I wondered if he might have thought it was *his fault (genetic), but
purposely or accidentally took his 'guilt feelings' out on his Child
instead...  I think it's on Julie's site plus some others where people
in Olden Days used to think that Epilepsy and some other conditions
were Punishments for either their not living right, or the way they
were,  as opposed to a condition You had, from infection or condition
you had no way of causing.
  It's unfortunate that you'll probably carry some of those imprinted
feelings (from your childhood)  that were instilled in *error by Others
(family or friends),  and those feelings are often hard to shake off.
Often we may not even realize we're putting some guilt onto ourselves,
about what caused this (seizures) to happen, when there are probably
Biologic or Accident, or other causes for why we had any seizures to
start with.
 And *none of them are because of what others might Say or Judge in
us,  but have a biologic or physical cause that is better understood
now than it was 50? years ago.  I don't know what to suggest to
convince yourself that *None of those feelings or Guilt Trips are
because of anything you **could have done Differently.
  The pain and mistreatment are *likely the result of fears or
mis-guided feelings of Others, especially those who were supposed to be
Close to us, and Protect us, while we grew up.
 And that's why I think this Group is Valuable too. It's a place where
we can try to  Purge some of those 'demons',  or feelings we got from
others or ourselves,  that weren't appropriate. But being Younger or
Vulnerable, we allowed those feelings of guilt to be put onto **us, in
error,  when it wasn't something we had any control over.

 In some cases it *is a learning exercise in compassion or trying not
to go overboard in judging others too quickly, as sometimes that was
how we got caught-up when we were younger.  Other times, it can teach
us that **others might be naturally cruel, and like you said earlier,
we might hope that they could have been put into the same type of
situation where **they would learn how hurtful and negative some of
their behaviours can be.
 I still think about how a couple of Senior managers behaved *25 years
ago, and I'm glad they've never shown up at any Retired Group Parties I
go to. I no longer depend on either of them for my income so could
express to them how incredibly incompetent they both were as senior
managers, and how lacking in training they both were, vs. how a senior
manager *should have behaved back then..  International Year of the
Disabled,  indeed...

 Many times though, like I might have mentioned earlier, **some of the
other's behaviours  *Might be either from Fears they had for you, that
*they might have caused the condition? via Genetics, or how they
treated you or brought you up when you were younger.   And other times,
it might just be Plain old Fear,  that the condition was something
*They couldn't control (of help), and also You couldn't control, even
if you had wanted to...   G./

Well, we have this group.

Don't you hate when we are possessed? :-)

My parents have only been supportive and helpful.  You should say that
to your father, how he drove you away and opposite everything he stood
for because of his prejudice and ignorance.  That he is being an idiot.

Mind you, the biggest thing for me is the tremendous pain in the a** the
restrictions are to my life. If I didn't work from home I'd be in huge
trouble.  As a part time musician, it's shut that down 90%, which is
very depressing!

Best of luck.

Not so bloody easy. And even if you do find a new one, is s/he/it
competent?