Hello Folks, it's been a while since I last posted.  My father passed
away on Nov 15 (2 months from diagnosis of Primary Liver w/mets to
lungs and abdomin). He passed away fairly peacefully and was surrounded
by family. His pain and symptoms were managed very well by the
palliative care team which I'm very thankful for.  They were awesome.

About 4 days from his death there was a noticable change in his
symptoms. He began vomiting old blood. This did not really bother him
which I'm thankful for although it was tough for people to see.  He did
this about 4 times within about a day and did not do this anymore.  He
was not concious for about 3 days after. During this 3 days he did have
a bit of congestion but medication worked great at clearing this up.

On the last day about 6 hours before he passed you could see signs of
the impending.  His palms and ears became darker which is a sign of
less circulation.  It end with 2 changes in facial expression - kindof
like slight grimaces or changes in facial expressions and his breathing
stopped. There was not a noticeble last breath or anything.

Unfortunately I was a bit of a mess. I think I spent so much time
researching this and that and trying to make things better for him that
I wasn't really prepared for this even though I knew it was going to
happen. It's totally not like me but I'm fairly sure I was the worst at
handling this initially. I know he's in a better place, however, I just
wish he wasn't there yet and was here cancer free.

Thanks to everyone for you help - you are awesome people.

I'm back in Ontario again and back at my work. My employer was awesome
at supporting me during this time - I own them some long hours for this
in the future.

Unfortunately my wife's sister in law was diagnosed with Cancer in the
bones, liver and lungs 2 weeks after my father died. She had breast
cancer 5 years ago and this summer they had thought they had beat it.
Of course this meant she stopped taking tomoxifin, which you have to
question the coincidence between this and the sudden reoccurance.  She
has 3 kids ranging from 7 - 14 so it's going to be tough days ahead.
She is on chemo right now, however from what I know it seems like there
is not much chance of good that can come out of this.
Merry Christmas (or Happy Holidays) to all,

Andrew