Hi Mark,

I think most people find that their partner wants to share everything and be
a part of the process. In doing so, it makes both of you stronger to deal
with the cancer.

What type of cancer do you have? Treatments?

Knowing is always better than not. Share with her as much as you can. I
think  you will find her to be a good support system.

We are here for you also!

hugs
Penny

Everyone who knew her before my illness would say that my wife was not
a strong person.  Everyone who knows her now will say that they are
amazed at how strong she's been and how well she has supported me.
Yes, she fell apart when I was first diagnosed, but, once she accepted
it and got used to it, she grew very much stronger.  We've both learned
a lot through all of this.  If you love someone, this is the kind of
stuff you need to go through together.  I understand how you feel, and
I hesitated to tell certain people, but I made a decision from the
beginning to be totally upfront with all my friends and family and
everyone without exception says they're glad I was.  I know it's a
horrible thought to let someone see you when you're really ill, but
it's amazing just how resiliant and courageous people can be when they
have to.

Hi Mark,

You're fiancee will hopefully have a great source of inner strength that
will help her and you through your situation.  Loving a person means being
there for them through thick and thin.  It's nataural that we want to
protect each other but going through this together will make things slightly
easier for both of you.

You're so right, the emotional side is the hardest part of all, but sadly it
seems part of life.

Warm Hugs to you both

Alayne