Hey, another Hopkins veteran!

That's a good question.  The textbook answer is that the urinary tract no
longer has a shutoff valve, and you can't stop the flow when in that
condition.

But I have found that not to be true.  When the Kegels have strengthened the
pelvic floor muscles enough for daily life, they also seem to work well
enough during intercourse.

Anyway, the simplest solution is, be sure the bladder is completely empty
before you get started, and you'll have no problem.

jimhoney

 One thing at a time. First get as dry as you can. It took me 6 months.
Next try to get erections. It may take longer, or may happen quickly, no way
to tell. I had orgasms regularly even when completely limp. When you can get
erect try penetration. I urinate before..... then go back because as soon as
I get aroused, I may squirt a bit again. Here's the weird part. You may find
it's much easier to get erect standing up, and impossible while lying down
for a long time. You may also find that you don't leak at all lying down,
but do standing up! Somewhere in between with a willing partner, you'll
figure it out.... hopefully. It's been a year and I am dry, get erections,
have sex, and still pee on my wife a bit. Hey.... it's better than having
cancer, right?

Takes time,  don't get in a tizzy.  Walk, ........drink lots of
water......Urine and sex.......well, it all comes from the same source, and
shold not cause a problem.
Trust your wife, and or partner.....experiment....Do not use oral sex if pee
is a trouble....
You will finally be continent, and have all the same sex you originally did
have, except for ejacualation.  That is not something to be missed.  You can
have orgasm, and please your mate.
John Loomis

You won't have any control during orgasm, much like you have no control of
anything else during orgasm.  The good news is it's non-toxic and
eventually, for some reason, stops after a time.  In my case, it was over a
year and seemed to have no corelation to my continence.

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I used a condom until everything had cleared up, and that took several
weeks.  The same method was used after the two rounds of biopsies. It
took what seemed like forever before the ejaculate cleared up after
these.  What a mess!

I'll wager that you will be more at ease and your partner will love
you for respecting her.

If you take this approach you will know when and what to expect.

Bob Austin