Good to hear it, Jeff.  My father also died of prostate cancer and I also
made some "decisions" about my treatment.  I swore I would never go with
radiation, hormones, or chemo having watched how they wracked my dad.  But,
then I found that they stopped using cobalt years ago, so I acquiesced to
modern particle accelerators.  When that failed, I found they no longer use
estrogen, so I accepted Lupron and Casodex.  When that fails, I'll take on
chemo for size.  I found through reading books and this NG, I might have my
dad's cancer, but I'm not stuck with my dad's treatment options.

Oh, and having all those life-altering treatments for 7½ years?  I'm still
working full time, just finished wrestling with two of my grandsons that
came over after work, and am about to depart with some artifacts to a museum
at which I volunteer.

Largely, quality of life concerns are more a product of fear that education.
There are some who suffer from some of the treatments.  They always have the
option of backing off.

With a PSA of 9 and Gleason of 6, you have a really good chance of a cure
with surgery (though, at your age, you may not be up to it) or radiation.

I hope you continue consulting and making informed decisions.