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David J. Gaudreau - 15 May 2005 08:30 GMT
My name is David Gaudreau, I am a US Marine Reservist. My mother was
recently diagnosed with cervical cancer and needs surgery
(www.davescause.com).  Please give me insite on good ways to help me
get my two young children through these tough times.

Thank You,
David J. Gaudreau
GSGT USMC
J - 15 May 2005 10:38 GMT
> My name is David Gaudreau, I am a US Marine Reservist. My mother was
> recently diagnosed with cervical cancer and needs surgery
> (www.davescause.com).

Caught early, cervical cancer is very curable.
Financial Assistance here
www.state.ma.us/dma/masshealthinfo/applmemb_IDX.htm
You've already collected approx $900.
Guess Who (Alex) works in a hospital in Boston, Mass
and knows all the ins/outs of cancer care coverage.
You can find her on alt.support.cancer.breast
Put her name in the subject line and ask her if you should buy Blue Cross
with the money or what exact steps to take first.
Don't point her to your website; you'll get flamed, by many there, for
asking for money.
Explain the situation (expected hospital stay, what hospital won't cover
your mother's care etc) in your post.
Start with..
I'm sorry, I know this is off-topic because it's cervical cancer, but I
heard that you can help me with insurance/hospital matters for my mother's
cancer.
J
Steve Kramer - 15 May 2005 12:21 GMT
Gunny,

I am sorry to hear about your mother.  Your children will be fine.  They
have ADD when it comes to things like this.  Focus on your mother.

What I would be most concerned about is whether your children grow up with
the same moral backbone, or lack thereof, as their father.

> My name is David Gaudreau, I am a US Marine Reservist. My mother was
> recently diagnosed with cervical cancer and needs surgery
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> David J. Gaudreau
> GSGT USMC
Alan Meyer - 15 May 2005 15:29 GMT
> My name is David Gaudreau, I am a US Marine Reservist. My mother was
> recently diagnosed with cervical cancer and needs surgery
> (www.davescause.com).  Please give me insite on good ways to help me
> get my two young children through these tough times.

David,

My experience is that children take their cues from their
parents on these kinds of things.  If you and your wife
stay calm and positive, the children will be reassured.  If
you show a lot of anxiety, the children may also be
anxious.

Assuming your children are old enough to understand
the basics of these things, I would tell them that Grandma
has gotten sick and is going to have an operation to cure
the problem.  She's got a good doctor and we think she's
going to be okay.  She's a little nervous and upset about
going to the doctor (I bet the kids will understand that),
but we are going to be very nice to her and make her
feel better.

Good luck to you and to your mother.'

   Alan
Tdub - 15 May 2005 18:50 GMT
This guy's just looking for money, folks. See his link ("donations").
Alan Meyer - 15 May 2005 22:12 GMT
> This guy's just looking for money, folks. See his link ("donations").

I see I completely misinterpreted the guy's posting.

   Alan
Steve Kramer - 17 May 2005 23:32 GMT
Yeah, that's why I assaulted his moral fiber.  What a jerk.  Aint no way
he's a Marine.  Marines don't make it out of boot camp without moral fiber.

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> This guy's just looking for money, folks. See his link ("donations").
Peter Headland - 15 May 2005 18:51 GMT
Is it evil of me to observe that I have become increasingly cynical
over the past decade+ on corresponding with strangers on USENET and
observing the rise of unregulated and unsubstantiated personal web
sites?
Stephen Jordan - 15 May 2005 19:47 GMT
> Is it evil of me to observe that I have become increasingly cynical
> over the past decade+ on corresponding with strangers on USENET and
> observing the rise of unregulated and unsubstantiated personal web
> sites?

No, it's prudent.

But moving a little further OT, I'd have to say that I would not advocate
regulation of websites. By whom? Based upon what criteria? Looks like
censorship to me, and I think it's pretty well established that that
doesn't work.

OTOH, if the website is a scam and criminal activity can be proven and
prosecuted, that's not censorship, it's enforcement of the statutes
prohibiting what's called "theft by fraud and device."

After getting the gah-zings slipped to me a couple of times, I made the
deliberate decision to become a squinty-eyed suspicious and, yes, cynical
old grouch. So far, so good. Especially the "old" part.

Regards,

Steve J

"A man's most valuable trait is a judicious sense of what not to believe."
--Euripides
J - 15 May 2005 21:00 GMT
> Is it evil of me to observe that I have become increasingly cynical
> over the past decade+ on corresponding with strangers on USENET

I googled him.  (in the archives)
He's since (after my reply here) posted to various places but NOT the 2
newsgroups where he would get flamed for asking for money.
She owes for past medical debts. (or so he claims on one post)
J
Alan Meyer - 15 May 2005 22:27 GMT
> Is it evil of me to observe that I have become increasingly cynical
> over the past decade+ on corresponding with strangers on USENET and
> observing the rise of unregulated and unsubstantiated personal web
> sites?

No it isn't evil.  It's wise.

I feel like an idiot for responding to the guy's request as if
what he wanted was help explaining things to his children.

His website is remarkably sophisticated - with Paypal and
credit card logos, a thermometer progress bar, photos of
little children, cervical cancer graphics, and so on.
Either the guy is a serious web designer, or he's gotten
help from one.  One can't help but wonder if someone would
have paid him the $9,500 he says he needs to set up a
website, so he could have earned the money instead of
spending all that effort to solicit contributions.

I know there are serious cases out there, but I won't give
money to them.  There's no way to separate the real
cases from the crooks.  And there are plenty of known good
charities to give to who help people in just as desparate need.

   Alan
David J. Gaudreau - 16 May 2005 05:01 GMT
Yes, it is true that WE are looking for money.  Yes, I have a 6 year
old daughter named Tiffany. Yes, I designed the website, soley and
completely using Dreamweaver, Adobe CS and photographs from our family
photo albums.  Yes, that is myself with my mother on the front page.  I
do not know how I can prove any of this to anyone, if you think of
something, let me know.

Best Regards,
GSGT David J. Gaudreau USMC Reservist
www.davescause.com
dave@davescause.com
Steve Kramer - 17 May 2005 23:39 GMT
As you may have surmised, I doubt your integrity.

However, with the small possibility that you are legitimately asking for us
to help you financially with your mother's cancer, exercise a brain cell or
two and think about whom you've solicited....  a bunch of guys who have
cancer and are trying to pay for their own treatments.

You can send your donation in care of my name to 824 Broadway FL4,
Cincinnati, OH  45202.

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PSA 16 10/17/2000 @ 46
Biopsy 11/01/2000 G7 (3+4), T2c
RRP 12/15/2000 G7 (3+4), T3cN0M0 Neg margins
PSA  .1  .1  .1  .27  .37  .75
EBRT 05-07/2002 @ 47
PSA  .34 .22 .15 .21 .32
Lupron 07/03 (1 mo) 8/03 (4 mo), 12/03, 4/04, 09/04, 01/05
PSA  .07 .05 .06 .05
non Illegitimi carborundum

> Yes, it is true that WE are looking for money.  Yes, I have a 6 year
> old daughter named Tiffany. Yes, I designed the website, soley and
[quoted text clipped - 7 lines]
> www.davescause.com
> dave@davescause.com
 
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