You can  have sex even if you are not as hard as you once were.  Once
you penetrate, things may take care of themselves.

Also, why don't you try Viagra or one of the other drugs?

My erections aren't as firm as they were before surgery, but my wife an
I have managed to continue our sex life pretty closely to what we did
before surgery.  We did that even before erections returned by use of a
pump.

My first unaided, usable erection was during May 2002.  My RRP was December
2000.  It was not and never will be anything like the pre-RRP regidity.

hi,

This is something I was never told.

I guess no body gets back to their original hardness ??????????? please ?

So "no significant after effects" DOES NOT MEAN BACK TO ORIGINAL HARDNESS
!!!!

Hi,

Some good news and bad news.  I am hesitant to post my post-op progress
because all has gone too well, but I do so because I have a feeling
that this newsgroup is much read by newbies who have just found out
they have joined the club and are looking for reassurance and info.

I had my RRP in April of this year. I had 1/4 of one nerve removed.   I
was continient from the time the catheter came out.  I was able to
sustain an erection 4 weeks after.  My only concern was that the first
time I had an orgasm, during manual stimulation, I squirted urine over
my shoulder.  I had learned here and elsewhere that this is normal.  

In the past weeks I feel my erection is as hard, and lasts as long, as
before, with no chemical intervention.  I have also stopped leaking
urine during orgasm.  So all is as well as can be expected

On the negative side, the quality of the orgasm is no where near as
intense as before.  It is more of a flutter than all out release.  I
realize that I should be thankful for having orgasms at all, but this
really bothers me.  Its as if one of life's greatest pleasures, that
total exhaustive abandonment that comes with intense orgasms, is now
forever missing from my life.  I know this sounds extremely selfish but
that is the way it is.  

chris m

   I'm 3 years post surgery and I can tell you that I still see very small
improvements. Your age, weight, BP etc is a big factor too.  I had real sex
about 4 months post RP.  I still can't get a spontaneous erection, but
manually stimulated it works fine as long as I'm upright. Laying down or on
side won't work.  Viagra-Levitra work,,, they really work well.  Even a
small piece of the pill is a wonder. The only one of the hundreds here that
claims it's as good as ever is old John Loomis.
  The truth is that you may never get back to what it was. NEVER.... but on
the other hand you don't have cancer anynmore. Pretty good tradeoff I think.