>> Hi Tara,
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> Tara
Hi Tara,
Glad that my blog could be of some help.
I know that it is very common to be misdiagnosed with lung cancer. My GP and
I looked at asthma, allergies, then it looked like pnuemonia from the x-ray,
after two bouts of antibiotics, a CT scan was ordered and that's when we
finally realized it was cancer. Actually my GP said after the second dose of
antibiotics that she was concerned about cancer and ordered the CT scan.
It's unfortunate but understandable. I believe my GP did the best that she
could do.
Please ramble all you want! :) I think most would agree that that is what
this ng is for. :)
Enjoy your visit and let us know how it went upon your return.
My thoughts and prayers will be with you!
hugs,
Penny
> Thank you so much, J and Penny for your replies. They were most
> helpful! It sounds as though this new chemo is really a shot in the
> dark, given the fact that the tumors increased in size so quickly.
When I look back at that info I posted, it looks (to me) that's she
refractory.
It's hard to know since we don't have the details of her trial, but the
words of the first website echo in my brain. That Province has the best cure
rates or equal to all of North America and it was pretty clear about
topotecan and SCLC. So really the benefits are ? advancing science and
possibly extending her llife a bit by being in the trial with closer
monitoring vs chemo outside a clinical trial, vs hospice care (help with
symptooms from her doctor) and living her life in whatever way she would
normally or travelling or finishing projects or however she wants to spend
the rest of her life (ie how she defines quality of life). Perhaps when you
visit you'll have a chance for such discussions.
> After reading about your radiation, I am wondering why Mom wasn't given
> that option. Maybe it has to do with where the tumor is located in the
> lung? I have no idea exactly where hers is.
Possibly - location can make a difference. You say "tumors" - perhaps it's
not possible (would do more harm than good).
or possibly she consulted an oncologist but not a radiation oncologist.
Or possibly she has more confidence in chemo, a lot of people hear cancer
and automatically think chemo. When you go, if she's coughing, tell her
about Penny and ask her if she's consulted a radiation oncologist.
> Penny, I have read most of the entries on your blog...first, I must say
> thank you for sharing!!! It is very helpful for me, the daughter of
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> it. I won't really even be thinking about it, and then a memory of
> something Mom did years ago will pop in my head.
Still happens to me sometimes, especially when replying to females about
lung cancer.
It was years ago now, but mom was diagnosed ~5 weeks before she died.
She'd had a cough for years. She ate like a bird, for years, so some weight
loss wasn't noticed.
And her breathing troubles were attributed to the smoking.
Doesn't matter anyway. I know (she had chronic pain problems and other
health issues) she had a good and fairly long life and would never have been
able to cope with treatments. It was for the best, but I still miss her at
times. We never forget, do we?
> Then it's right there again.
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> chest xray, they told her it was probably nothing and that they would
> check again in 3 months.
Somewhere in the archives is an article about the dilemna of a solitary
nodule.
If you use those two last words here
http://groups-beta.google.com/advanced_search?q=&\
(by date) you'll see this post and probably a few others and will find the
long article.
> Looking back, I see the symptoms so clearly
> and wonder how they could have missed them: severe coughing, numerous
> bouts of bronchitis, weight loss, etc. etc. Why did they not test
> sooner? I have read so many posts from folks who went through the same
> things before they were diagnosed. I don't know that it would have
> changed anything, but maybe she would have more time.
Well, based on what you've told us, my prediction is she would have been on
chemo longer and gotten sicker and her quality of life would have been
worse.
> I have learned to
> let that go, and know that I just have to live day-to-day. It's hard
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> is in total denial over this and we can't really talk about it with her
> at all.
Well, many of us have difficulty accepting that our loved one will die
someday.
Happened with me, many times, most recently with Dad.
Even with pets, it's a battle of not wanting to let go and not wanting them
to suffer.
> We feel pretty alone a lot of the time and overwhelmed by the
> thoughts of what will eventually happen.
Well, you're not alone anymore, because most of us here understand.
> My boyfriend, Nick, and I are going up to NC to see Mom next week. She
> has never met him, and I want her to. We'll stay Thursday - Sunday, and
> then I'll plan another trip in February. It's so easy to get caught up
> in day to day life..before you know, one day has faded into the next,
> and then another month has gone by. It is so easy to take all of this
> for granted and forget that each moment is precious!
So true. Good idea about the visits. Make memories to last a lifetime and
take photos.
> I will stop rambling now...thank you so much for listening and sharing.
We'll be here, caring.
Hugs
J