Mike,
You are treading on tragedy, and that has to be done with the care. Those
who are dealing with this devastation may not want to be put under the
magnifying glass of a school project.
If you want to lurk and learn, I might find that acceptable, but some might
not.
My spouse had Alzheimer disease and the course of that is especially
devastating to the caregiver and the patient. I was on a University
accessed caregiver group for a while where I found out we were being
observed by students. They had access to all our shared grief. When some
posted and seemed so unaware of our feelings, I became very angry and
hesitant to post my problems and special journey. I felt the newsgroup and
the university was using us and our Alzheimer journey without our
permission.
I would guess some here might feel the same about their special journey with
cancer treatments.
Just my 2 cents worth.
eveline
> is this the general feeling of the group?
> i fail to understand what is wrong.
whocares314@comcast.net - 29 Jan 2005 18:53 GMT
thank you for the respone
i totally understand where your coming from. i guess i failed realise
not everyone in this group is a survior and many have lost loved ones
to the disease.
if it means anything, ill reveal a little more. my grandmother is not
the only one in the family to have died from cancer. my uncle died of a
brain tumor when he was 16. i can still see the scars its left in my
dad and grandparents.
just last year i lost another family member to ciggarete smoking. he
was 66 years old. i remember the experience... trips to the hospital,
seeing him... attached to machines, living off them, no longer able to
support himself. we chose to let him go. i saw him die in front of my
eyes.
i know what its like to go through a loss, and im sorry for not making
clear the deep serenity and upmost respect for everyone here who has
been through a loss, or has had a fatal disease themselves
Mike
whocares314@comcast.net - 29 Jan 2005 18:56 GMT
ick - i didnt realise how much time has gone by. he died in late 2002,
if it makes any difference