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Medical Forum / Diseases and Disorders / Diabetes / September 2008sexual health advice (off topic)
-no-archive:yes I am a male 35 and married for 13 years. I have posted before that I have always had a problem with PE. Sex usually lasts 1 minute and about70-90 strokes. ANyhow, over the years I have tried everything, creams, doctor's prescriptions for anti depressents, rings, psychologists visits, practicing stopping/starting with myself, all to no avail. My wife does not want to "stop and start" during actual sex because she does not like it. I try to talk to her about how being quick bothers me and frankly it does not feel very good to just have sex for a minute. She really does not want to talk about it. To be truthful, part of me thinks she likes having power over me in this regard but that is a different story. To make a long story short I have been thinking of trying MUSE an erection aid that is a urethral supository because one of the side effects it says is "erection may continue after orgasm" I do not have erection problems although most of the time they are not full erections and if I dont receive constant stimulation I somtimes lose it. Anyway my family doctor would call me in a 250 mcg pack to try. (He thinks I have erections problems, I did not tell him what I was thinking). One thing that scares me is it says that rarely priprism can occur and that you could possible lose the ability to get an erection at all if this were to happen. My wife says she does not want me to get any medication and seems frustrated everytime I talk about it. I told her I reserved the right and she said "fine" Anyhow, we do have a good relationship but this PE thing has been bothering me my whole life and my new years resolution was to make significant improment in this area this year. This is a legitimate person with a legitimate problem and I appreciate any help you can provide! > -no-archive:yes > [quoted text clipped - 37 lines] > This is a legitimate person with a legitimate problem and I appreciate > any help you can provide! it sounds like no one cares about this but you , so , do what you want to do about it > -no-archive:yes > [quoted text clipped - 12 lines] > thinks she likes having power over me in this regard but that is a > different story. If part of the problem is your 1 minute or 70/90 strokes is insufficient to bring your partner to orgasm, can you bring her really close in other ways and then apply the 1 minute etc.? Or is she satisfied with that 1 minute etc. and it's your satisfaction which is inhibited? In that case, is there activity other than that involving strokes which adds to your pleasure, in which case that could be a focus and your one minute be the icing on the cake? As it were. [snipped the rest] Disclaimer: Not only am I not male, but it's been over 20 years since I had first hand knowledge of the topic under discussion, so this is really REALLY theoretical on my part. Priscilla > -no-archive:yes > [quoted text clipped - 12 lines] > thinks she likes having power over me in this regard but that is a > different story. The key question is does she have orgasms? Some women get enough pleasure from sex without achieving orgasms, personally I don't see how. If she simple don't like sex, giving you 1 minute of pleasure and getting it over with ASP might be her goal. If you went to a sex therapist alone, the therapist might have been treating the wrong partner. Sarah > To make a long story short I have been thinking of trying MUSE an > erection aid that is a urethral supository because one of the side [quoted text clipped - 20 lines] > This is a legitimate person with a legitimate problem and I appreciate > any help you can provide! >-no-archive:yes > >I am a male 35 and married for 13 years. I have posted before that I >have always had a problem with PE. Sex usually lasts 1 minute and >about70-90 strokes. Snip >This is a legitimate person with a legitimate problem and I appreciate >any help you can provide! Check with the alt.support.impotence newsgroup. Very caring people with good info. From postings on the newsgroup, MUSE does not seem to work as well as Trimix and is a little more painful to use. Charlie I understand that viagra slows down premature ejaculation. I think your wife is telling you something. She doesnt care that it is only a minute. I dont know how your sex life is, but if its slam bam thank you maam, she is glad that it is over so soon. Maybe you two need a sex therapist. jmo Loretta -- In tribute to the United States of America and the State of Israel, two bastions of strength in a world filled with strife and terrorism. > -no-archive:yes > [quoted text clipped - 37 lines] > This is a legitimate person with a legitimate problem and I appreciate > any help you can provide! Get circumcised, that desensitizes the head. When that heals start masturbating daily. That will increase your endurance. You might also try masturbating 1 hour before sex. The second orgasm usually takes longer. > I am a male 35 and married for 13 years. I have posted before that I > have always had a problem with PE. Sex usually lasts 1 minute and > about70-90 strokes. > ANyhow, over the years I have tried everything, creams, doctor's > prescriptions for anti depressents, rings, psychologists visits, > practicing stopping/starting with myself, all to no avail. Have you tried just slowing down rather than stopping? 70-90 strokes a minute sounds like a race to me. [snip] > To make a long story short I have been thinking of trying MUSE an > erection aid that is a urethral supository because one of the side > effects it says is "erection may continue after orgasm" I do not have > erection problems although most of the time they are not full erections > and if I dont receive constant stimulation I somtimes lose it. Some people would call that an erection problem. But you don't mention how long you leave between orgasms. The kind of thing thing you describe above is a well known effect of too much sex. > One thing that scares me is it says that rarely priprism can occur and > that you could possible lose the ability to get an erection at all if > this were to happen. That does sound scarey. Is this something that only happens with certain people, so that if it doesn't happen to you the first time you know you're safe, or it a constant risk you run every time you use it of being unlucky?  SignatureChris Malcolm cam@infirmatics.ed.ac.uk DoD #205 IPAB, Informatics, JCMB, King's Buildings, Edinburgh, EH9 3JZ, UK [http://www.dai.ed.ac.uk/homes/cam/] > -no-archive:yes > [quoted text clipped - 37 lines] > This is a legitimate person with a legitimate problem and I appreciate > any help you can provide! My spouse used to do item 2 and my angle of erection got better and better. Info available here: http://www.howtohavekillersex.com/libiduspenisoil2.pdf Have you considered learning about Tantric Sex? http://www.tantra.com/mission/lacroix.html >-no-archive:yes > [quoted text clipped - 37 lines] >This is a legitimate person with a legitimate problem and I appreciate >any help you can provide! SignatureGrandpa Chuck -ô¿ô- ~ Americans killed in Iraq as of January 22, 2007 is 3059. United Kingdom = 130 Other = 123. Non-Mortal American casualties 47,657 as of January 10, 2007. Over 100 Iraqi civilians are killed every day. Most by so-called insurgents. As of January 23, 2007 it has been 1360 days since Bush while standing in front of the banner which was sent to the ship by the White House that said, "MISSION ACCOMPLISHED" declared, "In the Battle of Iraq, the United States and our allies have prevailed." IOW "MISSION ACCOMPLISHED." "When fascism comes to America, it will be wrapped in the flag, and carrying a cross." --Sinclair Lewis So where is strypd -- In tribute to the United States of America and the State of Israel, two bastions of strength in a world filled with strife and terrorism. Maybe home, practicing some of the advice. :-) Cheri Loretta Eisenberg wrote in message <29120-45B68B99-1449@storefull-3233.bay.webtv.net>... So where is strypd -- In tribute to the United States of America and the State of Israel, two bastions of strength in a world filled with strife and terrorism. > So where is strypd LOL, now is this one of those instances where you wanted to hear how the advice turned out from the original OP? Me too :-P Rica and Cheri, I am dying to know the outcome. hahahaha Loretta -- In tribute to the United States of America and the State of Israel, two bastions of strength in a world filled with strife and terrorism. Me too. LOL Cheri Loretta Eisenberg wrote in message <18451-45C0FB1B-1663@storefull-3238.bay.webtv.net>... Rica and Cheri, I am dying to know the outcome. hahahaha Loretta -- In tribute to the United States of America and the State of Israel, two bastions of strength in a world filled with strife and terrorism. > -no-archive:yes > [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] > prescriptions for anti depressents, rings, psychologists visits, > practicing stopping/starting with myself, all to no avail. When you say sex usually lasts 1 minute and 70 to 90 strokes, dude that's a LOT of strokes in 1 minute. It sounds as if you are penetrating her and immediately banging away wildly at a frantic pace. That can't be any fun for her, OR you. You say you have tried everything, but frankly, I don't believe you. In your case, it sounds to me as if some form of surrogate therapy might be of help, because your own words indicate you never learned how to conduct the sexual act so that it is mutually satisfying for you and your partner. Good sex is something most people have to learn how to do. As for the MUSE, which people have been advising you not to take for months, in numerous on-topic and off-topic newsgroups, what's the big deal? If you're that fixated on taking it, go ahead and take it. It might cause priapism, sure... but life is one big gamble. You go out for a healthy run and you might get hit by a bus. right? The bigger likelihood is that it will do absolutely nothing for you except hurt your penis... since most men your age totally lose interest in sex after they have an orgasm, even if their penis stays hard for a while. But it's a lot easier to obsess about MUSE being the miracle cure than it is to take a cold hard look at yourself and deal with your actual problems. You and your wife need therapy. Wanda Erectile Dysfunction (inability to sustain erection) is a very common disorder which most men face in there life at some stage for one reason or the other like high blood pressure, high cholesterol, diabetes, fatigue, stress, physical injuries, certain medication, smoking and alcohol consumption. The exact reason behind your problem can only be judged by a specialist and only then one should use the medicines prescribed. You can have the information on ED and ED related drugs (Viagra, Levitra and Cialis) on http://www.levitrabliss.com . Levitra is a FDA approved drug and is used to cure erectile dysfunction in male. This medicine helps in treating impotency and ED disorders in men suffering from risky medical conditions like high blood pressure, high cholesterol and diabetes. This is the reason why this medicine is being preferred over other impotency medicines. But the results and side effects may vary from person to person so it’s advisable to use this medicine in accordance with the instructions of the physician. The best thing one can do is to consult an urologist, get to the root of the problem and have the medication prescribed. |
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