Medical Forum / Diseases and Disorders / Cancer / August 2007
irt Alex : re where on the internet people with cancer go
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Uncle Sally - 24 Aug 2007 17:50 GMT Alex wrote :
"I wonder if people with cancer are finding other internet portals for support. The postings are half was what they have been last year while internet usage is up. Going to a secured web page where people can use their real names. Usenet is known for being a free area and trying to impose rules here ( even though they are not enforceable or endorsed by many of the cancer patients here)."
Hi Alex,
It would be very interesting to know more about the "demographics" of who uses this group, and who doesn't. I have not been around "here" long enough to have a sense of what the usage patterns are and what influences them. I suspect that somewhere, in some University or Teaching Medical Center, someone is doing a thesis on forum use by people with cancer.
I would assume there are other forums for cancer patients or families on the internet that are moderated and verification of "identity" is required ? The thought occurs to me that I've never really looked to see if ACS at any level (national, state, local chapters) sponsors moderated forums, or any forums.
Many intelligent friends of mine have never heard of "usenet" still even though they use the internet everyday for e-mail and for browsing web sites. And many intelligent friends of mine, if they were in any form of medical crisis, would never think about going on-line to discuss it. Well, okay, yes, my friends and I are not of the IPod generation, or even GenX :)
An interesting arena for research : are health care professionals in the cancer "arena" actively informing people and/or encouraging them to use interactive resources ? If I imagine myself a medical social worker once more :) : I would certainly prioritize bringing cancer patients into "live" support groups if possible, but for the isolated, the disabled, with access to computer resources and the ability to type or someone to read or type for them, I would definitely consider that a potentially valuable resource.
One hypothetical factor : some people come here because of the relative anonymity offered by the group. Often in crisis where they are desperate to "tell their story" and connect with "friendly ears."
Another hypothetical factor : some people come here with a sense of "social mission" for reasons they may or may not explain to the group. They want to contribute because they've had cancer, or their spouses, relatives, friends have had cancer, and they have learned a lot about it and want to help others.
And like many other groups, networks form here, friendships develop, polarities develop. I think that people coming here who observe the obvious camaradie of some of the friends may be encouraged to view the group as a "friendly" open place. Well, okay : make that another hypothesis. I think it's been easy to see in this group where open conflict disturbs some of the group members greatly. "Open conflict," by contrast in my experience in a group like soc.culture.thai often led to valuable arguments that benefited everyone ... when they didn't degenerate into the usual name-calling and baiting : and some of these conflicts were actually praised by some group members for the depth of the discussion.
The ACOR mailing list for Head and Neck cancers often has only a few messages in it, but I read the bulletins "religiously" because there are some great posts in them, particularly from "our very own" highly respected Janet aka "Kellie Poodle." I think the ridiculously messy formatting of the ACOR H&N list is a factor that would turn off many people : multiple redundant ACOR signatures that distract you from the real content. When the post about the esophageal ACOR list was made here, recently, I was surprised by the extent of participation the poster described.
The most "successfull" moderated usenet group I know of is rec.crafts.jewelery where the moderator has been performing a "labor of love" for years, keeping the peace and screening posts. And the interests craftspeople share in common is, imho, a powerful bond, and makes it relatively easy (compared to a group like this) to distinguish between what's on-topic and off-topic.
What's delightful to me is that this group is not over-run by trolls. Soc.culture.thai used to be a really fun group for me to participate in : about ten people really "made" the group : now it's so over-run with trolls and flame wars it's not worth my time to visit and spend more time kill-filing trolls than reading messages, and many of the old-time expat posters, some of whom had mastery of the Thai language written and spoken to a very high degree, have quit in disgust. Hope that doesn't happen here.
One thing for sure : if a usenet group is a "horse" : it's a horse that you will never bridle. And that horse will change over time, guaranteed.
regards, Uncle Sally
Alex - 25 Aug 2007 01:29 GMT On Aug 24, 12:50 pm, "Uncle Sally" <uncleSa...@auldUncleSally.com> wrote:
> Alex wrote : > [quoted text clipped - 82 lines] > > regards, Uncle Sally I belong to several groups, many of them are breast cancer focused. The require registration and some method of being approved on their system.
One secured group is http://www.cancercare.org/
I believe this group is run by medical social workers.
Another group I have been active on is
http://www.thewellnesscommunity.org/support/
They required documentation that I had a cancer diagnosis to participate, The is moderation via a trained professional.
MD Anderson has a web board, it is unclear to me whether or not you have to be a MD Anderson patient.
Last is another page
http://www.cancerlinksusa.com/support/index.asp
I agree with many of the reasons you have cited for coming to the usenet group, but it seems that it's usage has dropped if you check the google stats.... This groups can be an excellent means of support, but in my opinion having a bunch of rules is a turn off to many who are looking for answers.
Alex
Uncle Sally - 25 Aug 2007 04:31 GMT Hi Alex,
Thanks for the links to the other groups ! I am going to take a look at them to satisfy my own curiousity about what's available on-line for cancer patients.
Alex wrote :
"it seems that it's usage has dropped if you check the google stats.... This groups can be an excellent means of support, but in my opinion having a bunch of rules is a turn off to many who are looking for answers."
I think there could be so many explanations for a drop in use : seasonal (people on vacation ?); natural fluctuations of the numbers of people seeking a place like this which is really quite specialized and little known, imho, for most people. And so forth.
You could also interpret a drop in use as an outcome of the group's purpose becoming clearer : and so people whose needs don't "fit" here go elsewhere : an unlikely hypothesis, imho, but an interesting one to keep in mind.
Your hypothesis (if I understand it correctly) is that some people visit here and perceive this group as having a "bunch of rules" and are "turned off," and go away, or don't post, or quit after one or two posts, if they feel not welcomed or are responded to by someone telling them what the rules are. I would guess that very few newcomers read the "charter" : hypothesis.
In the short time I've been around "here" I have seen two or three individuals apparently get their feelings hurt or whatever after their initial posts, but, imho, in every case, the person came on the board in a state of great vulnerability, needing reassurance, were perhaps hyper-sensitive to comments, or missed the inherent humor in someone's content.
So, I do think we, as a group, all of us, need to be particularly aware of the potential vulnerability of newcomers who may be in crisis, who may need acknowledgement and support first and re-direction and re-focusing, or explanation of the "culture" (rules) of the group second.
best, Uncle Sally
Steph - 25 Aug 2007 09:23 GMT > Hi Alex, > [quoted text clipped - 15 lines] > seeking a place like this which is really quite specialized and little > known, imho, for most people. And so forth. The presence of Alex?
Alex - 25 Aug 2007 14:15 GMT > > Hi Alex, > [quoted text clipped - 19 lines] > > - Show quoted text - ??????
J - 25 Aug 2007 01:33 GMT > What's delightful to me is that this group is not over-run by trolls. > Soc.culture.thai used to be a really fun group for me to participate in : [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > posters, some of whom had mastery of the Thai language written and spoken to > a very high degree, have quit in disgust. Hope that doesn't happen here. Thanks for confirming what I've been trying to get across to her for years now. That newsgroups can be destroyed by crossposts and/or trolls. I do my best, in a variety of ways to discourage such. She does little if anything in that goal. The 2 currently crossposting are persistant and I know of no solution, until they fizzzle themselves out. "Talking" to them does no good at all. Please do not try.
The messages are down from last year http://groups.google.com/group/alt.support.cancer/about BUT, if I recall correctly every summer, there's been a lot of trouble on this newsgroup = more posts. This year I've been trying to avoid flames. Also a number of people are travelling. Mike R and Steph don't post as much. 4 or 5 regulars are on their "home" newsgroups talking about their fav topics. I've been posting less. All 'round I don't think this newsgroup's doing too badly. AND many other newsgroups, which don't have "rules" are also slow. She complains if there's too much posts, too little, whatever, she's never happy (IMO) Take care, Uncle Sally, J
Uncle Sally - 25 Aug 2007 04:17 GMT J wrote :
"All 'round I don't think this newsgroup's doing too badly. AND many other newsgroups, which don't have "rules" are also slow."
Hi J,
I agree with you about this group : I think it's doing "goodly," and even "better" than that !
The "big picture" for me is the ways we find to connect with each other and give and receive support across time, space, cultural backgrounds, lifestyles. Yes, there are some abrasions along the way, some loss-of-face (the Thai language has specific words for eight different levels of "loss of face"), some egg on face, but we rumble on, I think, to being more than the sum of our parts.
Usenet groups, regardless of charter, once on-line have no formal mechanism whatsoever for regulating content posted by folks; it's the wild-wild-west.
So to create an island of relative sanity where people in crisis, or just curious, or looking for information to help a relative or spose, can come and get acknowldedgement, support, information, referrals ... is a damn good thing.
I do think the advice to "lurk for a week" before posting, for this group, is not needed. And I do think we need to be continually aware of how newcomers to the group can be easily off-put or retreat from participation if there first post(s) are not responded to in a very welcoming way.
best, Uncle Sally
Paul - 25 Aug 2007 12:10 GMT The reason posts are dropping so drastically is due to the derogatory way that people like myself are treated when they are hoping for an open and friendly discussion about alternative (non-allopathic)ways of dealing with cancer. Some of us refuse to accept the death sentence our oncologists give us. Some of us are atheists and see no future in death. So we fight, and we fight damned hard to try and explore other avenues. In our search, we occasionally come to groups such as this in order to find like minded people for (hopefully) an exchange of views and a bit of companionship with fellow cancer victims. We soon find out our mistake. People like 'J' and steph soon make sure of that! Oh, by the way,you'll be pleased to know that I'm another one who's just given up this group as a bad job! Goodbye.
Alex - 25 Aug 2007 14:15 GMT > The reason posts are dropping so drastically is due to the derogatory way > that people like myself are treated when they are hoping for an open and [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] > Oh, by the way,you'll be pleased to know that I'm another one who's just > given up this group as a bad job! Goodbye. I can understand you feelings, Alex
Steph - 25 Aug 2007 16:38 GMT > The reason posts are dropping so drastically is due to the derogatory way > that people like myself are treated when they are hoping for an open and > friendly discussion about alternative (non-allopathic)ways of dealing with > cancer. Open? You just hear what you want to hear, and disregard the rest, as the man said
> Some of us refuse to accept the death sentence our oncologists > give us. Don't confuse your oncologist with the disease.
> Some of us are atheists and see no future in death. So we fight, > and we fight damned hard to try and explore other avenues. That's fine, but it doesn't make fairy tales any more true.
> In our search, > we occasionally come to groups such as this in order to find like minded > people for (hopefully) an exchange of views and a bit of companionship > with fellow cancer victims. We soon find out our mistake. People like 'J' > and steph soon make sure of that! Your mistake is confusing facts and fantasy.
> Oh, by the way,you'll be pleased to know that I'm another one who's just > given up this group as a bad job! Goodbye. I rest my case
J - 25 Aug 2007 19:52 GMT > The reason posts are dropping so drastically is due to the derogatory way > that people like myself are treated when they are hoping for an open and [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] > Oh, by the way,you'll be pleased to know that I'm another one who's just > given up this group as a bad job! Goodbye. I'm sorry you're angry and disappointed, Paul.
I saw this coming, from a mile away, from your first post and the webpage you posted, in that message. You're not the first to leave for those reasons. Some, or their loved ones, came back to tell us we were right. Some didn't, but I've seen their loved ones on other newsgroups. Whatever they chose "altie" did not work.
I'm sure you'll find companionship somewhere out there. I'll be here, caring. Goodbye. Take care. J PS Sorry I"m late. I've just spent hours exploring altie suggestions on a webpage Alex posted today. I've seen them all before and/or some of the people on that web page did a great job of critiquing and debunking the ones I hadn't bothered with before. I've spent many days and hours searching and coming up empty. If I knew of something "altie" or "allopathic" that would cure or extend your life, I would have told you by now.
Alex - 26 Aug 2007 03:30 GMT > > The reason posts are dropping so drastically is due to the derogatory way > > that people like myself are treated when they are hoping for an open and [quoted text clipped - 29 lines] > If I knew of something "altie" or "allopathic" that would cure or extend your > life, I would have told you by now. I did not suggest any altie groups. Sorry if you wasted your time J, when you don't have cancer may of these sites do not wanted people without cancer posting. I am saying many cancer patients are electing to go to moderated pages where there is so form of moderation, which usenet is not. For example, Jack was sent to a melonoma web site. I think it is up to the health care team who can do a clinical evaluation to tell you a treatment plan not a usenet site......
The wellness community you could not explore unless you doctor confirmed a cancer diagnosis. The other site is also for cancer patients which you do not have a cancer diagnosis.....
Uncle Sally...
Those are some of the site I would send people to....the Wellness Community is posted in most of my area hospitals.
Another site
http://www.fightingchance.org/eCounseling.php
Like in real life, you have to choose a group you feel comfortable with.....doesn't mean one is better than another. Usenet is open so you can't even be sure who you are really talking to, being faceless is a two edge sword
Alex - 25 Aug 2007 14:13 GMT > > What's delightful to me is that this group is not over-run by trolls. > > Soc.culture.thai used to be a really fun group for me to participate in : [quoted text clipped - 25 lines] > Take care, Uncle Sally, > J I have nothing against trying to limit trolls, Mike and Steph are not cancer patients. I agree the group is doing ok, and mostly by not having rules rammed down one's throat all the time.
The posts I find most interesting are from fellow cancer patients since they have walked in my shoes, Alex
csm7532@hotmail.com - 27 Aug 2007 19:45 GMT > > > What's delightful to me is that this group is not over-run by trolls. > > > Soc.culture.thai used to be a really fun group for me to participate in : [quoted text clipped - 28 lines] > I have nothing against trying to limit trolls, Mike and Steph are not > cancer patients. I also have nothing against trying to limit trolls, although I'll warn that any response to a troll is unlikely to discourage same. FWIW, whether Steph is a patient or not is immaterial to me. He's a great source of information, and interesting opinions---no need to agree with him to enjoy reading his posts. I'm not sure who you mean by Mike, so I'll not comment on that. This group isn't just for patients, but also for family & friends of patients, and for car providers. Are you trying to impose your own rules, or am I misreading you?
> I agree the group is doing ok, and mostly by not > having rules rammed down one's throat all the time. Reading posts is a great way to tell who's worth listening to, and who should be relegated to the killfile or otherwise ignored. This is harder for those without a newsreader, but still quite doable.
> The posts I find most interesting are from fellow cancer patients > since they have walked in my shoes, We all walk in our own shoes, even if we get our shoes from the same store. My experiences are unique. Having said that, I'll add that I also look for those with more similarity.
> Alex I have no intention of imposing any rule on you, but I am probably not the only one to find it occasionally confusing that some handles (yours included) seem to be shared. One option would be to add an initial, fake last name, or other word. For example, there are probably several "Sally"s here (I haven't checked), but only one Uncle Sally. If someone else used the initials CSM (either case), I'd probably change to something like "The Patient Formerly Known as CSM". Just a thought.
--- CSM
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