My best to you, Bea. - Tony

Congratulations !

Jayu

Just because we didn't post it, doesn't mean some of us  were not
thinking the same thing, Maria.  What concerns me most is not that the
other spouse wants to go on with their life (as well they should) but
that Tony made the "memory" remark.   Replacing the deceased spouse is
ok with me but not wanting to remember the spouse is very very sad, in
my opinion.  

I have people in my life who are deceased but my memories of them make
them just as real to me as they were when they had physical bodies.  I
guess not everyone believes that the spirit survives like I do.   Too
bad because they are missing out on a very important part of our
existence and what makes us who we really are.

Bea

I mainly lurk in this group.  When I read what Tony wrote, I hesitated over
his comment about holding onto memories forever.  Thinking about it, I don't
really believe that he means never thinking about his deceased wife.. I
think he means keeping the memories the forefront of his life.. like my
uncle is doing.. he goes to the grave site every day.  My aunt died over 5
years ago.  He has never missed a day.  There is a more positive way you
could look at it though.  His wife made him so happy and certainly kept
their marriage alive when so many marriages go a bit sour, that he willing
to take another chance at it so soon.

Debbie

Tony
Best of luck to you and your new wife.
much happiness to you both!!!!
you will be missed
I am a lurker who loved your posts and
mourned with you when you had the
loss of your beautiful wife .
Love Cathi