I was hoping to obtain information on the stages of death.  My husband
was diagnosed with a bladder tumor and had it removed early October.  A
few days later, the Dr. called us in to his office said it had moved
into the wall and the bladder would have to be removed.  Within 3 weeks
time, he lost weight was unable to eat due to a sore throat and was
waiting for his next scheduled surgery.  I called for a transport to
the ER, after he was admitted, endless test done, we were told the
cancer had metastized and was in his spine, hip, muscle tissue, a tumor
in his stomach area and one against the esophagus.

So, he is now at home with hospice care.  It has only been 2 weeks and
has changed medicine (for pain) twice.  He is now on methadone which
helps along with Xanax (which he has always taken).  He seems to be
going fast, urine is mostly blood and sleeps most of the time.  Weight
is about 100 lbs, from 160.  He of course is malnuritioned and
dehydrated, although he drinks water all the time.

My question is, can anyone tell me what kind of time limit I may be
looking at.  The oncologist at the hospital said - 2 months to a year.
He doesn't look like he will make another month to me.  I don't want to
be crude, I'm losing the love of my life after 25 years, I just would
like to know where I stand.

Thanks for any help.