hi tom - i'm sorry to hear of your brother's health, but at least the
positive of all this, is that because you had pca, you were able to get
your brothers to see their doctors and it was found.  they can address
it on where it is right now.  

as to things being worse, yes, you are right.  but i'm reminded of a
phrase back when i was younger.  it all has to do with perspective.

what's the a recession and a depression?
a recession is when your neighbor is out of work.  a depression is when
you are out of work.

i do wish you and your brothers the best.

~ curtis

knowledge is power - growing old is mandatory - growing wise is optional    
"Many more men die with prostate cancer than of it. Growing old is
invariably fatal. Prostate cancer is only sometimes so."

Sorry to hear about your brother, Tom.  That's a tough one!

MikeH

Excellent point, Tom!  I think the natural tendency for anyone diagnosed
with anything or who suffers any calamity is to say, "why me?"  In reality,
we all have PCa and we all know the people around us have something else.
It might be a weak artery near the brain.  It might be ALS.  It might be
coronary heart disease.  Or it might be a bullet with their name on it....
or a bus.

Since I was diagnosed my FIL has closed in on death with Alsheimers; my SIL
is almost complete debilitated and will die from radiation damage to her
brain; my MIL's legs are 'casted' weekly to keep the swelling down and there
is nothing they can do to fix it; my BIL is almost certainly going to have
non-Hogkins lymphoma in the next year, or two, or three; my wife might also;
my aunt was just Dx'd with Alsheimers; my uncle just had his corartid artery
cleaned out; my son was Dx'd as probably having testicular cancer.....

I'm not setting myself up as having a harder time of it than any other, just
pointing out that in almost 4 years of my PCa, those close around me have
had some pretty horrific diagnoses and experiences while I trudge along,
working 60 hours a week, walking dozens of miles a week, and for all intents
and purposes, though probably dying of the stuff having little effect from
PCa.

One of my uncles survived ALS for eight years, very much longer than expected.
My condolences and sympathy.  Your PSA and fPSA are frustrating, good luck!
Early PCa is not a death sentence, however, mine has been treated with surgery,
radiation, hormones, and chemotherapy, and my PSA has been doubling every month
for the last two months, from 13 to 22 to 46, and I have been on Lupron and
Casodex for a year.