Hi Sinead,

It's strange how we watch the months so closely when we have lost someone
isn't it.  We mark their passing by the months when we never quite did so
when they were around.  Personally, I can't stand the 28th anymore (Tony had
a seizure on the 28th May 02, hosp. admittance 28th Oct 02, hospice
re-admittance 28th July 03 and then passed away 28th August 03) and yet I
can't quite believe that next Sunday (yep, the 28th again!) he will have
been gone for seven months now.  I feel rather peculiar as the 28th
approaches and yet on the 29th everything is nearly okay again!!

I would like to think that our loved ones are somewhere around, I am a bit
of a cynic though.  I was a bit "spooked" a while back when I was trying to
decide on what bands to book for our bike rally and had been listening to a
couple of CDs, at about 12.30 that night the CD player started up, at first
I thought that it was someone in a car outside and then wondered downstairs
following the noise, as I turned the light on, it blew.... so there I am
fumbling around in the dark whilst music is rock blaring out! I questioned
both my girls but they profusely denied it.  I then started thinking that
perhaps Tony was trying to give me some input (he always used to organise
the bands) and was actually a little bit disappointed to discover that Kelly
had inadvertently turned the timer on the CD player!  But it all brought a
smile to my face.

As long as we have our memories, I am sure that they won't be that far away.

Take care now and Big Hugs

Alayne

Dear Sinead,

Thank you for sharing these precious moments with us. I too lost my Dad to
cancer on June 26th. I'm happy that I had time to tell him good bye and how
much I loved him ( things that I had never done before, because it was not
in his or my education to say such things ), but I still miss him a lot. I
hope he will send me a sign one day, like I'm sure your Dad did.

Much love,
Regine

Hi
My name is Betty and I just lost my husband to lung cancer March 5th.
What a terriable feeling it is to loose someone you love with all your
heart. we been together for 16year's and my heart is just broken. but I
know he is in a better place and will suffer no more. my heart goes out
to you and every one else who has lost some one to soon.
Betty