Sounds like *his* life is miserable, Bev.... and misery loves company. :-(

Would he be willing to talk with someone about possible depression?  A
therapist or mental health professional?  Sounds like there is more going on
that just Lupron shots.

I wish I had a good reply for you.  You are always so helpful to others
here.

Take care,
MikeH

well bev - it's going to get worse.........for a little while.   as the
lupron sets in and his moods starts swinging and he's already unhappy,
so when he hits the lows, don't be surprise if he starts crying at the
drop of a hat and sometimes you  don't need the hat.

it hit my dad hard.  he was a stone wall all his life, and i never saw
him cry, even when he had to have 130 stitches put in his face from a
knife fight. (i told you he's a stone wall)  well, after being on lupron
for while, he would start crying and what's different that a normal
crying person is that he's still trying to tell you something through
the tears.  

i hope that helps.

~ curtis

knowledge is power - growing old is mandatory - growing wise is optional    
"Many more men die with prostate cancer than of it. Growing old is
invariably fatal. Prostate cancer is only sometimes so."

Lupron.....Jeez...I was ready to figure out what diagnoses I have, and was
ready for ebrt...... Anyway, i thought ebrt was the way to go and directed
per. Dr. in a small town/
to get Lupron.  I chose that path, went into the Docs office, he had me pull
my pants down, and inject in my butt Lupron.
It cost 1500.00.
Well, I figured, we are getting cured?
No way....The Lupron, not only increased my testosterone, heavily, and then
blank....nada.....
So, Lupron tells the testosterone to hurry up and get more, and then falls
fast...
I had hot flashes, redness, sweating, and felt bad at the joints?
I am younger, and realize we are talking about apples and oranges.
Lupron is like menopause...It makes you feel not too good.....
Hope I helped, just me, John Loomis...full of pis and vinegar

As you know, I've been on Lupron for 10 months.  I think I swap moods a tad
more quickly than I did without Lupron.  But, I don't know if it's
stress-induced or Lupron.  Things are pretty dysfunctional at work.  In any
case, it has not been anything that I don't recognize in myself almost
immediately and, immediately thereafter, change for the benefit of those
around me.

I think some people use Prosac, Depression, Hormones, etc. as an excuse to
behave badly.  He still has a brain and he knows how to use it.  Tell him to
stop the crap!

There are two issues here.  One is what to do with your
father-in-law.  If he's a guy that will open up to a counselor,
that would be a good thing to try.  If he's willing to listen
to reason from family members, that's another.  If he's
willing to take Prozac or some other anti-depressant
or happy pill of some kind, that's a third.  But he may
well not be willing to do any of those things.

Which brings us to the other issue.

The other issue is protecting everyone else in the family.
I'm sure all of you want to do your best by him, but you've
also got to recognize that if he won't listen to advice and
won't let up, then you've got to still be nice to him, but
not allow yourselves to get too upset or too ready to jump
to do his bidding.

His situation is very hard.  There's no doubt about it.  It
would depress anyone.  Some people can rise above
that.  Some can't.  The people who love him can
understand and sympathize with him.  But they can't
allow themselves to be sucked down the drain with him.
That won't help him at all.  It will just hurt you.  So
you've got to give yourselves permission to be a little
callous sometimes - understanding that it's not motivated
by callousness and it's not really hurting him, it's just
doing what needs to be done.

Well, I've said before that I'm not a doctor.  Now I'll
say that I'm not a professional counselor either (though
I'm married to one and could probably play one on TV :)
So that's my non-professional 2 cents.

   Alan

One thing that I haven't seen mentioned in this thread is the
possibility of dementia.  It's a real possibility in an 82-year old who
has both age and a stroke affecting him.  Personality changes are common
in dementia.