I've heard you guys talk about "denial" and I need your
input.

Hubby was diagnosed a year ago. (T2)

He's followed the doctor's orders, lost weight, got active,
got fit - and his bg numbers are good.  So good that he
was recently taken *off* the glipazide to see how he
manages on diet alone.  I certainly had a hand in his
diet changes at first, but now he has taken control of
that for himself.

He looks great on it - he looks 10 years younger.  Changed
his whole wardrobe, bought home gym equipment, started
wearing fashionable clothing.

But for the last 9 months he's been going out to the pub - and
going to night clubs -  and staying out ALL NIGHT (sometimes
till the next afternoon) at least once per week.  He NEVER
ever did this before then.  If he went out, he came back
when the pub closed, or called if he was staying over.
Now he doesn't.  I go frantic and he waltzes in and says
"don't know why you were worried - I was fine".

He won't look at support groups, won't read any literature
on diabetes, won't talk to other diabetics about advice, etc.
(we both have several long time diabetics in the family)

He was then diagnosed with depression (this was about
when he started going out so much).  He carried on
going out drinking at least once per week, despite taking
anti-depressants.  Then he stopped taking them because
"they weren't working" (this was not at his doctor's advice).

He started talking about "taking time out" on our marriage,
got involved with some female he met in the pub.  HE says
they are "pals" - but *she* definately thought that they
were .... starting a relationship, even though it hadn't got
beyond spending long boozy evenings in the pub or him
making sure she got home from there when she was too
drunk to stand up straight. (from both their accounts)
She thought he was single, seperated but still living with
ex-wife as a "flatmate".  (they've known each other about
6 weeks now)

She ruined Xmas for me by calling incessantly (by this
time she'd been put right about our relationship) and
even turning up in a taxi at our door late Xmas night.)(she
was drunk, of course).

NONE of this was even on the horizon before the diabetes
thing - could (as I suspect) this all be a kind of ... rebellion?
(btw, he's 44 and we've been married for 22 years, been
together for 26 years)