> I've always gone to doctor's appointments by myself.  But once I was

It's even more important after any anesthesia or narcotics, because they
impair our memory. I understood everything my doctors and nurses told me
during my week in the recovery room . . . but promptly forgot most most
it. That's why we're forbidden to drive on or shortly after taking those
drugs.

It's also important, IMO, during the entire PC process -- from "You need
a biopsy" to "Glad to see you're cured and have zero SEs anymore" -- for
the reasons mentioned and because almost every facet of PC and its
treatment affects her in so many ways. My wife may not be able to
*write* pages about PC, but she can read and understand most of it,
acronyms and all, and has asked my oncs many pertinent questions I
hadn't thought of. She's been a great help in many ways due to her 100%
involvement. And look at the wives here who are almost their husbands'
only non-physical link with PC knowledge.

I.P.

I could care less.  Actually, I'd prefer to be alone.  But, I will have to
say that I am damned glad that when I was diagnosed, she took an active
interest because I sure as hell wasn't.

When I say "research, research, research" it is "do as I say, not as I did."
But, my wife did.  For that, I think I'll get her a Valentine card.