I'm sorry to hear that Joe, it must be tough on you and your family.  I hope
the surgery goes well tommorrow and my thoughts are with you.

Warm Hugs

Alayne

Joe

I am so sorry to hear of your brother's diagnosis. This must be a terrible
time for your family.

Easier said than done, I know, but try not to look at him and think this is
what is coming to you. Keep positive about your treatment.

I cannot understand how you must feel, I lost my Dad but I do not have
cancer myself. All I know is that you never regret spending time with your
loved ones - the memories are so precious once they are gone. Bizarrely
enough, as a family we had lots of good times, but some of the funniest and
most special are from when Dad was near the end. He tried to make it as
painless as possible for us, nothing was left unsaid and no one was in any
doubt as to how much he loved us (or indeed as to how much we loved him).

You are fighting battles on all sides at the moment, remember to look after
yourself too.

Take care
Sinead

nobody@nospam.com said...

{{{{{Hugs}}}}}

Words fail.

what does CRC stand for?

Hugs Joe, Hold onto hope,
maybe with the right surgery, they'll find a way to buy him quality time.
They did with fred's mother, so hold onto hope.
Hugs
J

My father died on Apr 1 from complications due to pneumonia, diabetes, and
alzheimers.  Meanwhile, I have an estimated 5 months left from NSCLC Stage
IV that I have been fighting since May, 2001.  I alsao had an uncle die of
lung cancer, so chances are there is a genetic pattern that might land one
of my sisters or brothers in the hospital at some point. I think I know
some part of what you're going through, except my dad died pretty much
without warning. the various dieseses ganged up on his heart, and it just
quit on him.

My mother was close to breaking down a few times while I was home visiting
for the funeral.  One night she did, in fact.  I've also seen high stress
levels in my wife a few times.  Those of us actually dying seem to have an
easier time of it than the people who have to watch us.  We've mostly
reached acceptence.  I even managed to talk about dying to a State Senate
committee last week without breaking down, but one of the Senators started
crying.  She didn't even know me, except maybe in passing.

There is really nothing to be done but psychological counseling. I started
getting it within weeks of being diagnosed.  I'm sure that this has helped
with my acceptance of fate.  You may want to consider the same.  I only
wish that I could talk my wife into it, but she's still in denial.