http://HeartMDPhD.com/Valuelesssatan

<><

http://HeartMDPhD.com/HolySpirit/Warns

In his own distorted wold, Ching is the center of the world!

From Dr. Sam Vaknin's excellent site about pathological narcissism:

The narcissist is the centre of the world. He is not merely the centre
of HIS world - as far as he can tell, he is the centre of THE world.
This Archimedean delusion is one of the narcissist's most predominant
and all-pervasive cognitive distortions. The narcissist feels certain
that he is the source of all events around him, the origin of all the
emotions of his nearest or dearest, the fount of all knowledge, both
the first and the final cause, the beginning as well as the end.

This is understandable.

The narcissist derives his sense of being, his experience of his own
existence, and his self-worth from the outside. He mines others for
Narcissistic Supply - adulation, attention, reflection, fear. Their
reactions stoke his furnace. Absent Narcissistic Supply - the
narcissist disintegrates and self-annihilates. When unnoticed, he
feels empty and worthless. The narcissist MUST delude himself into
believing that he is persistently the focus and object of the
attentions, intentions, plans, feelings, and stratagems of other
people. The narcissist faces a stark choice - either be (or become)
the permanent centre of the world, or cease to be altogether.

This constant obsession with one's locus, with one's centrality, with
one's position as a hub - leads to referential ideation ("ideas of
reference"). This is the conviction that one is at the receiving end
of other people's behaviours, speech, and even thoughts. The person
suffering from delusional ideas of reference is at the centre and
focus of the constant (and confabulated) attentions of an imaginary
audience.

When people talk - the narcissist is convinced that he is the topic of
discussion. When they quarrel - he is most probably the cause. When
they smirk - he is the victim of their ridicule. If they are unhappy -
he made them so. If they are happy - they are egotists for ignoring
him. He is convinced that his behaviour is continuously monitored,
criticized, compared, dissected, approved of, or imitated by others.
He deems himself so indispensable and important, such a critical
component of other people's lives, that his every act, his every word,
his every omission - is bound to upset, hurt, uplift, or satisfy his
audience.

And, to the narcissist, everyone is but an audience. It all emanates
from him - and it all reverts to him. The narcissist's is a circular
and closed universe. His ideas of reference are a natural extension of
his primitive defence mechanisms (omnipotence, omniscience,
omnipresence).

Being omnipresent explains why everyone, everywhere is concerned with
him. Being omnipotent and omniscient excludes other, lesser, beings
from enjoying the admiration, adulation, and attention of people.

Yet, the attrition afforded by years of tormenting ideas of reference
inevitably yields paranoiac thinking.

To preserve his egocentric cosmology, the narcissist is compelled to
attribute fitting motives and psychological dynamics to others. Such
motives and dynamics have little to do with reality. They are
PROJECTED by the narcissist UNTO others so as to maintain his personal
mythology.

In other words, the narcissist attributes to others HIS OWN motives
and psychodynamics. And since narcissists are mostly besieged by
transformations of aggression (rage, hatred, envy, fear) - these they
often attribute to others as well. Thus, the narcissist tends to
interpret other people's behaviour as motivated by anger, fear,
hatred, or envy and as directed at him or revolving around him. The
narcissist (often erroneously) believes that people discuss him,
gossip about him, hate him, defame him, mock him, berate him,
underestimate him, envy him, or fear him. He is (often rightly)
convinced that he is, to others, the source of hurt, humiliation,
impropriety, and indignation. The narcissist "knows" that he is a
wonderful, powerful, talented, and entertaining person - but this only
explains why people are jealous and why they seek to undermine and
destroy him.

Thus, since the narcissist is unable to secure the long term POSITIVE
love, admiration, or even attention of his Sources of Supply - he
resorts to a mirror strategy. In other words, the narcissist becomes
paranoid. Better to be the object of (often imaginary and always self
inflicted) derision, scorn, and bile - than to be ignored. Being
envied is preferable to being treated with indifference. If he cannot
be loved - the narcissist would rather be feared or hated than
forgotten.