I had NS RRP 14 months ago. My first orgasms were really poor. I
learned that things improved when I slowed way down approaching orgasm.
It's the old roller coaster analogy. The trick for me is to stop just
before the point of no return and go over the apex very slowly. On the
way down I have contractions as before but without the mess. The most
powerful Os are in the shower with soap completely limp. They're better
than before Rp, very intense.For me the lack of ejaculation doesn't
matter. It took awhile so be patient. Emotions play a big role male or
female, pre RP or post RP. Anxiety is an O killer so slow down and have
fun.

Took 20-30 minutes at first, but since it was fun, who was counting?
It's been getting better -- greater engorgement, better technique,
better results -- bit by bit over the last two years. But I'll never get
stuffable again, and will probably wear pads to my grave, despite my
surgeon's expectations to the contrary.

OTOH, I may have dodged a FAR worse bullet, and consider some of the SEs
of additional treatment to be worse, so I'll get by.

Gary, you're obsessing prematurely on this stuff. You just ripped your
crotch apart; you can't expect anything resembling your new normalcy for
many months -- maybe a year or two, or even more -- regarding sex,
continence, strength, discomfort, etc. Exercise everything from top to
bottom -- including the middle (Know why sex is so convenient? Because
it's CENTRALLY LOCATED.) -- and after 10-30 months you'll stop seeing
improvements. Odds are you'll be dry and hard by the end of next year.

I.P.

It took me a long time to, er, get back in the saddle, so to speak.

About 3 to 6 months after the Lupron supposedly wore off, I began with
barely stuffable erections and "is that all" orgasms.   I'd think about
my first girlfriend, like the time we visited her friend.  Her parents
were out so we used her friend's bedroom,  dolls on the shelves,
Beatles posters, frilly lampshade, there we were, going at it.  She's
yelling "shoot it in".  I'm terrified of pregnancy so I pull out and
squirt on the bed.

Later, I heard the girls giggling, "Put it in the hamper", "Wait, smell
it",  "I don't want to smell it."

I'd have to think hard about those details to get going and just as
there was a little firmness, there'd be a twitch or two, and, well,
"That's all Folks!"  Beginning to end, 2 minutes. Tops.

For the last year, I'd mull over stuff like that and the divorcee
where I used to live 25 years ago.  She was always going on about
"One-night-stands don't count". how much sex she needed, and how her
out of town, boyfriend wouldn't leave his wife.

Where THAT story comes around is that 20 years ago, she mentioned that
they had broken up, then shortly after that, she heard that he had
prostate cancer.

Then for years, she waited for him to call.  He never did.  She's been
waiting 20 years. She's 64 now, he'd be 78.

My guess is that the treatment 20 years ago left him with ED and maybe
incontinent.  What did they have in 1986?  Late diagnosis by symptoms
or DRE?  The main treatment then was the non-nerve-sparing radical.

She used to tell how big his penis was, how often they had sex on their
monthly trysts, how he gave it to her for hours.  She called him her
sweetie and said that it was true love.

Over the years, her story changed.  She says that sex wasn't important
to her, that he didn't have prostate cancer, and that she never did
half the things she did.

For me, Lupron, radiation, it took two years for erections and orgasms
to return to the 80% point.  I had a 90% normal experience on 8 mg of
Levitra last week.

This week I've had several 80% erections just from rubbing my pants
while writing these stories.  Maybe these will help someone.  I hope
so.

-kh  It's the full moon.  Sex is better during the full moon.