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Somewhat Ooff-Topic: Palliative care and suicide

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46erjoe - 19 Mar 2007 01:15 GMT
As I watched my brother die of stomach cancer, I noted that he was
being given heavy does of morphine to keep the pain down. Eventually,
a level of the drug was reached where he was no longer responding to
pain OR ANYTHING. Then recently someone told me, I don't know how much
of this is true or not, that in my brother's case, that is probably
what "took" his life - the morphine slowed his body functions down so
much that they could not continue and everything just shut down. If
this is true, then my brother did not die of his disease, but rather
from the chemicals that were being put into him.

For me this raises an important issue, namely, are we actually killing
(literally) our loved ones with kindness?  If I choose to "go" that
way, am I not choosing suicide as my means of leaving this world? This
has tremendous moral consequences for me.

Anyone?
Figgertoes - 19 Mar 2007 02:04 GMT
> As I watched my brother die of stomach cancer, I noted that he was
> being given heavy does of morphine to keep the pain down. Eventually,
[quoted text clipped - 12 lines]
>
> Anyone?

Answer ?s with other ?s?  What if it takes tremendous doses to pallitate?  
What if the patient is beyond communicating?  What if no one knows  
exactly the dosage that will keep one hovering on the living side?  What
are the other choices?  Is it suicide or murder?  Absent an autopsy, how
do we know exactly what pushed the person to the other side?  Wouldn't
autopsy be too late?

I saw this too & wondered, but whatever it took at that point I was
grateful when it happened even though it meant I wasn't there at the
time.  When a person is very close to death, do the moral distinctions
hold?  I sure don't know the answers, but these are issues you want to
consider in advance.  If there is no great pain, there would be no
problem. Socks' pain was unbearable & it sounds like Penny's was too.  We
could not know the extent of consciousness, but there seemed to be none
or little.  The look of peace on his face after death following days of
torture made me glad he was able to go,  In Socks' case, he was still
living after taking far larger doses than anyone had ever heard of of
several pain & sedation drugs.  Most people seem to slip quietly into
death, but what if it is not that easy?

Maybe Mike has some thoughts.  Have you found any writings on this?

Thinking of you,
Fig
Alex - 19 Mar 2007 02:05 GMT
> As I watched my brother die of stomach cancer, I noted that he was
> being given heavy does of morphine to keep the pain down. Eventually,
[quoted text clipped - 12 lines]
>
> Anyone?

I think some back door promises are made between patient and physician
when to call it quits. The doctors give the patients access to the
medications and let the patient decide when the time is right. I often
wrestle with this issue myself, it doesn't seem right to end one's own
life as a matter of convenience. But in the long run the cancer is
killing them, the choice is do you take medication to keep yourself
comfortable or  die a very painful death. So in answer to your
question, I think it is wrong to purposely take a  dose of whatever
drug you want for the sole purpose of ending it all but equally right
to take as much pain medication to keep yourself comfortable even if
it will hasten your own demise.

Alex
starfleet - 19 Mar 2007 08:18 GMT
46erjoe schreef:

> For me this raises an important issue, namely, are we actually killing
> (literally) our loved ones with kindness?  If I choose to "go" that
[quoted text clipped - 3 lines]
> Anyone?
>  
I don't think you can call it  suicide if  the effect of keeping  pain
under control with morphine can be one  "forgets" to breath. If it feels
like that for you you can choose to be in pain and not take morphine
an/or sleeping pills  to slip away from life unconsciously. In Holland
there is a strict line between palliative sedation and euthanasia and
for the religious people the same is true, though euthanasia is legal.
Where as with euthanasia you choose for an active ending of your life,
with sedation the goal is not to suffer. The side effect can be that one
passes on a few days earlier than without the high doses of sedatives.
There a very different goals, I think that is a crucial   difference
from a moral point of view.

Anne
Mike Radcliffe - 19 Mar 2007 09:10 GMT
> As I watched my brother die of stomach cancer, I noted that he was
> being given heavy does of morphine to keep the pain down. Eventually,
[quoted text clipped - 12 lines]
>
> Anyone?

If a doctor or anyone else kills a patient it is
murder/manslaughter/negligence or accident. If a person takes his own life
it is suicide or accident. Euthenasia is a euphemism for
murder/manslaughter. Assisted suicide is a contradiction in terms.
 There is no need, in a well run, caring health system for anyone to suffer
unbearable amounts of pain.
While a large proportion of cancer patients suffer pain it is almost always
possible to alleviate this to acceptable levels with conventional
analgaesics and almost all of the rest can be treated well with more
unconventional methods.
Where pain and other symptoms cannot be adequately controlled then the
patient has the choice to be sedated out of it but morphine would not be the
drug used to do that.
For anyone who is used to opiates, and that would be almost every cancer
patient with moderate to severe pain, it would be very difficult to attain a
lethal dose orally and the injectable dose would also need to be very large
to be certain. Despite what doctors say I am loath to believe that they kill
patients as often as they would have us believe.

 Being in the business of palliative care it happens that occasionally a
carer will ask if we have killed a patient or even accuse us if the patient
dies shortly after an injection of morphine given for pain relief. This is
just coincidence. A person in the terminal phase is likely to die any time
and this is often the time that symptoms are needing more aggressive symptom
control.

To put things into a little perspective there are many people out there
with chronic pain conditions suffering very much more pain that is often
much more difficult to control than cancer pain. The cancer patient, at
least, has an imminent end to his suffering. A 20 year old chronic back pain
patient may have no end in sight and options are less because of this.

I hope this helps.

MIKE
starfleet - 19 Mar 2007 09:21 GMT
Mike Radcliffe schreef:

> If a doctor or anyone else kills a patient it is
> murder/manslaughter/negligence or accident. If a person takes his own life
> it is suicide or accident. Euthenasia is a euphemism for
> murder/manslaughter. Assisted suicide is a contradiction in terms.
>  
I really would appreciate it if you put in an "imo" or "I think" when
you post something like this especially in this supportgroup.

Anne
J - 19 Mar 2007 10:34 GMT
> Mike Radcliffe schreef:
> >
[quoted text clipped - 7 lines]
>
> Anne

??? It's all "imo" unless it's a quote from a webpage.
Unless you mean "in my country" and specify ?
J
starfleet - 19 Mar 2007 14:51 GMT
J schreef:

> ??? It's all "imo" unless it's a quote from a webpage.
> Unless you mean "in my country" and specify ?
> J
>
>  
It's pretty common and bon ton  to present meanings as meanings and
facts as facts. Why would there exist words like "in my opnion" "I
think" "From my point of view" if we had no use for them in our
communication? To me the tone of this post would be completely different
with an "imo" or two.

Anne
J - 20 Mar 2007 22:50 GMT
> J schreef:
> >
[quoted text clipped - 9 lines]
>
> Anne

In my opinion, they're superfluous.
Just like saying "I personally believe" is.
J
starfleet - 21 Mar 2007 00:48 GMT
J schreef:

>  
>> J schreef:
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>
>  
I think isn't a pleonasm.

Anne
Figgertoes - 21 Mar 2007 08:27 GMT
>> J schreef:
>> >
[quoted text clipped - 13 lines]
> Just like saying "I personally believe" is.
> J

Hee hee, now even you are doing it!

Fig
J - 21 Mar 2007 09:21 GMT
> J <nexsw@nvalid,anon> wrote :
> <snip>
[quoted text clipped - 6 lines]
>
> Fig

It's contagious.
- -
It's like deja vu all over again.
J
Mike Radcliffe - 21 Mar 2007 06:45 GMT
>> If a doctor or anyone else kills a patient it is
>> murder/manslaughter/negligence or accident. If a person takes his own
[quoted text clipped - 5 lines]
>
> Anne

I think you will find that in all but a very few countries the authorities
would actually call the charges as I have described them. The IMO would be
your input to contradict these states of law.
MIKE
Sharon - 19 Mar 2007 22:35 GMT
Mike, Thankyou for your thoughtful answer.You helped me.
Sharon

>> As I watched my brother die of stomach cancer, I noted that he was
>> being given heavy does of morphine to keep the pain down. Eventually,
[quoted text clipped - 49 lines]
>
> MIKE
islavision2004@yahoo.com - 19 Mar 2007 19:42 GMT
> As I watched my brother die of stomach cancer, I noted that he was
> being given heavy does of morphine to keep the pain down. Eventually,
[quoted text clipped - 12 lines]
>
> Anyone?

Who is to say if palliative care shortens or lengthens a life.

I can only see withholding available drugs that relieve suffering, as
a form of torture, a cruel and horrible thing to do to someone in the
last stage of their life.

Does torture shorten or lengthen a life?

isi
Bozz - 19 Mar 2007 20:25 GMT
> As I watched my brother die of stomach cancer, I noted that he was
> being given heavy does of morphine to keep the pain down. Eventually,
[quoted text clipped - 12 lines]
>
> Anyone?

Whatever, and I mean whatever, makes it more comfortable is the route I
choose. Let those not in the situation theorise about it all. At the very
blunt end the theories are just meaningless crap.

Ian
Giuditta - 19 Mar 2007 23:59 GMT
>> As I watched my brother die of stomach cancer, I noted that he was
>> being given heavy does of morphine to keep the pain down. Eventually,
[quoted text clipped - 18 lines]
>
> Ian
My aunt was screaming, and I mean screaming and moaning and crying in pain
(stomach/kidney/bladder cancer), and the morphine dose had to be increased
to help her. I know the continued morphine in increased doses probably ended
her life, but what options did the physician have. Her grown children were
begging nurses to help make her comfortable, and they would wait on giving
her morphine as long as they could, but the last big dose did it. Her
screams ended and her peace began. We walk a fine line here.

Giuditta
J - 22 Mar 2007 07:40 GMT
> As I watched my brother die of stomach cancer, I noted that he was
> being given heavy does of morphine to keep the pain down. Eventually,
[quoted text clipped - 12 lines]
>
> Anyone?

We're biochemical beings, Joe.
Each time we breathe, there's a chemical reaction.
If this is accurate, it's the chemical makeup of the body.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chemical_makeup_of_the_human_body (some of
them are listed in our foods)
Our brain releases chemicals.
There's probably chemicals involved in the sperm fertilizing the egg, the
embryo implanting itself so it can grow and come into life.  And involved
in daily life, http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Apoptosis
"Between 50 billion and 70 billion cells die each day due to apoptosis in
the average human adult."

Cancer creates chemicals. I had a list somewhere but I can't remember
where, at the moment.

If chemicals help us live, why not let them help us die (when our bodies
can't go on anymore) ?

How'd you find the replies, Joe. Any help?
J
46erjoe - 23 Mar 2007 22:19 GMT
>> As I watched my brother die of stomach cancer, I noted that he was
>> being given heavy does of morphine to keep the pain down. Eventually,
[quoted text clipped - 33 lines]
>How'd you find the replies, Joe. Any help?
>J

Just got back from a week of radiation on my liver tumor to reduce
pain. And just finished reading these posts.

I think I should talk this over very carefully with my hospice people
(doing that this week) and let them know my wishes. I'm still plagued
by the what to do if I am in agonizing screaming God-help me pain and
my family is standing around wondering what to do. They need to know
my wishes ahead of time. Can't put a guilt trip on them.

I sill welcome more replies. I should talk this over with a clergyman.
Whoops! I am a clergyman.

joe
betsyb - 23 Mar 2007 22:39 GMT
>>> As I watched my brother die of stomach cancer, I noted that he was
>>> being given heavy does of morphine to keep the pain down. Eventually,
[quoted text clipped - 47 lines]
>
> joe

So I said to myself, self? What shall we do today!! Cripes, Joe, this is a
stinking dilemma you are finding yourself in. I wish I had words of wisdom
to impart but alas, I have none. I am constantly thinking of you and hoping
your trip  thru this mess is speedy and painless. Please be smart and put
your wishes in writing and have it notarised. Hope that is spelled
correctly, looks wrong.
I have, and my kids know and have copies. I didn't want them to get soft in
the end and mess up my trip.
This is my show and I won't have them babying out.
Take care and I wish I had pictures of your new home. I bet the scenery is
wonderful. I adore mountains.
You are in my prayers.

Betsy
starfleet - 23 Mar 2007 23:07 GMT
46erjoe schreef:

> I sill welcome more replies. I should talk this over with a clergyman.
> Whoops! I am a clergyman.
>
> joe
>
>  
Joe if you think it's okay to take a little pain medication, why would
it be wrong to take more medication for heavy pain and very heavy
medication to ease extreme pain. What is the difference from a moral
point of view? If the intention is to ease the pain and not to speed up
the end of your life it's the same as taking an aspirin when you have a
headache. You could make it very clear to your family and doctor that
you don't want more medication to shorten the dying itself but you do
want to be as comfortable as possible and that they should do whatever
they can so  you don't die in agony but with dignity.

Anne
Alayne - 24 Mar 2007 11:02 GMT
> Just got back from a week of radiation on my liver tumor to reduce
> pain. And just finished reading these posts.
[quoted text clipped - 9 lines]
>
> joe

Hi Joe,

My Tony had a GBM brain tumour and  had a few excrutiating headaches with
it.  His biggest worry was that he would go out with an almighty one when
his time came.  He spoke with his consultant at the hospice and was
reassured that should they ever not be able to gain control the pain, they
would move to sedation.  This allayed his fear.  As it turned out they had
to move to sedation for other reasons and when they lifted the sedation he
was in a coma.  It was a peaceful end Joe and nothing at all like he feared.
I felt no guilt at allowing the sedation, although it would shorten his
life, to find peace and be pain free was the aim.

Warm Hugs

Alayne
Alex - 24 Mar 2007 15:25 GMT
> >> As I watched my brother die of stomach cancer, I noted that he was
> >> being given heavy does of morphine to keep the pain down. Eventually,
[quoted text clipped - 49 lines]
>
> - Show quoted text -

When my dad was dying, we had issues that we were withdrawing life
support, which was an endotracheal tube and vent. He was in a Catholic
hospital ( he was not Catholic) but the Catholic priest and his own
orthodox priest both supported the decision, in their minds it was a
non issue. This did help us with our decision.

Also my husband had stepped out to make a phone call, and over heard
the attending doctors speak to each other and they were glad we made
the decision since the other choice was a craniotomy.

I guess I am saying even clergy need support  ask your colleagues.

Alex
Patrick Mullin - 26 Mar 2007 03:11 GMT
>>> As I watched my brother die of stomach cancer, I noted that he was
>>> being given heavy does of morphine to keep the pain down. Eventually,
[quoted text clipped - 12 lines]
>>>
>>> Anyone?

46erjoe,

I am neither medically qualified, nor a practicing churchgoer, so please
feel free to ignore me ;-)

When my father died in hospice last year, he finally asked for sedation to
"let [him] go to sleep". Now, I can see that this may be seen as
quasi-suicidal in that he wanted release from his pain and suffering. He may
have well died technically from the sedation - without a full post-mortem,
we will never know.

However, from the moral perspective, my view is that had he not made that
decision, he would have died on the same day (perhaps a different hour), but
would have died in agony, with no peace or dignity. He was always going to
die from his disease, so I cannot personally see the sin in letting him go
in peace.

I realise that your religious moral standards are probably much higher than
mine, and I respect that wholeheartedly. However, in my case, I am so
grateful that I was there to witness my Dad's death with dignity and peace,
rather than see him in pain.

At the end of the day, for me, the outcome was always going to be the same -
it was a question of how it happened.

Patrick
Alayne - 26 Mar 2007 07:59 GMT
>>>> As I watched my brother die of stomach cancer, I noted that he was
>>>> being given heavy does of morphine to keep the pain down. Eventually,
[quoted text clipped - 39 lines]
>
> Patrick

Thank you for sharing that Patrick.  I've always felt slightly guilty at
authorising my late husbands sedation (he was in a hospice with a GBM),
although I knew in my heart of hearts that it was the right thing to do.
And you're right, the goal to be achieved is peace.

Hugs

Alayne
Caz - 26 Mar 2007 09:46 GMT
>>>> As I watched my brother die of stomach cancer, I noted that he was
>>>> being given heavy does of morphine to keep the pain down. Eventually,
[quoted text clipped - 39 lines]
>
> Patrick

Very well put Patrick. My son was finally sedated, he died two days
later, but at least he died peacefully. Like your father, my sons
outcome would have been the same anyway. I was there when he died, he
just slipped away quietly, that was hard enough, I know I couldn't have
handled seeing him writhing in excruciating pain.

Best wishes to all.

Caz.
Scott's mom
J - 30 Mar 2007 11:19 GMT
> On Fri, 23 Mar 200746erjoe wrote:
> Just got back from a week of radiation on my liver tumor to reduce
[quoted text clipped - 10 lines]
>
> joe

Nothing new to add, Joe.
I don't want to take up your time if you are busy with hospice.
Just so you know we're here caring, when you or Mrs Joe has time.
Hugs to you both.
J
J - 24 Mar 2007 12:31 GMT
> As I watched my brother die of stomach cancer, I noted that he was
> being given heavy does of morphine to keep the pain down. Eventually,
[quoted text clipped - 12 lines]
>
> Anyone?

It's in your lungs, Joe.
Morphine helps with air hunger  - gasping /labored breathing.
I'm sorry. I must have a mental block - I just can't see palliation as
suicide.
I see it, but can't see it as wrong. Or unethical.
If you choose a different way, you're still making an active decision.

I've seen many of these http://www.filmakers.com/Bioethics.htm
Might be available through hospice or library

The decision might be taken from you - someone recently posted about a
cerebral bleed.
Lowkey died that way, in hospital (wasn't his wish but he was rushed there
and they operated) but could not stop the bleed.    Should such happen to
you, Joe near July 1, you might want to switch instructions, prolong as
long as possible, but we can't plan for everything.

Other parts could bleed and you (or family) could choose to do nothing to
try to stop it, but you're still "choosing"...

J
 
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