hello Norman,
there's a group for partners here http://www.acor.org/mailing.html?l=b
It's a private email list - click on the group and "join" and a
"listowner"/moderator will email you as to when you start sending and
receiving messages (and access the archives).

I'm not sure if they hide the email address when you send a message. If
unsure, email the list owner first and ask. Instructions are in the FAQ. If
you don't want your email address shown, and they do, you may wish to open a
throwaway account such as at yahoo.
HTH
J

The wellness community has caregiver support groups.
http://www.thewellnesscommunity.org/default.asp

There are some men/carers posting here too, who talk about these subjects.

Tim Jackson