Did they say what stage his case was?  Of if there is no record, did he have
any symptoms yet?

jimhoney

hi jim - i think we all question some of these decisions made by the
doctors when it comes to our fathers.  i know i question the doctors
that treated my dad on the same watchful waiting.

not knowing all the facts in your case, but commenting on the 20% chance
of survival.  since  your father was a cardiologist, he very well knew
the diagnosis, the risk and the prognosis.
just focusing on that part of the situation, i would have to say that it
was your father's decision to go for it and that decision should have
been honored.

i can't really say anything regarding the medical team and what caused
them to make this decision.  

i would say that if it bothers you, go ahead and research it in order to
get some closure.  i did this, when my mother died.  
hope this helps.

~ curtis

knowledge is power - growing old is mandatory - growing wise is optional    
"Many more men die with prostate cancer than of it. Growing old is
invariably fatal. Prostate cancer is only sometimes so."

I hate to bother you in your time of sorrow but 'knocking him out' and
letting him die rather than try to save his life is, to me, a definite
breach of medical ethics.  It's gruesome. How does anyone know what
someone wants for their 'quality of life' unless they ask him.  He
requested that the surgery be done.  They should have acquiesced to
his wishes.

You should talk and talk and talk to the doctors involved.

My prayers are with you and your family.

This whole thing has made me cry for your poor father.

Gary Nichols

There are several reasons I can think of to dismiss the thought.  Most
prominent is, there is nothing you can do about it.  Next is, you had
nothing to do with it.

But, if you could do something about it or did have something to do with it,
there would still be some really good reasons.  I watched my father die of
PCa and he had a heart attack along the way....  I sure wish he had died of
the heart attack.