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Medical Forum / Diseases and Disorders / Breast Cancer / October 2004just found out
i have breast cancer i'm having a hard time dealing with it.I want to talk about it then i dont it is 4am i cant stop thinking about it .no one in my family had or has it so i dont know how i got it . Thank goodness it is caught in the early stages i go back for some more surgery next week the dr is going to remove more tissuse and then i go for radiation therapy.i have a good dr he has explain things to me and my husband i just cant seem to get a grip on this . > i have breast cancer i'm having a hard time dealing with it.I want to > talk about it then i dont it is 4am i cant stop thinking about it .no [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > for radiation therapy.i have a good dr he has explain things to me and > my husband i just cant seem to get a grip on this . Breast cancer can happen to anyone, there often is no identifiable 'cause'. Even when all the known risk factors are taken into account, no-one can explain more than about 50% of cases, the rest just strike at random. And the biggest known risk factors are being a woman, and life itself, simply aging, and there is nothing you can do to avoid those. Fortunately having caught it early, you have every chance of making a complete recovery. It's a pity you have to have more surgery, but these things happen, and I expect you will soon be able to put the whole episode behind you, and only have a scar to remember it by. Tim Jackson. Tim is absolutely right. There is no point in asking the question "why me" because this is so random. It is a very positive thing that it was caught early; and once you are done with your treatment, I am sure you will hardly think about it. Cheers. Jayashree > > i have breast cancer i'm having a hard time dealing with it.I want to > > talk about it then i dont it is 4am i cant stop thinking about it .no [quoted text clipped - 16 lines] > > Tim Jackson. > i have breast cancer i'm having a hard time dealing with it.I want to > talk about it then i dont it is 4am i cant stop thinking about it .no [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > for radiation therapy.i have a good dr he has explain things to me and > my husband i just cant seem to get a grip on this . ---------- Hi Diane-- I am going through something similar--"No one in my family ever had it, I don't smoke, I don't take hormones, why did this happen to me?" At 4 a.m. you can't pick up the phone and call a friend or family member, but do it as soon as you can. Ask them about *their* life. You will feel like you are still a part of the world, and you will know that others care about you, and this will make you feel much better for a while. At least it works for me. The only thing is, when people tell you "You have to have a positive attitude!" take it with a grain of salt. No, you don't *have* to have a positive attitude 24/7. You don't have to be a cockeyed optimist. What you do have to do is learn all you can about the disease and its treatment so that you can make the decisions that will help you survive and be healthy. All the best, Eva > The only thing is, when people tell you "You have to have a positive > attitude!" take it with a grain of salt. No, you don't *have* to have a > positive attitude 24/7. You don't have to be a cockeyed optimist. What you > do have to do is learn all you can about the disease and its treatment so > that you can make the decisions that will help you survive and be healthy. > All the best, Eva so true. it used to bug the * out of me when people said that to me. a positive attitude will help you a great deal, but nobody can be positive 24/7. it would be weird and unhealthy. yes, we are still normal people with the inherent normal range of emotions. that's what living is, yes? :) Thinking of you Diane and sending up positive thoughts for a complete recovery. Rhonda > i have breast cancer i'm having a hard time dealing with it.I want to > talk about it then i dont it is 4am i cant stop thinking about it .no [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > for radiation therapy.i have a good dr he has explain things to me and > my husband i just cant seem to get a grip on this . >> i have breast cancer i'm having a hard time dealing with it.I want to >> talk about it then i dont it is 4am i cant stop thinking about it .no [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] >> for radiation therapy.i have a good dr he has explain things to me and >> my husband i just cant seem to get a grip on this . Hi Diane, Try to find out if your area has a breast cancer support group of any kind. The oncologist's office might know, or the onc.dept. of your hospital, or even the phone book. They may have someone you can talk to right away, who has already been through this. My hospital is trying to get funding to hire someone who will offer support to anyone with breast cancer just as soon as they are diagnosed, even on a Sunday. That would have been a help to me. I was alone, and given four days to decide between a lumpectomy and mastectomy. I spent the whole four days crying and thinking I was going to die. I'm fine now, after 2.5 years. I even have some good memories about the whole thing. The radiation treatment is nothing to worry about. It doesn't hurt. Most people have no after-effects at all, some have something like a sunburn. You will meet nice people and caring staff. Marilyn >>>i have breast cancer i'm having a hard time dealing with it. > > Try to find out if your area has a breast cancer support group of any > kind. The oncologist's office might know, or the onc.dept. of your > hospital, or even the phone book. They may have someone you can talk > to right away, who has already been through this. In some areas (in the U.S.), the American Cancer Society has a program called "Reach to Recovery", where those newly-diagnosed with breast cancer can ask to be matched with a trained volunteer who is a breast cancer survivor. Where this program exists, it can be very helpful, too. Ann T. Remove 'dontsendspam' from address to reply by email Diane, I know this message is a little late as you had posted on Oct 21. Hope you are doing better. I know how you feel. I've been fighting this disease for 5 years and have been in treatment of some kind all those five years with the exception of about 18 months. It wears you down emotionally and physically and you wonder if you can make it to the triumphant day when your doctor says there is no sign of disease. There are people you don't even know who pray for your healing and for strength to come your way. Believe that you can make it through the roughest times. Do you have a strong spiritual faith? Just hold on to that faith, knowing there is something greater and higher than us who is in control, and that strength is handed down to us. Remember all the knowledge your doctors and other treatment folks have and how much they want to help you get well. Alwqays put your arms around someone you love when the days are too difficult to bear alone. Love and sharing can help heal the fear. Janice A. Stage IV Metastatic Breast CA |
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