Sorry to hear of your loss!  I remember all the food when my husband's
grandma died.  People were bringing it to his aunt, who at the time lived
alone.  She had no place to put all the food, so she had her sons bring some
to my mother in law's house.  Things were hectic and I don't think she knew
exactly what all was brought over.  There were a ton of cream filled
pastries that should have been refrigerated, but since there was no room in
her fridge, they had sat at room temp. for too long.  We had to toss them
out.  Mainly what we wound up with was a ton of pasta dishes.  Even though
my husband's family is Italian, they got sick of all the pasta and a lot of
it was tossed out.  Everyone felt overwhelmed with the amount of food they
got.

My deepest condolences, I'm so very sorry to hear this.

I lost my own Father to cancer a few years ago, and I know all too
well some of what it must be like for you..

Take all the time you can to come to terms with this. Nothing makes it
easy, but time is the only thing that seems to help.

You and your mother certainly have an additional burden in these, the
most trying of times.

Take care, and be there for each other.

Best wishes and condolences;
Chris J.

So sorry to hear of your loss : (   You need to take extra care of
yourselves right now, because stress can compromise your immune system. You
could try asking for specific foods? And then remembering to eat them...

Nicky.

My sympathies to you and yours.

--
Cheri

Wild Monkshood wrote in message ...

my sincere empathy for you at this time of loss

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kate

On Sun, 09 Oct 2005 22:40:10 -0400, Wild Monkshood
<wild_monkshood@bellsouth.net> Huffed and Puffed the following into
the madness of usenet:

Sorry to hear that.  Words are never adequate, but you are not alone.

Glad to hear that.

But

Yea, they mean well but they always bring not only way too much be
frequently the wrong things.

You can do like I do and take the excess to the local shelter and
donate it in your father's memory.

So sorry to hear of your loss :-(
Hope you weather this difficult time without too much stress.

I am so sorry for your loss. My father died 10 yrs ago and it just
seems like yestarday. I was ok until the organ started at the service.
Keep the good memories,toss out the bad.
You are under a lot of stress and just try to eat without all the
worry. That will be one less stress to have.
I like the idea of an expanding frig.  
Ira T2

Sending cake home with friends and reletives is a great idea!!  Another is
ot encourage peole to bring ca cooked chicken, or, what my sister in law
brought when my Mom died, a nice home made neatloaf without a lot of
breading.  this really helps with meals and does no harm to the bgs.  

IN our faiath, we have prayer services morning and evening for a wekek
after teh fundral. As the people coming for the mornign service usually
had not eaten any breakfast, I woudl put out OJ, hot coffee and lots of
those cakes that kept coming.  I woudl often send boxes with the teenagers
to share with their frineds.    

Wendy

Wild Monk, I am so sorry to hear about your loss.

It is hard under these trying times to be so careful.

My friends husband died last Friday .  He had a massive heart attack.
He was not a well man.  He had diabetes for thirty years and until the
last three years he was hardly compliant.  He had a heart condition,
neuropathy, pulmonary problems .  I believe all of this was from the
diabetes.  He died in a minute.

My religion has a custom we call sitting shiva.  The family sits for a
week on wooden boxes and people come over to keep the family company and
bring laughter into the room.  They also bring food.  The cakes are
piled high to the ceiling.  I hve been going there every day to keep her
company.  I am gaining weight keeping her company.  The platters of food
are unreal.  My numbers have been good, but there are little cheats here
and there.  

Food is comfort and at a time like this you need a little comfort.

Again, I am so sorry for your loss.

Loretta

--
In tribute to the United States of America and the State
of Israel, two bastions of strength in a world filled with strife and
terrorism.

All of my best wishes and prayers to you and your family.  It is so
hard to find words -- so I'll just send you a hug and some tissues.  

If you are using the diabetic 2PD-OMER Approach, it should not matter
how much folks bring to you.

In Christ's love and service forevermore,

Andrew

--
Andrew B. Chung, MD/PhD
Board-Certified Cardiologist

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