>As strange as it might sound, some lymphomas can land just about
>anywhere. I think that typically it'w w/in the lymph system, but
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>>Frank (aka) "stewburner"
Thank You
Larry I will do just that I know it is ok to be scared but it will not
control my life I will beat this and then it is on to better things.
I am so upset for my spouse also I do not know who it is harder on
me or her, she has no real support group here, her family lives three
states away my lives 12 hours away she I know can use a shoulder to cry
on also this is so unfair for her.
Frank (aka) "stew"
Alayne - 07 Apr 2004 09:37 GMT
> Thank You
> Larry I will do just that I know it is ok to be scared but it will not
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> Frank (aka) "stew"
Frank, does your spouse have access to the computer? She could post here
and I am sure would receive a lot of support from us. It is very hard being
the wife of a cancer patient because we have not only the illness/husband to
deal with but certain fears concerning the future, should it not be beaten.
I for one, would be pleased to offer any words of support that I can having
been in a similar situation myself.
Hugs
Alayne
stew - 07 Apr 2004 12:10 GMT
>> Thank You
>> Larry I will do just that I know it is ok to be scared but it will not
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>Alayne
Thank You
I will let her know I am sure she would appreciate it,
Frank (aka) "stew"
Daffman - 07 Apr 2004 13:59 GMT
I second that. Wholeheartedly
Salisha
LarryM - 07 Apr 2004 17:28 GMT
>Larry I will do just that I know it is ok to be scared but it will not
>control my life I will beat this and then it is on to better things.
Channel that fear. It's all energy - positive or negative - it's up
to you to shape it! Fear in me became anger, then it turned to
laughter, and that in turn gave me strength!
>I am so upset for my spouse also I do not know who it is harder on
>me or her, she has no real support group here, her family lives three
>states away my lives 12 hours away she I know can use a shoulder to cry
>on also this is so unfair for her.
I was so struck at my wife, who usually looks up to me. We're on
equal footing, however I think she likes to depend on me. At least
thats how I felt. But when I was diagnosed, she became a rock that I
could lean on every moment of every day. When I cried, she wiped my
tears and smiled! I saw so much in her during that time, it was just
incredible! She's so wonderful! And like you, I felt it was so
unfair. It was June and we canceled our wedding in October, honeymoon
and all, and we were married in two weeks - post op, pre chemo! Every
little girl dreams of her perfect wedding - and her plans were tossed
out just like that.
Yet she sighed, smiled, and regrouped....and stood by my side all the
way!
Maybe you can arrange a day at the spa for her? A facial and a
massage, a little pampering - might be good to drain off a little
stress.
What about family oriented support groups? Not all are focused on
just the patient....as like it or not, we're all in this together!
--
Larry
www.gotCancer.org - Laughing in cancer's face!