 |
 | Home | Contact Us | FAQ | Search & Site Map | Link to Us |
 | Sign In | Join | Other 45 Sites in Network |
Medical Forum / Diseases and Disorders / Cancer / August 20052nd Anniversary
RIP Tony 28.08.03 Dearly loved and still not forgotten Alayne, Kelly & Nikki > RIP Tony 28.08.03 > > Dearly loved and still not forgotten > > Alayne, Kelly & Nikki ( ( ( ( Alayne, Kelly & Nikki ) ) ) ) J totallyfake@emailaddress.com said... > RIP Tony 28.08.03 > > Dearly loved and still not forgotten > > Alayne, Kelly & Nikki {{{{{Hugs}}}}} to you all. It's hard to believe that two years have gone by. With love  SignatureEmily > totallyfake@emailaddress.com said... > > RIP Tony 28.08.03 [quoted text clipped - 7 lines] > > With love Thanks J, Em, Fig and Pam. Twas a funny ole day really. The adage "time heals" certainly seems to ring true. I know that I was distracted with organising the rally and I also was busy with a couple of chaps moving my shed; but the day seemed pretty much like any other and the horrendous sobs of last year didn't fall. I did take the girls out to buy a couple of roses for the memorial but it's weird, I almost felt guilty that I wasn't sad. Hmmm. Warm Hugs Ladies Alayne totallyfake@emailaddress.com said... > the day seemed pretty much > like any other and the horrendous sobs of last year didn't fall. You're starting to live again. > I did take the girls out to buy a couple of roses for the memorial but it's > weird, I almost felt guilty that I wasn't sad. Hmmm. Don't feel guilty; it's a perfectly normal sign that you're getting yourself together again and moving on. I don't mean that you'll ever forget Tony; rather that you are able to focus on other things now. Next year will probably be even easier. There will always be times when the tears /do/ fall - just you wait until one of the girls gets married, for instance, or they get good exam results at school and they want to share them with their dad... But by and large I think your reaction this year was a healthy one, and as I said before, perfectly normal. SignatureI try to be a good example to my children, but they just see me as a dire warning. > totallyfake@emailaddress.com said... > > the day seemed pretty much [quoted text clipped - 13 lines] > share them with their dad... But by and large I think your reaction > this year was a healthy one, and as I said before, perfectly normal. Goodness me, first time in my life I've ever reacted "normally" ;-) Yes, time certainly does seem to heal and on a day to day basis that's great, I have no misconceptions that there may be other hurdles to overcome and strewth kindly don't talk to me about my children getting married ;-) at 10 and 13 I hope that I have many a year to go before that little number, and no doubt numerous candidates on my doorstep before then, all of which will have to pass the test naturally..... hee hee.... (sooo lookin forward to it). I did grin to myself a bit on Saturday though, one of the guys from the club came round, just for a bit of a yarn, nothing untoward occuring. For some strange reason MIL decides to call (on her way to dancing, not to be sociable mind) and if looks could kill ;-) I almost felt as though I should have made introductions and set her mind at rest, but fortunately, the better part of me overcame myself, and thought, no blast it, let her come to her own conclusions (slap my wristies!) But thank you Em for taking the time to say that I'm "normal", now I'll have to go and rectify that..... Warm Hugs Alayne totallyfake@emailaddress.com said... [snip] > But thank you Em for taking the time to say that I'm "normal", now I'll have > to go and rectify that..... Good for you :-)) See? You're learning to live again. It takes time, but it happens. We don't forget people after they die, and nor would we want to - but the pain gets less so it gets easier to live with. Now then, what /are/ you going to do with those ducks? :-)) SignatureI try to be a good example to my children, but they just see me as a dire warning. > totallyfake@emailaddress.com said... > [quoted text clipped - 7 lines] > It takes time, but it happens. We don't forget people after they die, > and nor would we want to - but the pain gets less so it gets easier to Yep, and I actually take it as a bit of a turning point. First year: major tear flow at every opportunity. Second year: reality sets in and although tears lessened in frequency seemed "deeper" somehow. Now entering third year and all the triggers such as anniversaries etc. have two years worth of memories of doing something different which begin to outway painful memories (if you see what I mean ;-) > live with. > > Now then, what /are/ you going to do with those ducks? :-)) Hook - shoelace - elastic band?? Warm Hugs Alayne totallyfake@emailaddress.com said... > > It takes time, but it happens. We don't forget people after they die, > > and nor would we want to - but the pain gets less so it gets easier to > > live with. > Yep, and I actually take it as a bit of a turning point. First year: major > tear flow at every opportunity. Second year: reality sets in and although > tears lessened in frequency seemed "deeper" somehow. Now entering third > year and all the triggers such as anniversaries etc. have two years worth of > memories of doing something different which begin to outway painful memories > (if you see what I mean ;-) Yes, I know /exactly/ what you mean. And it sounds quite normal and healthy to me. > > Now then, what /are/ you going to do with those ducks? :-)) > > Hook - shoelace - elastic band?? O-K... And what (if I dare ask) are the victims likely to be required to do with them?? I do hope someone's got a camera handy when the time comes - and access to a computer... ;-) SignatureI try to be a good example to my children, but they just see me as a dire warning. > totallyfake@emailaddress.com said... > > > It takes time, but it happens. We don't forget people after they die, [quoted text clipped - 18 lines] > to do with them?? I do hope someone's got a camera handy when the time > comes - and access to a computer... ;-) Simple, attach shoe lace with hook on via elastic band to nether regions, stand in front of bucket with water containing hooked rubber ducks (one bucket each, was going to do paddling pool but logistical nightmare being on stage with PA and how would I remove through massive throng of spectators). First one to hook (hands behind back) all ducks in bucket is Mr Rally 2005!! At least it sounds easy but not having the necessary equipment myself I shall have to collar one of the lads to do a trial run ;-) Every year I have to delve deep into my brain cells for ideas, hopefully all should go well, that is if I actually get any volunteers that trust me after the chilli last year ;-) If someone manages to get their act together and take plenty of photos. you might eventually even see moi nestled in the Virgin Pot. As a gesture and cos it is our 10th Rally all Tiger Committee are going to get back some of what they have given over the years (I'm a bit anxious as I am not buying the ingredients this year, but shucks should have known better it was my idea!) > I try to be a good example to my children, but they just see me as a > dire warning. Warm Hugs Em and apologies to all that may have lost the plot with this thread ;-) Alayne "Alayne" <totallyfake@emailaddress.com> wrote in news:hDfQe.2230$Ys5.566 @newsfe7-gui.ntli.net: > RIP Tony 28.08.03 > > Dearly loved and still not forgotten > > Alayne, Kelly & Nikki And he will be remembered by me through you... I hope you do something nice for yourself today. (((Alayne Kelly Nikki))) Fig > RIP Tony 28.08.03 > > Dearly loved and still not forgotten > > Alayne, Kelly & Nikki ((((((((((HUGS)))))))))) Pam S. who admires all of you greatly |
Reply to this Message |
 Sign In
 Join
 My Latest Posts My Monitored Threads My Blog My Photo Gallery My Profile My Homepage Start New Thread Enable EMail Alerts Rate this Thread
|
©2008 Advenet LLC Privacy Policy - Terms of Use
This website includes both content owned or controlled by Advenet as well as content owned or controlled by third parties.