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Robert Burns - 16 Jun 2004 05:21 GMT Hello I'm 49 and went to the Dr for a physical. He found my PSA was 9 up from 2.0 two years earlier. I had the biopsy 2 weeks ago and the Urologist told me that I have prostate cancer. Gleason 3+3. found in both sides of the prostate. His recommendation was radical prostectomy. Man it was a shock. Still, I'm relatively young and I have two kids to raise so I'll take whatever course is needed to live a long time. I'm healthy otherwise and fit. I race bicycles competitively with men 10 yrs younger. If any of you have any thoughts I'd love to hear 'em. I'd especially like to hear of successful nerve sparing surgeons in the LA area. I have an apt in three weeks to see a Urologist at City of Hope. I'm keen on a second opinion. I also ordered Dr Walsh's book for a primer.
thanks
Bob
Cpflanagan3 - 16 Jun 2004 06:56 GMT Bob:
I think that you've come to the right place...well, at least one of them. I'm 57, and was diagnosed a month ago. Since then, I've been doing a lot of reading and web browsing. The book my urologist gave me was way out-of-date, so I bought Walsh's book and another by Blasko. One seems to favor surgery, the other seeds. So, I was able to play one off the other, by reading their biases, between the lines, and contrasting their approaches.
I also made additional Dr. appointments. So far, I've seen two urologists, a radiation oncologist, and a robotic surgeon (got him through a referral from this group).
I also got some really good general info from the Prostate Cancer Research Institute newsletters (available as ".pdf" files at "www.pcri.org").
I'm sure that some of the "older" members of this group will be able to steer you onto even more good info. I think that one of the keys to a successful treatment is knowledge. Although my treatment (laprascopic robotic RP) isn't schedule until next month, I'm still looking. When I go in, I will be sure that I've done everything I can to insure that the treatment I've selected, is the best one for me. I'm the only one who can decide this.
It's kind of like jumping with one parachute...you want it packed right!
Chuck
Robert Burns - 18 Jun 2004 02:00 GMT My God; You guys are a god send. I didn't know how scared I was, and still am. But I will overcome!! thanks
Update part:
I am going to City of Hope on July 8 to see a Dr. Kolvachi I think it is... Getting a second opinion. Also gonna see a radiation oncologist. But from what I have gathered so far it seems that surgery is the right answer. I want this gone! Anyway, I spoke with the Urologist I saw first and he said he'd done 200-300 of these procedures. He's been in practice 30 yrs. Seems a small # to me. Spoke of how we can do a nerve sparing procedure but I wasn't clear how successful he'd been with men my age so I'm gonna keep looking.
final note: Have any of you figured out how/if to tell kids about this thing? My boys are 8 & 11. My Mom died of lung cancer last year, it wsa very ugly. I am afraid to tell them that I have cancer because I know that I will survive this but they will be very scared. Any experience to share?
Bob
Al - 18 Jun 2004 02:53 GMT <snip>
*final note: *Have any of you figured out how/if to tell kids about this thing? My boys *are 8 & 11. My Mom died of lung cancer last year, it wsa very ugly. I am *afraid to tell them that I have cancer because I know that I will survive *this but they will be very scared. Any experience to share?
Not with children, since my ex took off with my son and haven't been seen in 10 yrs. now. But my family took it pretty well. That is my parents, bro, and sisters. They didn't seem at all thrown off. I'm guessing that they figured since I had a low back operation at age 40, I'd waltz through this like before. I really don't know. It would seem, however, that your boys just may take this pretty hard. Have you talked to any of your family yet?
Al Please be quiet if replying via email, flames will be deleted promptly. I won't even read the whole message...
MH - 18 Jun 2004 03:16 GMT Hi, Bob....
My kids are both grown... early 20s.... but I waited until I had a definite plan of treatment lined up before I told them. I wanted them to know that I had researched and decided on what I thought was the best way to get rid of the cancer!
Your kids will need to know, eventually.... but I think you will handle telling them better when you have more information, yourself. Just my opinion...
Take care.... good luck!
MikeH
> Have any of you figured out how/if to tell kids about this thing? My boys > are 8 & 11. My Mom died of lung cancer last year, it wsa very ugly. I am > afraid to tell them that I have cancer because I know that I will survive > this but they will be very scared. Any experience to share? Sandy - 18 Jun 2004 14:40 GMT > > Have any of you figured out how/if to tell kids about this thing? My boys > > are 8 & 11. My Mom died of lung cancer last year, it wsa very ugly. I am > > afraid to tell them that I have cancer because I know that I will survive > > this but they will be very scared. Any experience to share? My now 60 year old husband was diagnosed with advanced prostate cancer 1 year ago. We have an 8 year old daughter together (I am 43 years old). I also didn't quite know how to deal with telling our daughter. She didn't even know the meaning of cancer prior to her daddy being diagnosed. There are lots of great books out there that deal with this subject. One book in particular that I recommend is called "When a Parent has CA: A quide to caring for your children by Dr. Wendy Schessel Harpham." This doctor had 2 young children at the time she herself was diagnosed with cancer. She also includes a companion book called "Becky and the Worry Cup" which is appropriate for children 3 to 13. I read the companion book with my daughter and it was great because it really brought everything down to her level and opened the door for her to ask questions.
I think one of the biggest things I got out of the book is to be open and honest with your children. The fact that they recently saw a loved one in your family die from cancer will only heighten their fear. I think it is very important that they hear from you that you are not going to die and that you will be ok. Remember, children have very wild imaginations - they will think and worry that things are much worse than they actually are so I think it is important to keep that communication open with them.
All the best to you and your family,
Sandi
Lillian - 18 Jun 2004 21:45 GMT > > > Have any of you figured out how/if to tell kids about this thing? My boys > > > are 8 & 11. My Mom died of lung cancer last year, it wsa very ugly. I am > > > afraid to tell them that I have cancer because I know that I will survive > > > this but they will be very scared. Any experience to share? My now 15 year old son saw his grandfather whom he was very close to die of liver cancer. It was very upsetting for him when his father got prostate cancer. Kids usually know when something is up in our case the incompetent receptionist and the doctors office left a message with him about his dad's biopsy. Even though he is older than your children, we needed to explain to him that all cancers are different and that in his dad's case it was early with exceptional odds that all would be ok.
Good luck to you. This is a great place to hang out for help and encouragement. Lillian
Robert Burns - 19 Jun 2004 04:39 GMT thanks to Lillian and Sandy and all of the rest of you. I still don't know how to talk to my kids but I will figure it out.
Bob
Steve Kramer - 19 Jun 2004 11:51 GMT Bob, the hardest thing about this disease, IMHO, is telling those around you. First telling them that you got it (I can still remember my wife's face) and then keeping them, lots of them, advised throughout the months and the years, especially if it's a roller coaster like mine.
At 8 and 11, your sons are going to believe 100% of what you say, if you can keep your wife and yourself composed. I was just out of high school when my parents told us about my dad and I still believed it when they said he would be cured, and later when he said he was cured. Of course that didn't last long for me through his sevral relapses, but I make my point.
In this case, you have something going for you... the truth! Since they are still young, I think I'd start out with the process you've been through and immediately put them at ease, e.g., "Kids, I have some news. We thought it was really bad news, but I now know it's not so bad. And first of all, I want you to know that I don't have anything like your grandma had." (this part was harder for me because I have exactly what my father had). Then make the various points:
There are hundreds of types of cancers and this is not lung cancer. You have a slow growing and cureable cancer. Your Gleason Score confirms that your cancer is not as aggressive as it might have been. Your PSA is single-digit. You didn't give us a Stage, but I am assuming there is no cancer outside your prostate. When the doctor goes in and takes the prostate, the cancer goes with it.
That's it. That's all they need to know for now. Answer their questions. But, I bet there won't be many.
The most important part is display a confidence in what you are saying. It will go just fine. Kids have a natural tendency to not consider the realistic possibilities of life.
 Signature Prostate Cancer Survivor (so far), not a doctor PSA 16 10/17/2000 @ 46 Biopsy 11/01/2000 G7 (3+4), T2c RRP 12/15/2000 PSA .1 .1 .1 .27 .37 .75 EBRT 05-07/2002 @ 47 PSA .34 .22 .15 .21 .32 Erection 05/12/2003 @ 48 HTbegins 07/21/2003 @ 48 PSA .07 .05 Lupron 7/03, 8/03, 12/03, 4/04
> My God; > You guys are a god send. I didn't know how scared I was, and still am. But [quoted text clipped - 18 lines] > > Bob Chuck McClellan - 19 Jun 2004 16:48 GMT > Bob, the hardest thing about this disease, IMHO, is telling those around > you. First telling them that you got it (I can still remember my wife's [quoted text clipped - 32 lines] > > Steve, For what it's worth when I told my sons about it I advised them that there are about six ot seven types of cancer that can invade the prostate and that i had adenocarcinoma which is the lowest of them all on the aggression scale. I was shooting off my mouth to diminish the shock. How was I supposed to know that I was somewhat accurate in my statement. The other thing I used came from my uroligist and it was very significant to me in how I handled the news myself. He said that "you have A cancer" instead of "you have cancer". Somehow this 'localized' the cancer in my mind and made it sound even more controllable. The latter way of stating it would imply it was running rampnat through my whole body. I mentioned this to the docotr once and he just smiled. It was a practiced and calculated statement he used and I thanked him for it. It helped my family and it helped me.
Chuck McClellan
> > My God; > > You guys are a god send. I didn't know how scared I was, and still am. [quoted text clipped - 23 lines] > > > > Bob Robert Burns - 23 Jun 2004 04:59 GMT Thanks guys I will use the info you guys have provided to plan how to tell my boys. I may start sleeping again yet... Bob
jhlms - 19 Jun 2004 22:19 GMT Robert, I can't speak to your present problem (8-10 yr. old kids)....mine are 19 & 21. However, after mulling over your predicament, I reflected upon the days when my li'l monsters were 8 &10. Kids these days are so resilient, and much, much wiser than we were at their age. Not to say they are not naive, but they can tell when they're being zoomed. Be honest and straightforward.....but don't give them more information than they can handle all at once. They will probably take in the info, and then go play a video game. BUT, expect one (or both) to ask questions once they've had time to digest it. Personal experience, Robert. Ain't parenthood a bitch!!????? LOL jh
> My God; > You guys are a god send. I didn't know how scared I was, and still am. But [quoted text clipped - 18 lines] > > Bob MH - 16 Jun 2004 11:25 GMT Hi, Bob.... Welcome to the club nobody wants to join. I was 51 when diagnosed in Sept. of 02. I had a laparoscopic radical prostatectomy in Nov of that same year. It was the right choice *for me*. The main thing right now is to do what you are doing.... read, read, read... and ask questions. It's not the end of the world... there *is* life after PCa!! I still remember the gut-wrenching feeling I had when I was told I had cancer, though.... not words anyone is really every prepared for. Another good site for information is www.phoenix5.org . Lots of great stuff about anything prostate related!
Take a deep breath..... and just keep looking around. A second opinion is always good.... or a third! Honestly, at 49, the scales are going to be heavily tipped in favor of surgery. Nerve sparing is a possibility. There are pros and cons to any type of treatment. For info about LRP look at www.krongrad-urology.com . For seed implant therapy combined with radiation, look at www.rcog.com .
Take care, guy... and feel free to ask all the questions you want.
MikeH
> Hello > I'm 49 and went to the Dr for a physical. He found my PSA was 9 up from 2.0 [quoted text clipped - 12 lines] > > Bob Steve Kramer - 16 Jun 2004 11:49 GMT Well, Bob, you certainly came to the right place. Not only do we have some of the more foremost prostate cancer patients in the world here, we have a few avid cyclists. I'm assuming their cycling experience is important to you as well.
To begin with, you should get a second opinion, and maybe a third. In your case, being 49, surgery is considered the only viable solution. But, there is three types of prostate surgery, which you will read in Walsh, and one of them is now very successfully performed in many places with a robot. But, possibly more importantly, you should be looking for the best prostate surgeon you can get. There is probably little difference between most surgeons and yanking the prostate out, but there is a remarkable difference in surgeons who can do so, get all the cancer, and still leave your nerves for erections.
Selecting the treatment plan and surgeon is the hardest thing with this cancer. Once done, you can forget it. The operation is easy for the patient. The recouperation is over before you know it, though the catheter can be an infringement on personal liberties. Becoming potent and continent will try your patiences, but after a couple of years, you look back and think, "that wasn't so bad."
 Signature Prostate Cancer Survivor (so far), not a doctor PSA 16 10/17/2000 @ 46 Biopsy 11/01/2000 G7 (3+4), T2c RRP 12/15/2000 PSA .1 .1 .1 .27 .37 .75 EBRT 05-07/2002 @ 47 PSA .34 .22 .15 .21 .32 Erection 05/12/2003 @ 48 HTbegins 07/21/2003 @ 48 PSA .07 .05 Lupron 7/03, 8/03, 12/03, 4/04
> Hello > I'm 49 and went to the Dr for a physical. He found my PSA was 9 up from 2.0 [quoted text clipped - 12 lines] > > Bob Vernon - 16 Jun 2004 19:11 GMT Steve
What is the relationship between age and treatment by surgery?
Vernon
> Well, Bob, you certainly came to the right place. Not only do we have some > of the more foremost prostate cancer patients in the world here, we have a [quoted text clipped - 38 lines] > > > > Bob Steve Kramer - 17 Jun 2004 00:14 GMT Most people who get the cancer in their 40s have it so aggressively that taking the prostate out is their only real choice. Out of the numerous people here who have checked in over the three years that I've been here, only one under the age of 52 chose another option (albeit, apparently successfully). Your real decision years are, IMHO, about 55 to 70, where everything is wide open. After 70, you have to start worrying about whether the body can take major surgery or if it is prudent.
I'm not a doctor and I don't intend to sound as matter-of-fact as I apparently do sometimes. And, of course, the ages are flexible to withing a few years, but that's about the size of it.
Naturally, nuclear medicine, chemo-cocktails, robotic LRP, and other advancements are going to just make a mess out of the decision-making in the not to distant future. Elderly persons can handle LRP better than RRP. Cocktails or aggressive chemo treatments might better benefit younger patients. But, right now, that's my story and I'm sticking to it.
 Signature Prostate Cancer Survivor (so far), not a doctor PSA 16 10/17/2000 @ 46 Biopsy 11/01/2000 G7 (3+4), T2c RRP 12/15/2000 PSA .1 .1 .1 .27 .37 .75 EBRT 05-07/2002 @ 47 PSA .34 .22 .15 .21 .32 Erection 05/12/2003 @ 48 HTbegins 07/21/2003 @ 48 PSA .07 .05 Lupron 7/03, 8/03, 12/03, 4/04
> Steve > [quoted text clipped - 54 lines] > > > > > > Bob jimhoney - 16 Jun 2004 13:09 GMT Welcome Bob.
Dr. Walsh's book was my guide. It answered pretty much all my questions.
I'm not a doctor, but you should plan on being around for your grandchildren too. You can see how favorable the chances are that you've caught this disease in time by consulting the Partin Tables in that book or online at
http://urology.jhu.edu/prostate/partintables.php
Sorry I can't recommend a surgeon, I'm on the east coast.
jimhoney standard RRP age 52, cured, no aftereffects
Ron Carter - 16 Jun 2004 14:57 GMT I can only second what Chuck said, Bob. Take some time to learn about your options, and when you do decide on a treatment, be sure you pick the most experienced, highly-qualified practitioner you can find. Another thing--you should definitely get a second reading on your biopsy slides. The Gleason score is critical in determining which options may or may not be best for you.
I wish you the best. I was diagnosed back in January at age 62 with a Gleason of 3+3, PSA of 4.6, and stage T1c. Eventually, I decided on seeds, although I do think surgery would have been just as effective. For me, it was more a matter of deciding on which side effects I wanted to risk and the fact that I found a radiation oncologist in whom I had a great deal of confidence.
Ron Carter
> Hello > I'm 49 and went to the Dr for a physical. He found my PSA was 9 up from 2.0 [quoted text clipped - 12 lines] > > Bob Ed Faulk - 16 Jun 2004 16:48 GMT Bob,
Welcome to the club. I had my surgery (radical, not laproscopic) five weeks ago. I'm back at work, have 95% urinary control and am able to achieve erections sufficient for penetration. In short, I'm nearly back to normal.
In the LA area I would recommend my urologist, Dr. Alan Weinberg. He was trained by Dr. Walsh and does 100s of these procedures a month. I never had a moment's pain following the surgery, and everything went according to plan (except that I had positive margins -- but the Dr. still thinks he got all the cancer).
Ed
> Hello > I'm 49 and went to the Dr for a physical. He found my PSA was 9 up from 2.0 [quoted text clipped - 12 lines] > > Bob pennskeCT - 16 Jun 2004 19:15 GMT Bob- i posted a comment to your biking question in the other newsgroup...Bill
> Hello > I'm 49 and went to the Dr for a physical. He found my PSA was 9 up from 2.0 [quoted text clipped - 12 lines] > > Bob tomrp - 16 Jun 2004 20:35 GMT Hi Bob,
Glad you found this newsgroup, you'll get a lot of helpful advice about everything you didn't really ever thought you'd be asking about. I was 49 when I was diagnosed, Gleason 7 4+3, 5 of the 6 biopsy samples had cancer. So I had my surgery September, 2002. I have always been into cycling, though not competitevly, just commuting and club rides, centuries, etc. I do get in a few miles every year, 7,000-10,000. After surgery I was back on the bike in 3 weeks. Make sure you find a good surgeon that can do nerve sparing, I'm still waiting for erectile function to return, may be a long wait, I had no nerve sparing. It was decided that since my Gleason number was so high that it best be all cut out.
Anyways, I'm sure you'll do great, being in good physical shape helps. I was continent within 2 weeks of the catheter removal, I suspect you'll make a complete and fast recovery.
Take care and ask a lot of questions,
Tom Portland, Oregon
> Hello > I'm 49 and went to the Dr for a physical. He found my PSA was 9 up from 2.0 [quoted text clipped - 12 lines] > > Bob Glenn Enoch - 17 Jun 2004 00:01 GMT I am 46 and was diagnosed in April. It came as a bit of a shock, despite having had prostate trouble of other kinds for years, and I had a steep learning curve. For a second opinion, I went to a radiation oncologist. I think it was important to look at both types of treatment (or all three, considering seed implantation and external radiation as separate options).
My diagnosing Urologist set up the appointment for me. He said that at this time, for someone with my numbers, radiation would be equally effective as surgery in treating my cancer. I never found anything to prove him false.
I found an interesting paper, "Monotherapy for stage T1-T2 prostate cancer: radical prostatectomy, external beam radiotherapy, or permanent seed implantation." It was in Radiotherapy and Oncology 71 (2004) 29-33. It's easy to find on the web.
The article begins with: "Treatment of localized prostate cancer remains controversial as a result of the lack of conclusive well-controlled or randomized studies comparing outcomes..." and ends with: "Treatment selection does not affect biochemical outcome. Expected biochemical outcomes are generally excellent, regardless of treatment choice from this patient population."
Eventually I decided on surgery, for a variety of reasons (you can find my post on this, if you're curious). However, it was important to me that I looked at all sides of the question before making up my mind.
The New York Times had an article on breast cancer yesterday. This quote, from Dr. Steven Katz of the University of Michigan med school, really applied to my situation: "There are no right or wrong decisions," Dr. Katz said. "There are just informed decisions."
Age 46 PSA: 1.4 (12/2000), 2.0 (7/2002), 10.3 (3/2/04), 6.0 (retest 3/18/04) Biopsy 4/5/04 cancer in 10% of one core Gleason 6 (3+3); clinical stage T1c Bone Scan negative RRP scheduled 7-27-04
> Hello > I'm 49 and went to the Dr for a physical. He found my PSA was 9 up from 2.0 [quoted text clipped - 12 lines] > > Bob kastons - 17 Jun 2004 00:17 GMT Bob -
Welcome to the club nobody wants to be a member of. If it makes you feel any better, I'm 47 - was diangosed in March and am having RRP tomorrow at Sloane Kettering in NYC. This group has been very supportive. My brother (51) was also diagnosed and had his prostate removed 3 weeks ago. His comment to me was that he hopes I have as esay a time of it as he has. Sure, there's going to be the anxiety and wondering. Find a doctor that you are comfortable with and go from there. Everyne has told me that I'll be fine - I'll be posting my progress to the group. Good luck to you.
Sandy K. Age 47 2/04 PSA 4.9 Biopsy 3/5/04 - 9 of 10 cores malignant Gleason 3+3 = 6, T2b RRP = 6/17/04
> Hello > I'm 49 and went to the Dr for a physical. He found my PSA was 9 up from 2.0 [quoted text clipped - 12 lines] > > Bob Al - 17 Jun 2004 00:25 GMT *Hello *I'm 49 and went to the Dr for a physical. He found my PSA was 9 up from 2.0 *two years earlier. I had the biopsy 2 weeks ago and the Urologist told me *that I have prostate cancer. Gleason 3+3. found in both sides of the *prostate. His recommendation was radical prostectomy. Man it was a shock.
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Greetings, you've come to the right place. I had RRP last yr., at age 42, was diagnosed at 41. I'm sure it's been said already...read up on your procedure that you chose. I had nerve sparing and have been thoroughly pleased. It's frightening as hell to learn of PCa, but once the operation is completed, and they dissect a few lymph nodes, and you hear them say they were negative, enjoy the knowledge that it's out of your body. Have you had a bone scan yet?
Al
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Fernando - 17 Jun 2004 03:13 GMT Hello Robert...
As always, you have received excellent inputs from all that have answered..this group is just great.....I live in Corona...just 45 miles east of LA and I work in Burbank.....I was 49 when Dx'd and had RP here in Corona....my Doctor advised me that he was going to be very aggressive in the RRP and that he was going to try to do partial Nerve sparring.......
Results have been great even with only one nerve bundle spared...My PSA was 5.2 and initial Gleason of 8 but later changed (after RRP) to 6.....I just got my 5 year pot op PA and it is still <.1 I am active here in the Corona area in helping newly diagnosed men...I would be more than happy to chat with you and give you more info on my story....you can e-mail direct to kp4dx@amsat.org
The best to you and yours,
Fernando
> Hello > I'm 49 and went to the Dr for a physical. He found my PSA was 9 up from 2.0 [quoted text clipped - 12 lines] > > Bob Outlivecancer - 17 Jun 2004 09:50 GMT Hi Robert, welcome to the club, the replies have been right on and Walsh's book is great for info, note the part about using DR'S familiar with the treatment procedure and a facility that is used frequently.Make sure that your insurence covers it and also use the system to get the best treatment.I found that hiring my own on staff DR.to be on call to my family and keep a 24/7 overview of the surgeon and staff was helpful,as a doublecheck and that the other tests like bone,liver,heart,lung we're helpful in making a recovery plan that has me in better shape than before i.e. no smoking,low chol.,etc.A truly life changing and challenging experience,unasked for but not unanswered,I always like to think of how my grandkids will know me and may they know you too,your grandkids that is.Take Care.
jhlms - 18 Jun 2004 02:39 GMT Hi, Bob.......... Me? 52, diagnosed 12/03. Pre-op Gleason was 3+3=6. Post-op Gleason was 3+4=7 Had Robotic LRP on 3/26/04, and was back to work 3 weeks after surgery. Today, 100% continence, but only about 5% erectile function (HBP meds resulting in ED prior to surgery). There *IS* life after PCa. You're young and in an area that can offer a plethora of resource in this struggle. Take advantage of the time available to you. The diagnosis is not a death knoll....only a warning flag that you must heed.
jh
> Hello > I'm 49 and went to the Dr for a physical. He found my PSA was 9 up from 2.0 [quoted text clipped - 12 lines] > > Bob
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