting my efforts here :)  But
Spidey and Paul did comment and I hope they understand a bit
better where I am coming from.

Sara